Psychometrics can be key in understanding ourselves in general. However, they become particularly illuminating when we seek to understand toxic dynamics with narcissists.

I was delighted to interview Dr Stewart Desson, CEO and Founder of Lumina Learning, the psychometrics tool I use with my clients.

A few features I particularly like with Lumina are:
- a breakdown into 8 aspects of personality
- each divided in 24 qualities
- each divided into three "personas": when we are relaxed, how ever are everyday, and when we are stressed
- aspects and qualities are NOT mutually exclusive: we can score high both on introversion AND extraversion, or on logic AND empathy.

I hope you enjoy this interview - I found Stewart fascinating.

To learn more about Lumina Learning and the free Splash app (low resolution portrait), visit: https://luminalearning.com

068. Toxic People Know How to Keep Us Off Balance: Psychometrics and Narcissism (Dr Stewart Desson)

Narcissists manipulate others using toxic ideas. In this podcast, we decode narcissists and how they operate, we expose and deconstruct toxic ideas, and we learn how to negotiate effectively with narcissists. And, last but not least, we learn to break the toxic patterns during and after relationships, disinfect mental wounds and heal, so we can have a happy life afterwards and limit the damage narcissists inflict upon us.

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Toxic people and narcissists are often mean. And then nice. Or first nice, and then mean. And it seems to make no sense. But there is a really good reason why they act this way. And it probably explains why those relationships are doomed for failure.

102. Why Are Narcissists Mean (and Then Nice)?

Everyone makes bad decisions sometimes. So it’s easy to assume that all bad decisions are « good faith bad decisions ». But narcissists game this. And we can figure out when. In this episode, I share how.

101. Clumsy or Self Sabotage: Decoding Narcissist’s « I was unlucky » narrative

Narcissists are a bad deal. So let's see if tools used to analyse deals can help us identify toxic relationships and make more sense of why they are such a... bad deal.




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100. What Does A Risk / Reward Analysis of Toxic Relationships and Narcissists Show?

It is increasingly common for people to think like narcissists. And until we're aware of what that looks like, there is a risk we do too. We know narcissists have a simplistic view of the world. Here is how you can spot a "narclogic view", why it is nonsense, how you can debunk it (if you need to) and how you can avoid getting caught up in exhausting narcissist games.




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099. Recognising (And Debunking) Narc Logic

I read the introduction to my upcoming book regarding common mistakes people make about narcissism, which prevent them from healing and getting their lives back on track. I share a bit of my backstory and some thoughts about why this is important.

068. Toxic People Know How to Keep Us Off Balance: Psychometrics and Narcissism (Dr Stewart Desson)

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