For too long, conversations about fatherhood have focused on what men should do. When in reality, we need to be focusing on what men feel. What are the unknown and unspoken feelings that fathers carry? How have these feelings shaped their behaviors? After years of raising his teenagers and being a parent, Scott Rammage looked deeply at himself as a father, and what he didn't see surprised him.

When you look at your upbringing and the family system from a different perspective, you'll see that it was creating happiness, that it was creating trauma, that it was creating success, that it was creating struggle—which is what you're looking for to become successful. All of it is the variety of life that shaped who you are. It's not necessarily always good or bad, but it's important to see.

Because if we don't understand what happened to us, then how can we control what's happening with our kids? Our children are humans themselves, growing more into the human beings they’re meant to be, just like we all are, whether we know it or not.

And that therein is the challenge: Meeting your kids exactly where they are at moments in their life.

There are many ways about this but it all starts with yourself. As long as we live in truth, love, and sincerity — this is regardless of whether we think we’ve already arrived as parents — living with integrity will make life much easier for both yourself and those around you (whether they know it too or not).

There are ways that don’t serve your children, but there are no right ways. There’s just the way that serves them. This can be daunting to figure out for any parent or father. Fortunately, you are not alone. There are fathers all over the world with similar goals that you can connect with in our community, join us and check out similar episodes like 173 and 209

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