In this solo episode, I’m sharing some recent experiences and reflections around the way we talk to ourselves — especially when we’re overthinking, doubting ourselves, or being much harsher on ourselves than we would ever be with someone we love.

I also talk about quitting, failure, and the fear of feeling embarrassed when something doesn’t go the way we hoped. Since self-discovery, confidence, courage, and life advice are recurring themes in my conversations with guests, I thought it would be interesting to bring those reflections into a solo episode.

This is a personal one — about learning to be kinder to yourself, reframing failure, and remembering that trying something that doesn’t work does not make you a failure.

Links/ References:

• Book - Let Your Mind Run
• Book - Atomic Habits
• Book in Portuguese - Vertigem
• My Substack article about inner conversations
• Episodes mentioned: #38 & 41

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Urmi Hossain carries at least three identities as an immigrant woman: she introduces herself as Italian by birth, Bengali by blood, and Canadian by law. From that line alone, you can already imagine how much of her life has been shaped by living in between worlds.

Born and raised in a small town in Italy to Bangladeshi parents, Urmi grew up navigating a strict upbringing, different cultures — one at home and another outside — and expectations that didn’t always leave room for her to be fully herself.

Later, Urmi moved to Canada, where she found more diversity and the space to grow into her plural identity. She also built a career in finance, a male-dominated industry where she carved out her own path while continuing to explore identity, belonging, and women’s empowerment.

In this episode, we talk about what it means to grow up between cultures and constantly negotiate who you are and her experience back in Italy and how moving to Canada gave her space to grow and embrace her plural identity. She also shares valuable lessons on how to invest in herself, her confidence, and her future.

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• LinkedIn

• YouTube channel

• Podcast - Stories Beyond Borders

• Book — Discovering Your Identity, available on Amazon

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Maria Sakr has always occupied that “in-between” place that a lot of transplants know so well. She was raised in Dubai by her Lebanese parents, surrounded by a Lebanese community, fascinated by books thanks to her mother, and introduced to the art of photography through her father, who documented the Lebanese Civil War with his own camera.

Then, when it was time to go to college, she experienced a return to her origins, moving to Lebanon to study film and starting her professional life while figuring out her next steps. That journey would eventually culminate in her moving to New York City to pursue a master’s in creative writing — another one of her creative passions.

The beginning in the Big Apple was definitely not easy, and when COVID hit, she reconnected with photography again. Maria started to build a portfolio and book gigs, and what started out of necessity became a career. Today, she is a multifaceted photographer, working on everything from weddings to celebrities — and even a Rolling Stone magazine cover.

In this conversation, we talk about growing up between cultures, the shock of building a life in New York, imposter syndrome, creative ambition, motherhood, and why sometimes the best advice really is: just do the thing.

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• Instagram @mariagryff

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While living in rural Massachusetts, Lauren Aloise would travel the world in her imagination by exploring travel magazines. Her trips to New York City to visit family were another opportunity to see how differently people could live. That curiosity led Lauren to do a summer program in Sicily, Italy, when she was 17. While many of her friends were spending their money on cars, she decided to spend hers learning Italian abroad.

Later, while trying to get a job in the hospitality industry during the Great Recession — not exactly an amazing time for the American economy — Lauren received an email about the “aux” program, an opportunity to live in Spain for a year and teach English. She decided to say yes and moved to Seville, where she met her husband while doing a language exchange. What was supposed to be one year eventually became a new life abroad.

Lauren quickly realized she was not cut out for the teaching world, so she decided to leverage her passion for food and explore different ideas. She created a blog, started hosting cooking classes at her place, and one day stumbled upon the idea of creating food tours. That’s how Devour Tours was born — a food tour company that later grew across Europe.

In this episode, we talk about how that trip to Sicily changed her perspective on the world, and the events that led her to create Devour Tours and how she leveraged her passion for food, had a good eye for opportunity, and later made the decision to sell the company and eventually leave. We also talked about the identity shift that came with motherhood, her reflections on that transition, and how she is now thinking about her next steps.

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Leah Alexander is an American artist based in Paris. But it took her a long time and some serious life decisions to the point she could call herself that. Art had been part of Leah’s life since she was a kid - but she never really knew that it could be a career, so she did what a lot of us do: she chose a “safe” path and, for 15 years, she built a successful career - and, during that period that she never pick up a paint brush. We can't say this career was bad though. At the end of the day, it was the reason why Leah ended up moving to Paris, France - the place she still calls home and where everything started to shift. A series of events led her to question her life - she was burned out and signed up for an art retreat. And then, she realized life is short, so she quit her job to pursue art full-time.

In this episode, we talked about her journey, the pressure to choose a “practical” career, what it means to come back to a part of yourself you almost forgot, the loneliness of becoming an artist and entrepreneur, and how community helped her keep going. Leah also shares how moving abroad changed her, and her advice for anyone who is scared to take a risk, but also scared of never trying.

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Jasmine Wu had never traveled outside Asia when she decided to take a gap year. She was not even planning to travel during that period - the idea was just chill. Until an invite from a friend to go to Disneyland changed everything. Jasmine ended up exploring different places in the U.S. and in Europe and that journey changed the way she saw the world and herself. Suddenly, the life she knew started to feel too small for the person she was becoming.

Today, Jasmine lives in Amsterdam, where she works as a technical product manager. In this episode, she shares how she moved from marketing into tech, navigated imposter syndrome in her new role abroad, and rebuilt her confidence while adapting to a new country, a new work culture, and a full-English professional environment.

We also talk about growing up in Taiwan, family expectations, learning to ask for help, finding community abroad, the beauty of small human connections, and why women deserve to want more — more freedom, more choices, more life — without feeling guilty about it.

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Kay Fabella moved to Spain in 2010 with a one-way ticket, a student visa, and plans to stay for just one year. The main goal was to heal from burnout and reset her nervous system — but sixteen years later, she’s still there. And the story behind that decision is much deeper than finding her partner and falling in love with another country.

She shares what it was like growing up Filipina-American in Los Angeles, constantly navigating life between two cultures and hearing the question: “Where are you really from?”. We talk about graduating into the 2008 recession, burning out at a young age, being diagnosed with clinical depression, and realizing that the version of success she had been chasing in the U.S. was slowly destroying her.

Kay opens up about moving to Spain to heal, the pressure immigrants feel to constantly prove themselves, and how living abroad changed her nervous system, identity, and way of seeing the world. We also talk about how she explored different professional paths — and how every decision led her to create Edgewalkers Collective, where she works with globally mobile people navigating identity, belonging, burnout, and life between cultures, helping immigrants feel a little less alone in the process while she studies to become a counselor.

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I guess one of my favorite parts of doing this podcast is searching for guests. Usually, I do that online — Substack is my favorite platform for that — and I also rely on recommendations from friends and listeners. But with my guest today, the process was totally different.

I “discovered” Florencia Cariddi some months ago while attending a beautiful storytelling event hosted by New Women New Yorkers, an organization based in New York City that supports immigrant women. Florencia’s performance was so beautiful and inspiring that it even made me cry. So after the event, I decided to reach out to her and invite her to share her journey on the show. Luckily, she said yes.

Florencia is an Argentine artist, vocal coach, and public speaking facilitator whose story is really about what happens when immigration forces you to rebuild not just your life, but your identity.

In this episode, she shares how she left behind a career in Argentina, first moved to Spain, then to the U.S. — and how that first move was not how she had pictured it. Hint: speaking the language doesn’t always guarantee a smooth transition. We also talked about how she navigated motherhood and postpartum in a new country and a new culture, and the disorienting feeling of no longer recognizing the version of herself she had once been.

Florencia talked beautifully about what it means to lose your “speaking identity” in another language, why community became essential to her survival, and how art helped her turn fear into something useful. Besides sharing her story, she also offers valuable advice for immigrant women.

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• LinkedIn - Florencia Cariddi
• Florencia's Books on public speaking
• Instagram @florcariddi
• New Women New Yorkers

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Moving abroad was supposed to be the beginning of Tayo Oriowo’s dream life. Instead, after leaving Nigeria for Australia at 21, she found herself navigating financial hardship, culture shock, survival jobs, and the pressure of trying to “make it” abroad while quietly struggling behind the scenes.

But, in her own words, she is not a quitter — and she wasn’t going to give up for lack of trying.

In this episode, Tayo shares the realities many immigrants experience but rarely talk about openly — from working in a chicken factory and cleaning food courts to rebuilding her confidence and eventually co-founding SyncSkills, a company helping immigrants transition into more fulfilling careers.

This episode has a lot of valuable advice for immigrants - especially related to self confidence. We talk about identity, ambition, immigrant communities, motherhood, and why so many highly skilled immigrants end up underestimating themselves in a new country.

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Instagram @tayo.oloja

Sync Skills @syncskillsau

Sync Skills website https://www.syncskills.com.au/https://www.syncskills.com.au/

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Samantha Nazareth was a gastroenterologist based in New York City, with a stable career, tons of media appearances, and a 10-year relationship. What else could she want when she had what many would call a perfect life?

Well, she wanted something else — or, at least, she didn’t want what she had anymore. So one day, she decided to leave and look for an answer.

What started as a six-week break in Puerto Rico turned into four years of living abroad, traveling across Europe, Southeast Asia, and beyond, and completely redefining what her life could look like.

In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to leave a stable, high-achieving life behind, plus the grief of losing a relationship, a parent, and a version of yourself.

We also dig into how she structured her career to fit this lifestyle, and how she allowed herself to explore other paths — paths that didn’t necessarily need to be connected to being a doctor.

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