Ignacio defines sex, gender, gender identity/expression/attribution, sexual orientation and identity, as well as transgender and queer. Then they talk pronouns: They challenge society’s assumption of the gender binary (e.g., only using she, he, her, him, his, hers) and offers several gender neutral pronoun options (e.g., the singular they, them, their; hir, ze, zie). Ignacio acknowledges the complexities yet encourages both practice and ways to determine the pronouns acceptable to the person in question.

Using both personal experience and an understanding of the vast diversity of others’ experiences, they highlight the vital import of naming body parts and talking about such names with your partner(s). Since terminology varies considerably, it is critical to understand your partners’ feelings about their bodies; and understanding leads to good negotiation, connection, and fun!

They continues the transqueering your sex series with a comparison of fantasy and reality. They asks many questions to help spur self-reflection and increase self-awareness. Ignacio also helps with the conversation and negotiation with persons outside the gender binary.

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