Trauma for Breakfast

Foster care and adoption is a whole other animal when it comes to grieving. It’s built on loss. A child has lost everything they’ve known and so you have a child coming in your home who is grieving. 

One of the hardest jobs for a foster or adopt parent is to sit with this loss; to help carry the hurt and grief. To resist the urge to sweep it aside and claim, “they won’t remember”.  While at the same time you are attending to your own grief, because even though you signed up for this, you won't just forget either.

Join us as we talk about "good grief" with Jamie Briscoe.

We are talking about grief on Pt 1 of 'Good Grief' with Jamie Briscoe. 
Listen in as we discuss -

- the ball of grief
- how to respond when friends are in crisis
- what does grief look like post-adoption, post cancer diagnosis, post death of a loved one? 
- how do we accept and embrace grief as a human experience?

Show resources mentioned - 
How to Respond to People in Crisis: Comfort In; Dump Out | Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/laugh-cry-live/201809/how-respond-people-in-crisis-comfort-in-dump-out
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/laugh-cry-live/201809/how-respond-people-in-crisis-comfort-in-dump-out%3famp

Mindfulness or a self-check-in. 

https://positivepsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Meditation-for-Radical-Acceptance.pdf

Radical Acceptance -

1. Radical Acceptance- Current circumstance that causes a lot of pain

We heap SUFFERING on top of our painful experience when we refuse to acknowledge and accept this current situation.

• Accept what is- acknowledge reality
• What can I control/not control?
• Non Judgemental look at situation
• Stop resisiting reality
• Live in present moment DESPITE pain!
• Nurture- routine, rest, soften, ease, hydrate, comfort

Radical Acceptance questions to process:

• Realities I am refusing to accept:
• Behaviors I choose when I refuse to accept current reality:
• How I experience suffering when I refuse current reality:
• Resistance I feel in my body when I refuse to accept current reality:

(release tension in stomach, back, neck; allow tension to soften, send deep breath to that place of tension and allow the release of the breath to send out the tension)

DISCLAIMER - This podcast is raw and unfiltered.  Listener discretion is advised. 
Please note that this episode contains discussions of childhood trauma behaviors that some people may find disturbing or triggering. 

Bryan Post answers the questions submitted from the Lost Sparrows Trauma Conference (lsconference.org) attendees. These questions were submitted by parents and teachers who are parenting difficult behaviors and through difficult circumstances.

Here are a few of the questions Bryan Post will address in this jam packed podcast for desparate parents - 

How do I know when my child is manipulating me? 
When a child is raging and tearing apart a room  what do I do? It's not fair to the other kids.
My kids won't stop lying, how do I stop this?

I hope you learn as much as I did from his responses.

In this episode, we talk about technology, social media and adolescent brain development. As parents, we are navigating a digital world that is pursuing our children. Technology can be good, but it can also cause harm. As more and more children are given access to smart phones, we are seeing an increase in mental health issues, sleep problems, and learning delays.

Join my husband and I as we discuss brave parenting in a technological world. 

"If you are going to be effective in changing people's lives, you've got to include the family."

Today's podcast will be with Jonathon Wattley, the CEO of Building a Stronger Family. Jonathon created Building a Stronger Family after his 15 year-old granddaughter's tragic suicide. This painful event shed light on the dynamics of his family and how much under the surface they did not know.

Join us as we talk about generational trauma and how we can become the best version of ourselves.

During this podcast episode, we continue our conversation with  Dr. Adam Seinz. We will be taking a look at the frequency, duration and intensity of behaviors that are increasing in our students. Adam identifies the crisis we are seeing in mental health and speaks to teachers on how to create career sustainability and avoid burnout. 

"You don't have to be a throracic surgeon to perform CPR and save a life. You don't have to be a licensed psychologist or licensed counselor to administer basic mental health first aid to your student.

The first goal is not to change the student. The goal is how do I understand and regulate myself.  Because once I'm self-aware of my stressors and regulating them, once I'm aware of my emotions and regulating them, once I'm aware of my personality and regulating them...then I'm centered. 

I can actually become a secure-emotional base for all the kids in my classroom and I'm sustainable."

One of the most loving things we can do for those depending on us is to offer them the best version of ourselves. We become better leaders, better teammates, better colleagues, better spouses, better parents, better neighbors. We live from a place of power, a place of love (for ourselves and one another), and a place of effective decision-making.

Join me as I hear about the keys to parenting well with Dr. Adam Saenz.  

Adam is the author of the best selling book, The Power of a Teacher, and his education blog has been featured on the front page of the Huffington Post. He also authored Relationships That Work with Jeremy Dew, L.P.C, a colleague in his clinical practice. Adam is also the developer of the Educator Assesment of Social and Emotional Learning (EASEL), a measure of personality and emotional intelligence that is central to the work and curriculum associated with his book The EQ Intervention. 

Join us as we talk about the 'thing' we don't talk about. Today's podcast is about the impact of porn exposure on children and teens.

Kristy Saul joins us to answer what we as parents and caregivers need to know about current pornography trends, and what to do if you discover your child has viewed, or regularly views pornography. As the world moves to virtual platforms, and technology pervades every aspect of our lives, we need to stay up to date with electronics and their impact on our children from hard places.

Tanya was a meth user for 34 years. She has been to prison and lived a life touched by substance abuse and pain. Tanya's children have been in the child welfare system three times and were then removed to be raised by extended family. But if you met Tanya today, you would see a professional woman who now runs two sober living homes and has been a mentor and advocate for many women. Tanya tells a story of struggle, pain and hope.

I struggled with "not being enough", and today I want to tell women that "You are enough". 
-Tanya

Follow the story of Tanya and how she brings hope in hard places through the Yavapai Reentry Project. 

As teachers, you are up close and personal with children who have experienced traumatic life events. You might not hear about the drug bust, or the domestic violence, or the abuse that happened last night, but you will see it in your classroom.

Join Steve King, COCSD Superintendent, as he talks about the moment he truly understood the effects of childhood trauma on his classroom. And then hear about how he is leading the charge in his school district to support his students using Dr Bruce Perry's Neurosequential Model.