Join us in this episode where we discuss the mindset (Internal Working Model) of the avoidantly attached partner. Not trusting that others will be there for them, led them to turn off their longing for connection. They value their own independence and autonomy and are great at self-soothing. To rework their IWM, they need to learn to reach out to others and trust that other can be a dependable resource of comfort and soothing.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the mindset of an anxiously attached partner. This mindset, or Internal Working Model, in attachment terms, is where the individual is sensitive to fear of rejection or abandonment, and as a result needs lots of reassurance in their relationship. We discuss how this mindset comes about, and how to begin changing the anxious attachment style.

Join us in this episode where we discuss when trauma becomes part of who we are and how we see ourselves, or a part of our history. Oftentimes we can have parts of our personality that may be rooted in trauma, but overtime it becomes a part of our personality. In this episode we discuss ways to identify which is which and what to do about it.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the health benefits of cultivating more silence and solitude into our lives. Trauma survivors often struggle with silence and solitude, in part, because it can be triggering for their trauma. Instead of avoiding, they are confronted with the feelings, sensations, thoughts, and images that may emerge. Put into practice, more silence and solitude can be a gift of healing where we become more comfortable in our own body.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the different approaches to treating trauma. The bottom up approach works through the body up to the cognitive center of the brain. Whereas the top down approach works from the cognitive center down through the body. Both approaches are important in the treatment of trauma and both approach have their strengths and weaknesses.

All of us have internal conflicts. But trauma can heighten those conflicts to a point where we prevent our own healing for fear of being retraumatized. In this episode we take a look at one of the main conflict for attachment trauma - the need for protection versus the need for connection. We break down this conflict and walk through ways to lessen it's impact on our inner world as well as our relationships.

Join in us in this episode where we explore 4 ways the individuals with trauma actually limit their ability to heal. By using these 4 methods traumatized individuals block their ability to create new experiences in their relationships that allow them to have the new, healing kind of responses from their partner. Do you use any of the methods that limit your healing?

Join us in this episode where we explore what secure attachment looks like from 5 different relationship angles: The need for closeness and intimacy versus the need for separateness and independence, the ability to communicate needs and feelings, as well as understand the needs and feelings of your partner, style of responding to conflict, the lends through which we view ourselves and our partner, and our ability to reflect on our own feelings and behavior. A great ways to start off the year!

Join us in this episode where we discuss ways to help a partner understand the impact of trauma. Some couples have one partner in which they have suffered some attachment or relational trauma from the past. Helping your partner understand how it impacts the relationship as well as the individual can benefit the them by create a greater space in which they can provide empathy and validation when trauma emerges in the relationship.

Join us in this episode as requested by a listener, on how to support your partner's attachment style when not in a cycle, but rather when things are good and both partner's are feeling connected. We talk about 4 things each partner can do to support the other's attachment style in good times. We usually focus on when things are bad and how to make them better. I love this topic because it turns the question on it's head - how do we help each other go from good to great!