This is part 3 of 3 if you have not yet listened to pt 1 and 2 you can find them here

Pt 1 - https://podcasts.captivate.fm/media/885047a3-4e4e-4286-8d2b-55eeaedb262c/Fliss-pt-1.mp3

Pt 2 - https://podcasts.captivate.fm/media/dcc16eaa-ee5a-46e5-ba5c-d13c68b2e0d4/Fliss-pt-2.mp3

This third and final (for now) part of our trauma conversations is one absolutely soaked in HOPE. My lovely listener there is hope on that very dark horizon – even though I know you may not be at a place of knowing or believing it yet. All I ask is that you trust me, as someone who has walked through the initial hellish fires of trauma, been frozen by the mental and emotional ice age and lost more than she ever knew she had. I sit here with you today, continuing our journey, recording a podcast, running a successful Life Coaching Practice and being an active, connected and involved mother and wife. 

I didn’t get here over night, and the fact remains that I will never ‘get there’, because there is no ‘there’ to get to. We do not move on we just learn to move along with the trauma as a part of us that we can cope with and manage the peaks and troughs. Trauma can in time serve as a huge learning process and we can choose to use it to add value to not only our own lives but the lives of those around us.

This may sound too enormous to even contemplate – so don’t just yet. Just know that it is there when you are ready to access it, there is not timeline, your own time is the only way. I never thought I would laugh (really laugh not pretend to please others laugh) again after my Dad’s tragic death. I thought my life had ended too – but it didn’t, and blessed was I that the most incredible people were not only waiting for me when I began to thaw out, but they were quietly there one step behind me all the way.

You are not alone. I see you. I hear you. I feel your pains. Keep going. Life is lucky to have you.

 

I’m so glad you are here – thank you for choosing to be with me today.

 

With Love and Empowerment

X Fliss X

 

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Show Notes – Guidance taken from www.mind.org.uk

·        Samaritans. To talk about anything that is upsetting you, you can contact Samaritans 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. You can call 116 123 (free from any phone), email [email protected] or visit some branches in person. You can also call the Samaritans Welsh Language Line on 0808 164 0123 (7pm–11pm every day).

·        SANEline. If you're experiencing a mental health problem or supporting someone else, you can call SANEline on 0300 304 7000 (4.30pm–10.30pm every day).

·        National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK. Offers a supportive listening service to anyone with thoughts of suicide. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK on 0800 689 5652 (6pm to midnight every day).

·        Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). You can call the CALM on 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) if you are struggling and need to talk. Or if you prefer not to speak on the phone, you could try the CALM webchat service.

·        Shout. If you would prefer not to talk but want some mental health support, you could text SHOUT to 85258. Shout offers a confidential 24/7 text service providing support if you are in crisis and need immediate help.

·        The Mix. If you're under 25, you can call The Mix on 0808 808 4994 (3pm–midnight every day), request support by email using this form on The Mix website or use their crisis text messenger service.

·        Papyrus HOPELINEUK. If you're under 35 and struggling with suicidal feelings, or concerned about a young person who might be struggling, you can call Papyrus HOPELINEUK on 0800 068 4141 (24 hours, 7 days a week), email [email protected] or text 07786 209 697.

·        Nightline. If you're a student, you can look on the Nightline website to see if your university or college offers a night-time listening service. Nightline phone operators are all students too.

·        Switchboard. If you identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, you can call Switchboard on 0300 330 0630 (10am–10pm every day), email [email protected] or use their webchat service. Phone operators all identify as LGBT+.

·        C.A.L.L. If you live in Wales, you can call the Community Advice and Listening Line (C.A.L.L.) on 0800 132 737 (open 24/7) or you can text 'help' followed by a question to 81066.

·        Helplines Partnership. For more options, visit the Helplines Partnership website for a directory of UK helplines. Mind's Infoline can also help you find services that can support you. If you're outside the UK, the Befrienders Worldwide website has a tool to search by country for emotional support helplines around the world.

 

 

Urgent mental health helplineEngland

If you live in England, you can call a local NHS urgent mental health helpline for support during a mental health crisis. Anyone can call these helplines, at any time.

These helplines offer similar support to a crisis team. The NHS website has more information on urgent mental health helplines, including how to find your local helpline.

Wales

In Wales, you can contact NHS 111 and select option 2. This will put you through to an NHS helpline offering 24/7 urgent mental health support. Visit the NHS 111 Wales website to find out more about this service.

How could they help me?

Listening line staff will let you talk through your feelings and experiences without judging you or telling you what to do. Many listening services let you talk for as long as you need.This podcast was produced by Listening Shelf Audio https://listeningshelf.uk/