This week, the Twins discuss the power of our words and how our inner dialog shapes our reality... whether we realize it or not. The two flush out the steps we take in-order to observe our thoughts, make space for them without judgement, and ultimately neutralize them by reframing how we speak to ourselves. 

The discussion circles around ideas from Abraham Hicks, Erkert Tolle, Ru Paul and even Cher to illustrate the necessity of understanding that every thought we have is a form of energy that directly influences the reality we create. And it all begins with us and our inner world. 

Sarah and Dave explore 5 of the most common narcissistic styles including the grandiose, vulnerable or covert, malignant, communal, and self-righteous. Unpacking a bit about each of these discernable characteristics, you might be able to better understand the narcissistic personalities in your life... or yourself. 

The Twins wrap up the week's episode with a discussion on why we often overlook the red flags leading to the topic of 'betrayal blindness' and how we over rationalize our feelings and behaviors when we find ourselves in a narcissistic relationship. In understanding potential wounds of shame and guilt we are potentially susceptible too, we can better give ourselves the love and grace we need to break away from these toxic bonds.

This week Dave opens with a message about bringing more empathy and balance to the way we see individuals who display narcissistic behaviors, while reaffirming that we cannot tolerate their toxic behavior. There are two sides to every encounter- and we need to remember that we are not victims and should own our truth in these relationship dynamics. Dave also includes an intimate moment when Sarah catches his self-critical inner voice when he tries to understand why didn't see the red flags earlier on.

Then the Twins pick up the conversation on love bombing (on Trait #4: The Need to Control) as they explore different manipulation tactics narcissists use to dominate and control others. Listen in to hear about the final 4 traits that will always give away a narcissist in your life. Hope you enjoy!

The twins are going IN this week as they unpack Dave's recent dating history and his uncanny ability to find the nearest narcissist within a 5-mile radius! This episode is full of laughs as the two discuss what defines narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and the 4 characteristics all narcissistic expressions share. Taking inspiration from Dr. Ramani and Kati Morton, the twins begin to walk through the "8 Common Traits of Narcissistic Behavior." Drawing from their childhood and recent experiences, Sarah gets Dave to open up about the red flags he keeps missing... or wantonly chooses to ignore. 

Whoa!  Surrender and sacrifice are not words people love to hear. Especially when we are "comfortable" with where we are at in life for better, or worse. In this episode Sarah and Dave flush out what surrendering to the Universe and our highest good looks like when we take a more receptive role to allow space for Spirit to work in our lives. There is a delicate balance between action and surrender, which can be beautifully illustrated in the hangman tarot imagery and metaphor that allows us to gain new perspectives. The two also unpack the sacred symbolism and meaning of the Yin principle and its connection to the Divine Feminine. Come check it out! 

When you stop and think about why you do what you do… the way you do it, can you say it is truly reflective of who you are and what you believe?  This week, Dave and Sarah grapple with why we sometimes buy into the belief that love must be earned and why we find so much of our value and comfort in the cultural conditioning we are raised in.

Sarah and Dave continue the conversation about what healthy boundaries look like and how upholding them can make you feel even worse than someone crossing them in the first place. Boundaries keep us healthy! They allow us to navigate our relationships while keeping us safe. Porous or weak boundaries often come from our family of origins and follow us well into our adulthood if we don't come to understand, we will most likely find self-betrayal. The twins finish the conversation by considering the reasons why we choose to continue letting others railroad us from the difficulty people find in upholding the consequences they set. 

Sarah gets fired up this week as the two discuss what healthy boundaries look like for people dealing with codependency and people pleasing behaviors. The topic of 'triggers' comes up and how our sensitive subjects reveal where our greatest power and healing are hiding in plain site. The two also discuss "White Knight" Syndrome that kept both of them of them in unhealthy relationship patterns for more than a decade and the importance of owning our own part in upholding our boundaries in order to keep ourselves safe, without guilt or regret. 

Dave and Sarah are no strangers to people pleasing and codependency! Often when we grow up in emotionally volatile homes, we develop coping mechanisms that help us survive. Unfortunately, these same behaviors that once kept us safe when we were young, often become destructive causing us to betray ourselves and what we truly desire most. 

If you or someone you know, might be susceptible to codependent or people pleasing behaviors, then this podcast is for you. By understanding ourselves and our patterns, we are able to change our thoughts that lead to our freedom!

In this hilarious conclusion to "Developing your Language with Spirit" Sarah offers some sage advice on how to ground yourself in order to better understand what Spirit is saying in the moment. The two get a little ridiculous as they talk about how our language with Spirit looks in a practical way, as well as how to keep yourself in a vibrational alignment to hear and see Spirit in your day-to-day life.