Sherry and Carla first talk about the importance of discernment when it comes to hiring the right coach or therapist and a few of the differences between therapists and coaches, especially when it comes to trauma work. They then welcome MIchelle Ferris, a licensed psychotherapist and anger management specialist. Michelle loves helping codependent people create healthy relationships without sacrificing their big hearts. She talks about how to begin to trust your intuition as a codependent, narcissistic rage, and walks Sherry and Carla through a live round of tapping to give an example of a powerful tool that can help dissolve fear and anxiety. 

 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Love Fix Question of the Day - What if you have been in toxic relationships in the past and now have a hard time trusting your gut? 
• Until you release the old stuff and work on your trauma, it’s hard to bring in anything healthy. 
• How Michelle defines recovery, and how to begin learning self-trust and building up relationships built on trust. 
• If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough. When we can really look at our relationship with ourselves, that’s when things start to change. 
• Find out how to connect with Michelle, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Michelle talks about the many forms that support can come in, including coaches, therapists, solid friends, and 12 Step Programs. 
• How can we better learn to trust our intuition? 
• How do our fears sometimes get in the way of us seeing the reality of our experiences in living in our truth? 
• How is narcissistic rage different from someone just getting mad?  

 

Tweetables:

•  “You can be a therapist, but if you haven’t had trauma training you really shouldn’t be saying that you’re doing trauma therapy.” - Sherry
• “You really need to have some background in trauma therapy to say that you work in trauma.” - Sherry 
• “Recovery is the process of unlearning the behaviors in childhood that really hurt us and to really learn how to self-trust and build relationships that work on all the skills that go along with that.”- Michelle 
• “If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough, because it’s going to be more intoxicating to look for the answer outside yourself.” - Michelle 
• “When we can really look at how we are in the relationship with ourselves, that’s when things start to change.” - Michelle 
• “The narcissistic rage is ‘I’m not getting what I want, so I’m going to hurt you in any way I can so that I can avoid my own behavior.’” - Michelle 
• “The narcissist is going to make themselves right, so they don't have to do the work.” - Michelle 

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Sherry

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Carla

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Michelle Farris: Website| Facebook | YouTube 

 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

 

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