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  • T26 - The Achiever (Type3)

    We talk about Enneagram Type 3 - The Achiever; their strengths, weaknesses, and comparison to Bible characters.

    Enneagram Institute Type 3

    • Threes try to deny their shame, and are potentially the most out of touch with underlying feelings of inadequacy. Threes learn to cope with shame by trying to become what they believe a valuable, successful person is like. Thus, Threes learn to perform well, to be acceptable, even outstanding, and are often driven relentlessly in their pursuit of success as a way of staving off feelings of shame and fears of failure.
    • Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them. They typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness. At their Best: self-accepting, authentic, everything they seem to be—role models who inspire others.

      • Basic Fear: Of being worthless

      Basic Desire: To feel valuable and worthwhile

      Key Motivations: Want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.

      Biblical figure: JACOB, SAUL, JOSEPH

      Strengths:

      • You’re driven and success-oriented, sometimes to the point of caring more about how you appear to others than you should. But you’re faithful and focused—a lot like Moses.

        • Personal Growth Recommendations

        • For our real development, it is essential to be truthful. Be honest with yourself and others about your genuine feelings and needs.
        • Develop charity and cooperation in your relationships. You can do this by taking time to pause in a busy day to really connect with someone you care about.
        • Take breaks. You can drive yourself and others to exhaustion with your relentless pursuit of your goals.
        • Develop your social awareness. Working cooperatively with others toward goals that transcend personal interest is a powerful way of finding your true value and identity.
        • Threes adapt so much to the expectations of others that they lose touch with what they are really feeling about the situation. Develop yourself by resisting doing what is acceptable just to be accepted. It is imperative that you invest time in discovering your own core values.

          • Enneagram and Coffee – Failure is necessary growth

          Craig Groeschel — You don’t need the praise of people when you have the approval from God

          To find out your number take this free Enneagram assessment here: https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

          Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/O_RyWeTcuUE

          Find our show notes here: https://trendingup.wixsite.com/podcast/episode-notes

          Enneagram Institute Website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

          Sermon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjxUn0FZVLg (Enneagram 3)

          Cool Enneagram Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoffee/?hl=en

          28 min
        • T25 - The Helper (Type2)

          We talk about Enneagram Type 2 - The Helper; their strengths, weaknesses, and comparison to Bible characters.

          Enneagram Institute Type 2

          • Twos attempt to control their shame by getting other people to like them and to think of them as good people. They also want to convince themselves that they are good, loving people by focusing on their positive feelings for others while repressing their negative feelings (such as anger and resentment at not being appreciated enough). As long as Twos can get positive emotional responses from others, they feel wanted and are able to control feelings of shame.
          • Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.

            • Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved

            Basic Desire: To feel loved

            Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.

            Biblical figure: JOHN (the beloved disciple)

            • Twos are keenly aware of everyone’s needs, which is noble, except in doing so Twos ignore their own needs. Twos are natural givers, but they struggle to receive, either from a neighbor or from God.

              • Strengths:

              “Service” is your middle name; you love giving to others and, as long as you’re healthy, don’t need attention to do so. (If you’re unhealthy, you’re probably looking for affirmation from others when you serve.)

              Personal Growth Recommendations

              • Remember that if you are not addressing your own needs, it is highly unlikely that you will be able to meet anyone else's needs without problems, underlying resentments, and continual frustration.
              • Try to become more conscious of your own motives when you decide to help someone.
              • While there are many things you might want to do for people, it is often better to ask them what they really need first.
              • Resist the temptation to call attention to yourself and your good works.
              • Learn to recognize the affection and good wishes of others, even when these are not in terms that you are familiar with.

                • Enneagram and Coffee – It’s okay to not be needed

                Craig Groeschel — You May see all that you are not, God looks and sees all that you are

                To find out your number take this free Enneagram assessment here: https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

                Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/6HW6o2vAOYY

                Enneagram Institute Website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

                Sermon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YeVyzfR2DRQ (Enneagram 2)

                Cool Enneagram Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoffee/?hl=en

                27 min
              • T24 - The Reformer (Type1)

                We talk about Enneagram Type 1 - The Reformer; their strengths, weaknesses, and comparison to Bible characters. 

                Enneagram Institute Type 1

                • Ones attempt to control or repress their anger and instinctual energy. They feel that they must stay in control of themselves, especially of their instinctual impulses and angry feelings at all times. They would like to direct these energies according to the dictates of their highly developed inner critic (superego), the source of their strictures on themselves and others.
                • Ones are conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are teachers, crusaders, and advocates for change: always striving to improve things, but afraid of making a mistake. Well-organized, orderly, and fastidious, they try to maintain high standards, but can slip into being critical and perfectionistic. They typically have problems with resentment and impatience. At their Best: wise, discerning, realistic, and noble. Can be morally heroic.

                  • Basic Fear: Of being corrupt/evil, defective

                  Basic Desire: To be good, to have integrity, to be balanced

                  Key Motivations: Want to be right, to strive higher and improve everything, to be consistent with their ideals, to justify themselves, to be beyond criticism so as not to be condemned by anyone.

                  Biblical figure: PAUL

                  • A self-proclaimed lover of the Law and a Pharisee, enforcer of the “right way,” even to the point of murder. This, of course, describes Paul before the Damascus Road experience.

                    • Strengths:

                    You’re strong-willed and justice-oriented, and you’re willing to make a stand for what you care about.

                    Personal Growth Recommendations

                    • Learn to relax. The salvation of the world does not depend on you alone, even though you may sometimes feel it does.
                    • You have a lot to teach others and are probably a good teacher, but do not expect others to change immediately.
                    • It is easy for you to work yourself up into a lather about the wrongdoings of others... Similarly, beware of your constant irritation with your own "shortcomings."
                    • Your Achilles' heel is your self-righteous anger. You get angry easily and are offended by what seems to you to be the perverse refusal of others to do the right thing—as you have defined it. Try to step back and see that your anger alienates people so that they cannot hear many of the good things you have to say.

                      • Enneagram and Coffee – Done is better than perfect

                      Craig Groeschel — Failure is not final

                      To find out your number take this free Enneagram assessment here: https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

                      Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/ogDncVJ0-vw

                      Enneagram Institute Website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

                      Sermon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Hyqy3BTlFI (Enneagram 1)

                      Cool Enneagram Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoffee/?hl=en

                      25 min
                    • T23 - The Enneagram?

                      Trending Up is all about improving ourselves and our relationships, so we're journeying with the Enneagram to learn more about ourselves and how to better relate with others.

                      The Enneagram is a personality test that is broken up into a set of nine distinct personality types, numbering 1-9.

                      1 is the Reformer. 2 is the Helper. 3 is the Achiever. 4 is the Individualist. 5 Is the Investigator. 6 is the Loyalist. 7 is the Enthusiast. 8 is the Challenger. 9 is the Peacemaker.

                      Points to consider from the Enneagram Institute

                      • It's common to find a little of yourself in all nine of the types
                      • We are born with a dominant type this inborn orientation largely determines the ways in which we learn to adapt to our early childhood environment.
                      • People do not change from one basic personality type to another.
                      • The descriptions of the personality types are universal and apply equally to males and females, since no type is inherently masculine or feminine.
                      • Not everything in the description of your basic type will apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly among the healthy, average, and unhealthy traits that make up your personality type.
                      • The numerical ranking of the types is not significant.
                      • No type is inherently better or worse than any other.

                        • The ideal is to become your best self, not to imitate the assets of another type.

                        Type One (The Reformer) is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.

                        Type Two (The Helper) is generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive.

                        Type Three (The Achiever) is adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.

                        Type Four (The Individualist) is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.

                        Type Five (The Investigator) is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.

                        Type Six (The Loyalist) is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.

                        Type Seven (The Enthusiast) is spontaneous, versatile, acquisitive, and scattered.

                        Type Eight (The Challenger) is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.

                        Type Nine (The Peacemaker) is receptive, reassuring, complacent, and resigned.

                        Resources:

                        To find out your number take this free Enneagram assessment here: https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/

                        Enneagram Institute Website: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

                        Cool Enneagram Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoffee/?hl=en

                        Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/NNi5vZokQGc

                        24 min
                      • T22 - Black and Latino Connection

                        Part 2 of our conversation with Garrison where we discuss the connection between Latinos and African Americans. 

                         

                        Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/Mh5RtGzZSlo 

                        Find our show notes here: https://trendingup.wixsite.com/podcast/episode-notes 

                        Garrison Hayes twitter profile: https://twitter.com/garrison_hayes

                        28 min
                      • T21 - Black in America

                        Garrison Hayes joins us to talk about his experience as a black man in America and what it's like especially considering our current political and divided climate.  


                        Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/zfSkbgzdLAs 

                        Find our show notes here: https://trendingup.wixsite.com/podcast/episode-notes 

                        Garrison Hayes twitter profile: https://twitter.com/garrison_hayes

                        39 min
                      • T20 - Thinking about Thinking

                        Join us as we talk about the importance of our thoughts and the mold-ability of our minds to become what we behold. 

                        Our minds are wonderfully incredible machines and yet they are extremely moldable. That is why it is important to be aware of what we are putting in, because what we behold, we become.

                        Article about couples looking like each other

                        https://journals.plos.org/plosgenetics/article?id=10.1371/journal.pgen.1006655

                        Heather Thompson Day (Twitter profile: https://twitter.com/HeatherTDay)

                        Study that showed that our mind cant tell the difference between thoughts we think and reality.

                        • The more we focus on negative words and thoughts the more you can actually damage key structures that regulate your memory, feelings, and emotions.
                        • Negative thinking is self perpetuating. The more you expose your brain to it the more it will automatically generate additional negative feelings.

                          • Disrupt Negative Thoughts!

                          The faster we can interrupt our brains reaction to real or imaginary threats, the quicker we can generate feelings of safety and well-being and train our brains that this is how we deal with negative thoughts.

                          • Talking badly about people or environments generates mutual distrust. It undermines your brains ability to build empathy and cooperation. The brain cannot distinguish between fantasy talk and reality when perceiving negative events. It ALWAYS assumes real danger exists.
                          • The human brain needs a tremendous amount of energy to function, and it takes even more energy to build new neural circuits to change the ways we normally communicate.

                            • Remember: The words you use to describe someone else, are the words that others who hear associate with you.

                            Bible Texts:

                            2 Corinthians 10:5 “...We also capture every thought and make it give up and obey Christ.”

                            Genesis 6:5

                            “The LORD observed the extent of human wickedness on the earth, and he saw that everything they thought or imagined was consistently and totally evil.”

                            Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/5zH1qcAnmWo

                            31 min
                          • T19 - El Paso, Texas & Dayton, Ohio

                            We talk about our reaction to the shootings in El Paso, Texas and Dayton, Ohio where many lost their lives and where countless others were injured. 

                            We remember the families of those affected and those who have lost loved ones, our heart goes out to you. 


                            News about shootings: 

                            NPR Up First - https://www.npr.org/2019/08/05/748165528/monday-august-5th-2019

                            The Daily Times - https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9yc3MuYXJ0MTkuY29tL3RoZS1kYWlseQ&episode=Z2lkOi8vYXJ0MTktZXBpc29kZS1sb2NhdG9yL1YwL3I5YjJTWXRweTVfRThhUGZqdW40b1BpVmVPaElEbHRzd0ttbEcwYXF5czQ&at=1565061632918


                            What is empathy illustrated video by Brené Brown: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw


                            Anniella Rigacci (Sebastian's Cousin) Post on Facebook:

                            There is not a right or wrong way to react or respond during a traumatic event or crisis. People respond/react in different ways. In the midst of a trauma or crisis, it is not appropriate nor is it helpful to tell someone how they should react or respond to what is happening. “Just pray about it” or “God has a plan” is not helpful at this time. “You should do this... instead of this...” is not helpful at this time. This can create cognitive distortions. Someone that is experiencing a traumatic event or crisis, someone being triggered by a secondary traumatic event, someone experiencing vicarious trauma... is in a high stress/emotional state and is most likely unable to think logically or rationally, nor should they have to. What is most helpful is connecting with them emotionally, connecting with their right brain. Empathy is extremely important during this time. Take deep breaths with them. You don’t even have to say many words when you are empathizing. “I am here, I am with you, I see you, I hear you.”

                            Traumatic events are happening all around us. People are angry, hurt, depressed, anxious, paranoid... they want to blame someone or blame themselves for what is happening. These are thoughts and feelings that are normal, and feelings people are allowed to feel and process. Telling someone to not think or feel is counterproductive. It does not matter if you agree with their thoughts or feelings at this time. You can try to have a logical, rational conversation with them at another time. Everyone has the right to their own processing and healing of traumatic events. If empathy is hard for you, due to your own thoughts, feelings, and reactions, I would recommend giving yourself space, giving people space, staying away from social media or news outlets, especially during breaking news events, because they can be extremely triggering.

                            To anyone going through a crisis and/or experiencing any symptoms of trauma... I am here, I am with you, I hear you, I see you.


                            Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/B6h3sZU-RM0

                            Find our show notes here: https://trendingup.wixsite.com/podcast/episode-notes

                            33 min
                          • T18 - Sports and Faith

                            How much sports is too much? Can we be a fan of sports and still be Christian? Join us as we talk about the role of sports and our faith. 

                            “Physically, Samson was the strongest man upon the earth; but in self-control, integrity, and firmness, he was one of the weakest of men. Many mistake strong passions for a strong character, but the truth is that he who is mastered by his passions is a weak man. The real greatness of the man is measured by the power of the feelings that he controls, not by those that control him.” PP 567

                            Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/4CIyZLZZS30

                            Find out more about us here: https://trendingup.wixsite.com/podcast

                            Chantal's Fitness Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/chan.ptfit/


                            41 min
                          • T17 - Mental Health with Robert Colon

                            Robert Colon comes on the podcast to talk about his journey with his mental health and how he found recovery and healing. He speaks on his work now in helping others through his experience.

                            Check out our episode in Youtube here: https://youtu.be/GD26X2Zh9cE

                            Revive Ministries: 

                            https://www.facebook.com/ReviveMinistriesFL/?ref=br_rs

                            Revive Ministries Instagram:

                            https://instagram.com/reviveministriesfl?igshid=73q1g9em7hn6

                            Suicide Prevention Hotline 

                            1-800-273-8255

                            Substance Abuse Hotline

                            1-800-662-4357

                            National Human Trafficking Hotline

                            1-888-373-7888

                            Not Ok App

                            https://www.notokapp.com/

                            49 min

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