In this episode of Okay, So Here’s the Deal, we’re talking about Trigger Days those holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, or special events that bring up unexpected emotions after leaving a high-conflict marriage.

Many women find that joyful occasions feel tainted because of past trauma. Even when the marriage or relationship is over, memories and triggers can sneak up sometimes when you least expect it. I share my personal experience of being blindsided by emotions on the anniversary of leaving my marriage, and how I turned that moment into a learning and healing opportunity.

I also introduce the Trigger Day Toolkit, a step-by-step method to retrain your nervous system. By proactively identifying potential triggers on your calendar and planning positive, intentional experiences—solo, with family, or with friends you can replace painful memories with joyful ones.

This episode is about taking back control of your emotional calendar, honoring your feelings, and creating space for happiness—even on the days you’ve dreaded for years.

You’re not alone. You can reclaim your joy.