It can be difficult to change your emotional responses to triggers. Think of a person or situation that is in your life today that makes you uncomfortable, stressed, angry or sad. Just the thought of that person or moment can make your body feel as if it's right in front of you in the present moment. Those bodily reactions dictate your response and if just a thought causes you to feel these negative emotions, it means you are very well practiced at these responses. This is the pattern created by your nervous system.   The first step of changing these patterns and the ultimate goal of no longer having these triggers is becoming aware of what causes the triggers and catching your patterned responses. This is easier said than done. Think, you could have months, years or a life time of these patterned responses so breaking these habits may take time and lots of practice.    Remember, if a person affects you negatively don't try to change them,  you can only change yourself and how you respond. Resist the temptation of trying to convince someone to change.    Once you start catching these moments, your body's emotional responses will  change over time and that person or situation will no longer cause those feelings or bodily sensations.   This is where tests come in, once you've conquered the person or situations often times a new person or situation come in. This is your chance to prove that you've learned to change your response and it is that test that tells your nervous system that you are not going to let these people or moments affect you the same way they did before. You have established healthier responses.