True Identity

Do you make plans with someone and then cancel on them because something comes up? Do you say things like, “It’s ok, we will get together when we get together”?

Does this happen over and over and then you never end up meeting up with that person? Or you do, it’s just months or years later?

As millennials, we have a reputation for not following through. To committing to too many things, having a hard time saying no and then are unable to do what we set out to. We say things like “I’m too busy.” “Something came up.” “I’ll do this another time.”

Is this something you find yourself doing? We are all at fault at some point or another, however, this shouldn’t be something done all the time. Yes life happens and things do come up, but if this continues to be your excuse over and over again. You need to take a step back and re-evaluate your life. Look at what you are making a priority. When you continue to do this, this is showing disrespect not only to yourself, but to others.

Let’s take this reputation back and step up to the plate and do what we actually say we are going to do. There is definitely balance, so you need to understand it’s ok to say no. Evaluate your life, look at your schedule, and if you do not have the time then don’t do it, don’t say yes!

Staying true to your commitments builds trust and the more you follow through the more responsibility you will be given to others.

Questions to think about:

If you are the type of person who cancels over and over, think of why you do this? Why do you cancel on people? Why are you saying you will do something and then you don’t follow through? Are you flaky? Are a person who goes where the winds takes you?

Ways to stay true to your commitments:

• View your schedule
• • Does this fit in my schedule?  
  • Only schedule what you know you will be able to accomplish
  • This will take time to figure out so give yourself grace. You may be uncertain how much time things will take you and that’s ok.
  • Will saying Yes to this opportunity benefit myself
  • Will saying yes to this help out a friend
  • Realize it’s ok to say No
  • Don’t worry about offending the other person

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Should I work remotely? Am I cut out to be an entrepreneur?

Nikki interviews Betsy Ramser Jaime who has been working remotely for over 6 years. Betsy got her masters in entrepreneurship. She has worked with an entrepreneur doing social media and business management. As her first experience working remotely with coworkers all over the world, this made her realize this is what she wanted to continue doing. Now she works for herself teaching business english online mostly working with Chinese managers and engineers, proof reading and editing, works with a micro-finance organization, and has her own blog and website discussing productivity and working remotely. Visit her site https://www.betsyramserjaime.com

Nikki and Betsy talk about the importance of having multiple streams of income. Also Betsy shares about the many ways you can work remotely and if this would be right for you. 

Working remotely is not for everyone and that's ok! These ladies discuss ways you can figure out if this is for you. The best way is experimenting. 

If you are interested in working remotely, Betsy shares how she schedules her day in order to get everything done she needs to. She is also available for you to ask her any questions if this is something you are interested in. Email her at [email protected]

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Stop taking life so seriously. This is something I have been told multiple times in my life. I am someone who likes structure, a plan. I put pressure on myself to do things at a high level. To make sure everything is perfect and I have it all figured out before I do something. And if I don’t think I can do it, I don’t do it.

This year I have been challenged to play more. To tap into my child-like side. I have been pondering this idea. I thought about snowboarding and was asking myself why I love it so much. What I discovered is that I feel so free, so playful, as though I am a child on an epic playground! It brings me so much joy and it’s because I am being playful and child-like.

I think some of us grew up too fast. I think back to my childhood and it’s true, I grew up too fast. I wanted to be viewed as responsible and successful that I took it upon myself to act this way even as a kid. I have always been the peacemaker in my home and I would stand up for people I felt where in need. I’ve always looked after others before myself. This was part of my identity. I was trying to be other people’s savior. I see their true potential. 

This is a gift, being able to see people’s true potential, I became a life coach so I could hone in on this gift and help people discover their potential for themselves. From past experiences I’ve learned there are times I need to get out of the way for them to discover it themselves.

If you are interested in what life coaching is or if it’s something you may need, go to the link in the show notes to schedule a FREE consultation call to see if it’s a good fit for you! http://nikkiromani.as.me/ or go to my website nikkiromani.com and click the services tab.

I’ve come up with a list of ways I can be more playful this year.

1. Play more beach volleyball
2. Snowboard as much as I can
3. Join meet-up groups doing things I’m interested in such as swimming
4. Signed up for a triathlon
5. Painting and creating more like making birthday cards like I used to and designing my book cover! Taking a calligraphy class and actually practicing

I did an episode about discovering your outlet...meaning, what’s something you can do that makes you feel refreshed, renewed, is fun and enjoyable and has nothing to do with work.  http://nikkiromani.com/2019/02/what-is-your-outlet-012/

What are some ways that come to mind for you? How are you going to be more playful this year?

Make sure to subscribe and leave a review! I would love to hear your ideas about being more playful and child-like. 

For those of you who may not know, I'm writing a book. I never set out to be an author, but God had other plans. 

It was this time 2 years ago I was asking God how I could reach more people to share with them about the Holy Spirit. You know what he told me? "Nikki, write a book." I was in disbelief and pushed this suggestion away for 2 months! It got to the point I had to decide if I was going to take this opportunity or pass it up. 

I am not one to let opportunities pass by even though they may be challenging. I have since been on a journey of writing this book. I've been working on it for almost 2 years and it's safe to say I am close to finishing! I WILL FINISH THIS YEAR! 

In this episode, I share my process of writing a book, choosing an editor, and now the process of designing my cover and researching publishing options. 

If you want to stay up to date on book happenings and eventually join my launch team go to nikkiromani.com/subscribe

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To read the full show notes go to nikkiromani.com/writingabook

Outlets can be anything that bring you joy, and have nothing to do with the project or your job. They need to tap into a different part of your brain. We were not made to be constantly working.  We need to have fun, to let loose and enjoy ourselves. Having an outlet allows us to not be thinking about all the tasks we have to get done. It frees our minds. Helps us feel refreshed. It takes us away from the project at hand and gives us a fresh perspective when we come back to it.

One of Nikki's outlets is snowboarding. It brings her so much joy! She says, "I’m not thinking about everything I have to do, I am in the moment and thinking about what’s in front of me. This is why I love snowboarding so much without listening to music. When I am riding down the mountain, I am in the moment. I feel so free and I’m not thinking about anything else, but where I’m at and the scenery and the turns I’m making."

Even though she was in a horrible snowboarding accident, that hasn't stopped her from the joy snowboarding brings her. Click here to listen to that episode http://nikkiromani.com/2018/12/mystory/

What is your outlet? If you don't know, allow yourself the time to think about it and then do it! What is something you enjoy, makes you come alive, is different than your work?

Share with Nikki your outlets, she would love to hear but writing a review and subscribing! 

A few weeks ago, Nikki posted about her morning routine. You can find that post here 

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The common misconception about a routine is that it will make you feel tied down and not free, when really it’s just the opposite! You will feel more free, more alive, and have more success with a routine. We as humans need routine. We need structure. When we don’t have routine, we feel lost, sometimes unmotivated with no sense of direction.

It’s especially important to have structure and routine during transition. Transitions are a time of stepping into the unknown, stepping into something new. You experience change. And with change and a new experience you can feel at a loss, feel unsure. But when you have some type of routine during this time, you can feel more grounded and have a sense of direction.

Nikki shares about her morning routine and how she plans for her mornings the night before. She does things such as planning tasks for the following day, laying her gym clothes out, and filling her water bottle.

She mentions 2 books to help with this, which you can find here

https://kit.com/nikkiromani/personal-development-books/the-miracle-morning

https://kit.com/nikkiromani/personal-development-books/atomic-habits-an-ea

If you need a guide on 3 simple ways to start getting into a routine go to nikkiromani.com/3simplesteps

If you haven't listened to part one, go back and do so before listening to this part two! 

nikkiromani.com/beingsingle

In part one, Nikki shares what it's like to be single at the age of 30 and what she has learned in this season of singleness. In this second part, Nikki shares about her dating journey. She gets real and honest with her podcast family. She shares what she is currently involved in regards to getting help with finding potential prospects. Listen through to the end of the episode to hear what that thing is. It's not talked about much.

For full show notes go to nikkiromani.com/beingsingle2

Let’s talk about the importance of “me” time.

We live in a busy world, a busy society. But taking time for yourself is important. This is something Nikki learned the hard way and seems to continue learning.

In this episode, Nikki talks about 3 tips to create this space and the importance of it as well as how and when may be the best time to do so.

1. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need.
2. Don’t go too long with this sacred space.
3. Schedule “me” time in your day and stick to it.

She goes more in-depth on each point in this episode. "Me” time can be viewed as selfish, but it’s far from it! In order to love, serve, and care for those around you, you need to take care of yourself first and foremost.

This is valuable time. Commit to yourself. Pick a time of day that works for you. Nikki creates space in the morning. Maybe night time is better for you. You know yourself best. Do what works best for you. But once you schedule it, don’t cancel on yourself. Think of this as scheduling time with a friend. Would you cancel on her time and time again? I sure hope not. You wouldn’t be a good friend if you do.

Nikki mentions another episode she did on The Great Return podcast about routines. You can find that episode here.

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What is something that you have been thinking about and want to do, but haven’t pulled the plug to do it? Something that may scare you a bit, or is out of your comfort zone? 

Doing something that challenges can be physical, mental, even spiritual. Nikki shares a variety of things she was challenged with in the last 5 years. She put a lot of thought into each one, prepared, planned, trained, and did it! 

Nikki shares about doing her first ever triathlon, hiking Mt. Whitney and how she was able to accomplish each thing she challenged herself with. It wasn't easy and requires discipline, diligence, and fun!  

Pick something that pushes you out of your comfort zone and jump in and go for it! But also something that excites you and you have fun doing. Even though it's challenging, you shouldn't dread doing it. 

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nikkiromani.com/challengesyou for pictures of the adventures and accomplishments she mentioned

Do you have a list of "to dos" & don't know where to begin so you never start? Are you overwhelmed? It's a new year and the perfect time to make goals and accomplish them, but how do you do that? Nikki shares some tips. Her first one, start small. Make one change at a time. 

Nikki shares a free resource with 3 simple steps to feel accomplished in a single day which can be found at nikkiromani.com/3simplesteps This is a great place to start if you are at a loss. 

"Goals set direction. Systems are best for making progress." James Clear author of "Atomic Habits" https://kit.com/nikkiromani/personal-development-books/atomic-habits-an-ea

Clutter can distract us from getting stuff done. It can distract us from being productive. Nikki shares about Chalene Johnson's "De-clutter Project" inspiring Nikki to de-clutter her own space to be more creative. The best of the de-clutter project can be found here https://www.chalenejohnson.com/podcasts/best-of-de-clutter-project/

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