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Outside the confines of the penetrating gaze is another reliable and uniquely intelligent way of seeing, one where subtle shifts of shadow and form stand out from the noise. The use of peripheral vision in SE sessions is often a learned practice and something worth exploring. It'll help us see the more subtle postural, micro and preparatory movements that we often miss when we stare intently at our clients. Here are some thoughts on developing the tendency for soft seeing.

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There's so much interesting stuff to learn swirling around SE and the new traumatology. Sometimes we want to grab it all at once. Sometimes we need to pace out our studies. Here's a little cheerleading for my fellow learners along the way.

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There are times that we need to speak quickly, right off the top of our heads. This is especially true in sessions when people are running headlong into harm with their narrative and we're trying to identify, name or reflect the "blue vortex" elements or resources as they pass by. Practicing with moving our mouths can help us respond more fluidly in these moments. I'll encourage you to give it a try.

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Once we've established enough stability, either in the broader or simpler sense of things, we might choose to do some "resiliency testing" where we'll push things to their edge a bit.  This is valuable for information and also for expanding our capacity by progressively increasing the challenges that we take on and being successful with them.

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The way we meet and great our clients is obviously important. Maybe less considered is the pace and tone we use to close the door when saying goodbye.

Sometimes getting where we want to go requires backtracking a bit or even relaxing in the distance we've already come before pressing on to new ground. Considering the "local maximum" can be helpful in determining which is which.

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We often say similar things to different people, creating a kind of "pattern" that gets our message across effectively. This is also helpful in giving us ways to direct people's attention and allow us more free attention for noticing our clients. Together this could be named "patter" and that's the topic of this episode. With a potentially useful example that you can play with as you like.

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A sponsored episode on ways to get passed the guard that clients often have around noticing positive experience when their focus is directed toward the negative. Thanks Michelle.

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When listening to a trauamtic storyline an SEP's questions and reflections influence what a client pays attention to. Here is a simple map to help guide your responses to different categories of story elements. From "I Can" to "I Want" to "Not Me", it's helpful if you've thought about what we're most interested in supporting - Success or Failure?

And then lean in accordingly.

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The first sign of something being different is often the start of a trail worth following (for as long as it provides good "information scent"). Things that stand out are a call to our attention. Here is a little list of things that should stand out to SE Practitioners in SE Sessions, told with a little story of how noticing the differences led to a splendid encounter.