This sermon is about the wild woman and the civilized woman — the two sides of you that society has taught you to treat as opposing forces instead of what they actually are: twin aspects of the same divine power.

Drawing on Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ Women Who Run with the Wolves and bell hooks’ Sisters of the Yam and Communion, this video goes into what it actually costs us to keep these two sides separated, and what it means to become your own container — strong enough to hold both sides with equal fierceness.

This is a continuation of part one, where we laid the foundation for who the wild woman and the civilized woman actually are.

Books used for this sermon:

* Women Who Run with the Wolves — Clarissa Pinkola Estés

* Sisters of the Yam — bell hooks

* Communion — bell hooks

Songs to meditate on:

* “Twin Flame” — Victoria Monét, on what it feels like when you’re in internal divorce, wild and civilized pulling against each other instead of together

* “Gemini” — Princess Nokia, on what it feels like in divine union, fully accepting all of yourself

Go deeper:

* The complete 2026 syllabus : the full theological and literary framework behind this sermon and the year’s theme of duality

* My Divine Union sermon : go here for a deeper dive into what union actually looks and feels like once both sides are integrated

Reflection questions:

Come back into your body before you sit with these.

* Place your hand on your chest. Which one of them is closest to the surface today, and what is she trying to tell you?

* Where in your body do you feel the split most — your throat, your stomach, your chest? What has staying silent or staying small actually felt like physically over time?

* Think about the last time you felt completely like yourself, not performing or managing or shrinking. What did that feel like in your body? What shifted when it was over?

* Who in your life knows both of your names? Sit with that one. What does your body say before your mind answers?

* If your wildness and your civility can exist together without one canceling the other out, what becomes possible for you that hasn’t felt possible before?

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