Two Moms, Too Much Coffee

In this honest and unfiltered episode of Two Moms Too Much Coffee, Tempestt and Jhshell open up about what the first six months of motherhood really looked like—from breastfeeding burnout and sleep deprivation to relationship strain and unexpected moments of joy.

Jhshell shares the emotional toll of losing her milk supply earlier than planned, while Tempestt reflects on how adding a second child impacted her mental health and time with her partner. Together, they dive into what they expected this season of motherhood to look like—and how reality hit different.

Whether you’re deep in the newborn trenches, thinking about baby #2, or just looking to feel seen, this episode will meet you where you are.

What we talk about:

• Breastfeeding struggles and supply issues

• Postpartum anxiety and mental health

• Losing your independence and identity

• The lack of support systems and the myth of the village

• Sweet sibling moments and baby milestones

We want to hear from you:

Have you ever felt like your body ended breastfeeding before you were ready? What helped you feel supported in those early months? DM us or leave a comment.

Invisible labor, childcare costs, eldercare stress, and the nonstop mental load moms carry. We dive deep into the realities of motherhood with the eye-opening book Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez and share our personal experiences that echo the global stats. From the true cost of childcare to why women recover slower from heart surgery, it’s a raw and real conversation on what moms are carrying — and why it’s time for a Long Friday of our own.

0:00 – First fevers & no sleep

3:00 – The mental load of invisible labor

6:45 – Women recovering worse than men

9:15 – The impossible “balance” of career + motherhood

12:30 – Nanny life vs full-time work

16:00 – The childcare bill breakdown ($3,500/month?!)

23:00 – How motherhood rewires your brain

25:00 – Eldercare: the next unpaid shift

28:00 – TLDR: we need a strike

Pumping while traveling, hotel fridge “Refrigerator Gate,” Emilie Kaiser’s return, fall mom routines, toddler activities, baby-led weaning, and rebuilding community.

This week we dive into the chaos of pumping on work trips when hotels don’t provide fridges, plus our honest take on Emily Kaiser’s emotional return to TikTok. We share how our fall routines are shifting with toddlers, new foods we’re trying, and how building community (and even date nights) matters in this season of motherhood.

How do you keep your kids safe around dogs without giving up the love and chaos that come with family pets? Certified dog trainer Alyssa Wright (@Alyssa.Brynn12) joins Two Moms Too Much Coffee to unpack bite prevention, dog body language, resource guarding, and how to prepare your dog before a baby arrives.We cover it all: the overlap between gentle parenting and reward-based training, when rehoming may be the safest option, and why modeling behavior matters more than “cute” social media moments. Whether you’re introducing a newborn to your dog, navigating toddlers who grab tails, or deciding if your family is ready for a pet, this episode gives you the knowledge and confidence to do it safely.Chapters0:00 Welcome and guest intro1:16 Alyssa’s background in dog training and shelters4:27 How to prepare your dog before baby arrives8:20 Cats, cribs, and early prep stories12:36 Strollers, toys, and practicing with baby gear13:00 Top 3 safety tips for dogs and kids25:14 Choosing a family dog by personality, not breed31:15 Gentle parenting vs reward-based dog training35:39 When rehoming may be the right decision40:14 Dog bite statistics parents should know45:20 Modeling safe behavior for kids around dogs47:48 Kid-safe training games and two-toy fetch48:46 Meet Alyssa’s dogsResources Mentioned• Be Bite Smart: centerforcaninebehaviorstudies.org/bebitesmart• Dog Aware Sensitivities (Family Paws): familypaws.com/dogaware• Doggone Safe Directory (Pet Professional Guild): petprofessionalguild.com/doggone-safe-directory• Doggie Language by Lili Chin: doggiedrawings.net• Puppy Talk by Jess French: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2195782/jess-french/

**TRIGGER WARNING**

NICU and Birth Trauma

This week Tempestt shares Abel’s NICU birth story for NICU Awareness Month. We talk through a marathon labor, an epidural that didn’t take, meconium and a knotted cord, an initial APGAR of 0, and the urgent move to the NICU. We cover the first hours with CPAP, donor milk, temperature goals, and discharge after 24 hours. We also reflect on trauma, healing, and why hospital NICUs save lives. If you’re a NICU parent and want to share your story, reach out — we’d love to have you on.

00:00 Welcome and weekly check-in

01:12 Sleep regressions and teething updates

03:14 Social battery, motherhood, and filling your cup

07:40 Why we are sharing this now for NICU Awareness Month

08:30 Trigger warning and start of Abel’s birth story

10:47 Triage delays and the epidural saga

14:23 Pitocin, shivering, and pain management

17:25 Pushing at +2 station and meds wearing off

19:17 Meconium, cord around neck twice, APGAR 0

22:06 NICU transfer, CPAP, and first hours

25:26 Skin-to-skin, donor milk, and stabilization

28:02 Temperature goals and discharge at 24 hours

29:07 Looking back: anxiety, development, and healing

31:29 Why hospital NICUs matter

33:33 Costs, length of stay, and different NICU journeys

38:39 Invitation to share your story and closing

Allergens are a whole job. We dig into how we’re introducing peanut, egg, soy, tree nuts, fish, and sesame with daycare schedules, eczema concerns, and big feelings. We compare BLW vs purees, talk through an egg reaction and baked-egg tolerance, and share realistic ways to keep exposure going after that first weekend trial. Plus: fair rides, home videos, and the iPhone shared-album hack that keeps our storage chaos under control.

Not medical advice. Talk to your pediatrician.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome back + no one is sleeping

01:20 Labor Day road trip and fair rides

04:00 Why we film home videos and how we store them

06:30 First bubbles and the mystery meltdown

08:50 Why allergens took over our text messages

10:20 What changed since our parents’ era

12:10 Tempestt’s approach with Abel vs Sequoia

13:40 Egg reaction story and baked-egg milestone

15:50 Daycare timing and weekend-only allergen trials

17:30 Anxiety, ER parking lot myth, and what’s actually common

19:40 BLW vs purees and how we’ll try fish

21:30 Second-kid energy and french fries at the fair

22:50 How we pace new foods and keep exposure going

24:40 Family history of allergies and what worried us most

27:00 Egg-free breakfasts and realistic swaps

28:20 What’s left on our allergen list

30:10 Passing the baton to partners when anxiety spikes

33:05 No unsolicited advice this week, send us yours

33:45 Wrap up

This week on Two Moms Too Much Coffee, we get brutally honest about the realities of mom life — the things we surprisingly don’t miss from our pre-mom days, and the ones we deeply do.

From sleep regressions that left both our households wide awake at 2 AM, to missing couch-potato Saturdays, spontaneous adventures, and even jeans that used to just… fit — nothing is off-limits.

We also dive into the flip side: no more hangovers, no more fake friendships, and way less awkward small talk thanks to our kids. It’s a real, unfiltered conversation that every mom will relate to.

If you’ve ever said, “I just miss being lazy without guilt” or “I don’t miss those old friendships that faded away,” this episode is for you.

Grab your coffee (and maybe some headphones if your kids are nearby), and join us as we laugh, vent, and validate all the things that come with motherhood.

00:00 – Welcome back & why we had to reschedule

00:45 – The night of zero sleep (mom solidarity)

03:40 – Do babies telepathically plan sleep regressions?

07:15 – What we don’t miss about pre-mom life

08:20 – No more hangovers (thank God)

09:30 – Small talk made easier with kids

11:00 – Real vs. fake friendships after baby

13:50 – Cuddles, love languages, and unexpected touchiness

15:55 – What we do miss most after becoming moms

16:30 – Sleep and couch potato Saturdays

18:15 – Champagne Sundays & thrillers (and why that’s over)

19:30 – Missing spontaneity and freedom

23:15 – Over-touched, over-stimulated, and over it

24:30 – Traveling without kids feels impossible

28:15 – Running late to everything now

29:50 – Losing focus in conversations with kids around

30:55 – Postpartum anxiety, therapy updates, and mental health check-in

37:00 – Unsolicited advice & closing out

Baby clothes are cute, pricey, and often overhyped. In this episode, we break down what’s worth buying (bamboo pajamas, two-way zips) and what you can skip (tiny pants, anyone?). From hand-me-downs and grandma splurges to the emotions of packing away newborn onesies, we keep it real about baby clothes and how fast our little ones grow

00:00 Mom life updates & sleep regressions

04:19 The endless baby gear cycle

07:50 Formula, pumping & National Breastfeeding Month shoutout

15:35 Diving into baby clothes: bamboo pajamas & two-way zips

20:21 Where we shop: Old Navy, Little Sleepies, and secondhand finds

23:28 Grandmas, gifts & the “monthly clothes order”

27:18 Target, Carter’s, and baby sleep sacks

28:58 Why pants don’t make sense for babies

30:11 Saving vs. giving away baby clothes

32:12 Seasons, siblings, and the baby clothing industry

35:23 Naked baby life & Babylist recommendations

36:50 Unsolicited Mom Advice: grieving the newborn clothes stage

41:13 Do we really miss the 0–1 year phase?

42:37 What’s coming next week

We’re back, moms, and catching up on everything from late-night moon hunts with Abel to Naya’s first bites of peas and sweet potato. We’re swapping baby updates, laughing about our toddlers’ quirks, and getting real about how different parenting styles actually work (or don’t) with different kids.

We break down that viral Wall Street Journal article, “Goodbye Gentle Parenting. Hello, ‘Find Out’,” sharing our own experiences balancing boundaries with connection, and why “gentle” isn’t the same as “permissive.”

Plus, we’re talking real self-care six months into motherhood (think gym time, massages, solo Target runs) and the jaw-dropping cost of formula and diapers in 2025. If you’ve ever wondered where discipline meets love, or how moms actually make time for themselves, grab your coffee and join us.

In this episode, Tempestt and Jhshell unpack the chaos and comedy of traveling with a baby, evolving friendships, and where to meet your next mom BFF.

Whether you’re a new mom or a seasoned pro, this one is full of laughter, real talk, and a blowout at 30,000 feet.

Chapters:

• 00:01 Intro and Travel Talk

• 00:41 Flying with Naya: The Trip Begins

• 01:37 Meltdown at 30,000 Feet

• 03:25 Blowout in the Sky

• 05:01 Preparing for Future Flights

• 06:25 Letting Baby Crawl in the Airport

• 07:17 Breastfeeding, Frozen Milk, and Supply Worries

• 09:04 Army Crawling Adventures

• 11:01 Pool Days and Baby Naps

• 13:05 Sleep Trouble at Grandma’s

• 15:22 Evolving Friendships as a Mom

• 19:21 How to Make Mom Friends

• 34:54 Unsolicited Advice: Friendships After Kids

• 38:39 Final Thoughts and Wrap Up