Tying Things Together

In this episode, I discuss the topic of negotiation and how I typically conduct my pre-play scene negotiations. Negotiating contact and play is one of my favorite parts of kink, negotiating offers you a chance to be open and honest about your desires and to receive open and honest responses back. Listen as I discuss some of the basics of negotiation. 

I want to offer my sincere apologies for not uploading an episode last week. I was emotionally exhausted after being "ambushed" with a group debate on racism and Blackness in America. In this episode, I'll share the story and some of my thoughts on Bipoc and the emotional labor we are oftentimes forced to endure.

In this episode, I discuss my experience dealing with Racism surrounding Kink Fest, and my disappointment in how the PLA and its leadership handled it.

The first step to getting what you want is being able to ask for what you want. When it comes to sex, kink, and sexuality most of us carry around guilt, shame, and the memories of bad experiences, all of these things can make us hesitate when it comes to asking for what we want. In this episode, I'll start to unpack those feelings and share some of my advice on how to start asking for what you want.

In this episode, I discuss code-switching and how it has affected me and how I move through my world as a black man. As I start to unpack code-switching I was almost shocked to find a voice I never knew I had freely given up. 

In this episode, I explore some of the hard truths of my life as I navigate through America as a black man.

For those of you wanting to help make a change and do something about the senseless murder of black men, women, and children at the hands of police all over this nation please follow these links:

8 Can't Wait
Color of Change

For those of you that still don't know what you can do to help the cause or help your black friends:

Click Here

I've been asked this question several times and typically I don't discuss it because I've always deemed it "too personal". The point of this podcast, however, is for me to be open, honest and to share more of myself. In this episode, I take all of that to heart and discuss how having kids has changed my poly, my kink, and my life overall.

In this episode of the Pod, I'm joined by one of my best friends "Big Mike". Mike and I share some experiences we've had that looking back on them we realized were "red flag" moments. Join us as we discuss some of these red flags in what I hope will become a reoccurring episode format on Red Flags in and around the kink community.

Learn more about Mike here:

Mike Payne
@ropesnob

This is the second half of the answer to the question: How can YOU get started in rope? In this week's episode, I answer the question from the rope bottom's (the person being tied) perspective.

In this episode, I mention some books and folks who are doing great work providing online classes during this age of social distancing here are some of those folks and links to their books and classes.

My favorite book for beginners:

Better Bondage for Every Body
By: Evie Vane

People offering awesome online tutorials:

@Missannabones
@Notcamdamage

Basic Single Column Tie
Basic Double Column Tie

Places to buy bondage Rope:

Twisted Monk
Anatomie Studios

In this episode, I answer a follow-up question to the last episode. A lot of people ask me how they can get started in rope, this episode in part one of the answer to that question. I go into detail on how to get started as a rope top (the person tying the rope). Next week I'll answer the question from the other perspective.

In this episode, I mention some books and folks who are doing great work providing online classes during this age of social distancing here are some of those folks and links to their books and classes.

My favorite book for beginners:

Better Bondage for Every Body
By: Evie Vane

People offer awesome online tutorials:

@Missannabones
@Notcamdamage

Basic Single Column Tie
Basic Double Column Tie