There are nine things Christian students should be thinking about as they head off to college.Audio
TranscriptThe transition from living at home to living off at college, even if that college is in your same town, is one of the largest transitions a person can undergo in life, sometimes even greater than the transition from single to married. Because you're moving from a place you've lived in — generally in comfort for 18 years, where you've been supervised, you've had a support system, you've had an accountability structure in some form or fashion — to a place where you can do whatever you want, no one knows you, there's no accountability and there's total freedom.
That can and should be a scary thought, because as scripture teaches, we are all pointed towards and have evil desires. Man is fundamentally fallen, and yes, God redeems that and gives us a new nature, but we still have sinful impulses. When we don't have a community and a support system and an accountability structure to temper those, we should have some caution there.
I have nine steps, nine things to think about as you head off to college. Parents, these would be maybe good things to talk about with your child if you're listening to this.
1. Decide Today Whom You're Going To Serve
The first one is simply decide today whom you're going to serve. Joshua said, "As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord." In the same verse he's telling other people you need to decide who you're going to serve.
Right off the bat, you need to make a commitment to serve God, to have his priorities be your priorities. Now this might seem very foundational, but in a time where you're going to have incredible change in your life — you're going to have meals be different, you're going to have tons of organizations vying for your time, attention, and energies, new friends, different classes, all of this, and a lack of support and accountability — you need to make the first thing be the first thing. That starts with making a commitment to honor God with how you live and make that a conscious action.
If you have a goal in life to run a marathon and you never actually write that down, you never actually make that a goal or make it a priority, you're not going to achieve it. In order to have any hope of living for God, you've got to make living for God a priority in your mind.
2. Be Willing To Talk With Everyone
Step number two is much more simple in some ways. Be willing to talk with everyone. I wouldn't turn anyone off when it comes to sitting next to them, talking with them, hanging out with them, getting a meal, a cup of coffee. Who knows how the spirit will use you in the lives of the people you're around, regardless of your biases and prejudices. We should be willing to talk with everyone and anyone. That doesn't mean every conversation starts with "Have you heard about Jesus?"
What it should involve, though, is being sensitive to what the other person is saying and taking opportunities to put a stone in their shoe, give them something to think about with regards to spiritual things or faith or the Gospel. Be willing to talk with everyone.
3. Don't Waste Your Time With Everyone
Don't waste your time with everyone. Be willing to talk with everyone but realize that doesn't mean that you have to always talk with that person you started with, because there are going to be some people who just want to argue. There are going to be some people who honestly are going to be a bad influence on you, and bad company corrupts good morals. You need to know yourself well when it comes to choosing what situations you're going to allow yourself to be in.
It is worth saying that eating with tax collectors and sinners still works. That was Jesus' MO — his pattern of operation — he we…