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What happens when the schoolyard bully grows up and enters the workforce?

In this episode of Unarmored Talk, I sit down with Joseph Musse II, author of Bullies: They’re Not Just in Schoolyards Anymore, to explore how bullying follows us into adulthood—showing up in workplaces through intimidation, manipulation, humor, authority, and the pressure to constantly overdeliver.

Joseph gets unarmored about his own past, including admitting he once bullied others, and how those experiences helped him recognize similar behaviors later in his career. We unpack boundaries, identity, control, the power of saying “no,” and recognizing when dedication to your job starts costing you your peace.

🎙️ Whether you work in corporate America, government, the military, education, healthcare, the trades, or anywhere in between, this conversation is for you.

CHAPTERS
0:00 — Welcome And The Big Question
1:20 — Share The Show And Meet Joseph
2:12 — A Life Built On Skill And Faith
5:36 — From Teen Bully To Self-Reflection
10:25 — Getting Bullied In Corporate Life
13:36 — Guilt Trips, Subtle Threats, Control
24:31 — Boundaries, Balance, Saying No
27:39 — The Blueprint To Becoming Unbullyable
34:47 — Consequences, Purpose, And The Mirror

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🔗 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmusse

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Bullies: They’re Not Just in Schoolyards Anymore!  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015CYHD80?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_2V3AAPJ7Q88DHBQ44JVH&bestFormat=true

Bullies: The Blueprint to Becoming Unbullyable - https://www.amazon.com/BULLIES-Blueprint-Unbullyable-Joseph-Musse-ebook/dp/B0HD1L5KFC

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When was the last time you realized that you—not your team—were part of the leadership problem?

That realization can be painful, but it can also begin your most important growth.

In this episode, Dr. Lisa DeVore, United States Air Force veteran and author of Pawprints on Leadership, shares how she confronted a low-empathy leadership moment and chose to grow from it.

We discuss how authoritarian leadership models can cause us to prioritize rules and results over people, why reflection and apology matter, and how emotional intelligence and active listening make us better leaders.

Lisa also explores the importance of followership and the lessons she learned from Bailey, her service dog—including the powerful truth that sometimes the person leading us has no title or words, just greater awareness.

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Book — Pawprints on Leadership: [https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0G2L2VZ89?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SAMWGJ2YXEZ7DBNCB1PP&bestFormat=true]

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Chapters

00:00 — Welcome and Guest Introduction
02:49 — Lisa’s Air Force-to-Space Force Path
04:21 — Owning a Low-Empathy Leadership Moment
07:15 — How Authoritarian Models Shaped Her
08:41 — Why a Trusted Teammate Stayed
12:51 — Followership as a Leadership Skill
16:32 — Letting Bailey Lead When It Matters
18:29 — Pause, Observe, and Give Yourself Grace
20:01 — Where to Find Lisa and Final Sendoff

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What happens when the funniest military memories also carry the deepest meaning?

I’m joined by my friend and fellow Marine, retired Master Gunnery Sergeant Adam Walker, to discuss his self-published book, Laughing and Crying as a U.S. Marine: Authentic Short Stories.

Adam shares his five-year writing plan, why he chose self-publishing, and how he made military stories accessible to Marines and their families. We also discuss building the right creative team and his hilarious boot camp “moment of truth.”

Chapters:

0:00 – Welcome and Adam Walker’s Story
2:25 – Getting the Book and Finding Adam
3:20 – Building a Five-Year Writing Plan
7:00 – Self-Publishing Without Losing Control
10:32 – Boot Camp Truth and the Candy Bar
12:50 – Writing for Marines and Families
16:10 – Cover Design and the Creative Team
18:39 – Trust Your Gut and Wrap-Up

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Have You Been So Busy Taking Care of Everyone Else That You Forgot About Yourself?

In this episode, I am joined by Amber Houghton, a retired U.S. Air Force Chief Master Sergeant and founder of Elite Performance Strategies. Together, we explore the leadership trap—the tendency to spend so much time caring for others that we lose sight of ourselves.

Amber shares how military service, leadership, retirement, divorce, and personal transition challenged her identity and taught her the importance of resilience, healthy boundaries, and self-care. Whether you're a leader, parent, caregiver, veteran, or someone others depend on, this conversation offers practical insights to help you care for others without abandoning yourself.

👇 Chapters:

0:00 Welcome And Meet Amber Houghton
1:45 A Rough Start And A 28-Year Career
6:08 When The Strong One Falls Apart
8:22 Divorce, Blame, And The Cost Of Armor
11:16 The Helper Addiction And The Boundary Wake-Up
14:38 Enforcing Boundaries With Kindness
17:00 Ask Better Questions Before You Help
19:35 Do Not Abandon Yourself
21:11 Connection Over Isolation And Closing

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What's one boundary you're working to strengthen?

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Have you ever wondered how one moment can change the rest of your life?

A rollover crash on a dark Montana highway changed everything for Army veteran Darshan Shanti. The accident left him with a traumatic brain injury, severe injuries to his hand and arm, and a year-long recovery that forced one powerful question: What meaning do you attach to what happened?

In this episode, Darshan shares his journey from Army medic to survivor, revealing how resilience, perspective, and embracing progress—not chasing the "old version" of himself—transformed his recovery.

We also have an honest conversation about mental health. Darshan opens up about his personal experiences with medication side effects, including suicidal thoughts while taking gabapentin, how THC negatively affected him during recovery, and the challenges of living with multiple sclerosis. Together, we discuss why self-awareness, asking for help, and support from trusted friends and healthcare professionals can make a life-saving difference.

Chapters
00:00 – Welcome & Guest Introduction
01:43 – Army Life & Constant Pressure
04:38 – The Montana Rollover & Recovery
07:39 – Mindset & The Meaning We Choose
10:34 – Medication Side Effects & Dark Thoughts
16:08 – A Future That Pulls You Forward
18:43 – Self-Love & Getting Help
20:31 – How To Connect & Final Words

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What separates someone who has a leadership title from someone people genuinely want to follow?

In this episode, I am joined by Mark J. O’Loughlin, a retired Marine Corps Sergeant Major whose 30-year career includes infantry leadership, drill instructor duty, deployments to Desert Storm and Iraq, and senior roles supporting wounded Marines. Mark shares lessons from his new book, Validated Leadership, built around five practical leadership rules designed for real life—not just theory.

We discuss why organizations often promote top performers into leadership roles without preparing them to lead, what behaviors help teams succeed, and how empathy, accountability, and difficult conversations shape stronger leaders.

Whether you're leading a team, a family, or stepping into a new leadership role, this conversation delivers practical takeaways you can apply immediately.

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome and Mission Plus Thanks
2:34 From Iowa Farm to Sergeant Major
5:46 Helping Veterans Through Psych Armor Work
7:19 Building Leadership Rules into A Book
9:40 The Moment He Started Writing
13:00 Rule One: Care About People
15:20 Learn More About Mark and Validated Leadership 
17:11 Financial Counseling and Hard Truths
20:55 One Practical Tip for New Authors
22:19 Final Takeaways and Sign Off

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Who are you when the uniform comes off?

In this episode of Unarmored Talk, I sit down with Angeletha Long, a U.S. Army veteran of 24 years and leadership strategist, to unpack one of the hardest questions veterans face after service: Who are you—really?

We go beyond the surface of transition and get into the identity shift that happens when the structure, mission, and title you’ve lived by are no longer there. Angeletha shares how this question showed up in her own life, how mental health counseling became a turning point, and why so many veterans struggle in silence trying to redefine themselves.

This conversation challenges the idea that identity is something you “find.” Instead, it’s something you build—through changing your environment, taking small steps, and surrounding yourself with the right people. From isolation to community, from overthinking to action, this episode offers a practical and honest look at rebuilding purpose after service.

If you’re navigating life after the military or questioning who you are beyond what you did, this episode will help you start answering that question with intention.

⏱️ Chapters

0:00 Welcome And Guest Introduction
 1:24 Losing Yourself In Roles
 4:54 Leaving Service And Identity Shock
 9:24 Therapy As The Turning Point
 10:24 Change Your Environment To Think
 12:21 Purpose Grows Through Small Steps
 14:27 Community Networks And Real Support
 20:15 Jamaica And The Power Of Travel
 21:24 The Mentorship Regret And Lesson
 23:45 Where To Find Angelita Closing

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The hardest pushback often comes from the people closest to you—so what if that resistance is actually confirmation you’re on the right path?

In this episode of Unarmored Talk, I sit down with Rachel Singletary—minister, facilitator, and leader—to talk about what obedience really looks like when your calling demands growth, discipline, and time. We get honest about the refining process people don’t post—the part that humbles you, stretches you, and challenges your relationships.

Rachel breaks down why resistance often starts at home, how to stay grounded when people bring up your past, and why being “qualified” isn’t the requirement for your calling. We also discuss the power of silence—why “no answer is an answer,” and how staying calm protects your peace and purpose.

If you care about faith, purpose, leadership, and mental fitness, this conversation will meet you where you are.

👉 Where do you feel the most pushback right now?

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YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@lifedesignsbyracheljanielle
Website: rachelsingletary.carrd.co

Chapters:
0:05 – Welcome And Meet Rachel
1:18 – Her Call To Teach
4:20 – Obedience And The Refining Process
7:53 – Resistance From People Closest
10:24 – What’s Next: Outreach And Nations
12:04 – The Power Of Silence
16:09 – When Waiting Makes You Weary
19:24 – Self-Worth And How To Find Her

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Cancer isn’t a solo fight—especially for veterans. But too many are still fighting it alone.

In this episode, Marine Corps couples Joe and Jennifer Worthy, and Casey and Ashton Kroner, share the reality behind colon cancer, testicular cancer, remission, and the grind of chemo. This is the side of cancer you don’t see—shock, denial, constant appointments, and the strain of trying not to lose your identity as husband and wife while cancer pushes you into patient and caregiver roles.

We break down veteran cancer risks—burn pits, Gulf War exposure, Camp Lejeune water, asbestos—and why one question from a doctor, “Have you ever served?”, can change everything.

If you’re a veteran or caregiver navigating this alone, this conversation offers real steps: build support, advocate for your care, and get screened early.

👉 Veteran Cancer Network: https://veterancancernetwork.org/

⏱️ Episode Breakdown

00:00 Welcome To Unarmored Talk
 01:06 Meet The Veterans And Spouses
 04:02 What Diagnosis Teaches About Support
 06:46 Caregiver Shock And Daily Logistics
 13:38 Finding Help When You Feel Alone
 19:10 Military Exposures And Service Connection
 24:54 Screening Early And Self Advocacy
 28:40 Resources Thanks And Sign Off

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What if success isn’t the right career?

In this Unarmored Talk podcast episode, I sit down with U.S. Army veteran Frank Van Buren, author of Life Lessons from the Cockpit, to explore his journey from flying night missions to Wall Street—and the realization that success alone doesn’t equal fulfillment.

A chance conversation on a beach in Cyprus during the Beirut Air Bridge set everything in motion. It led to business school, a career in finance, and ultimately a deeper truth: purpose comes from alignment, not just achievement.

Frank breaks down three leadership lessons you can use immediately:

Growth happens in adversity
Fear of regret outweighs fear of failure
Self-awareness reveals your strengths

If you’re navigating transition, leadership, or purpose, this conversation will help you choose meaning over burnout.

👉 What’s one decision you’re making today that your future self will thank you for?

⏱️ Chapters
0:06 – Welcome And Meet Frank
1:24 – Support The Mission
2:19 – Patriotism And Service
4:35 – Night Missions And Turning Point
8:48 – Wall Street And Leadership Shift
12:41 – Three Lessons From The Cockpit
16:46 – Meaning Over Money
20:13 – Talent Alignment And Where To Connect

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