The aftermath of leaving a high control group as a queer person is something we don't talk about enough. I shed light on:

-the control tactics that infiltrated my sex and relationships

-why I once said, "I would have sex with a woman but I could never be in a relationship with one"

-exploring thought crime

-What is self monitoring and why its a harmful habit

-and how I finally found self acceptance and joy in my body and in my queer intimacy

This is my favorite episode yet! Share your experiences with religious dogma below so we can normalize our experiences.

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What does it mean when you want to submit in the bedroom, but not in your daily life? Are you enacting the patriarchy? Can you choose what turns you on? I challenge you to listen with curiosity and leave the judgement at the door.

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When you love your partner so much but the sex is non existent, does it mean you're with the wrong person?

Why do you get along so well but when it comes to sex it feels... forced?

Listen for why improving the relationship doesn't usually fix your sex life, and how to begin bridging the gap between love and desire.

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What happens when you're SO into her and you enjoy the way she touches you, but your orgasm feels elusive? Why can you cum on your own but not with a partner?

Listen to find out:

>the hidden meaning of struggling to orgasm

>the wrong goal most people chase that makes orgasm more difficult and what to focus on instead

>how to talk about it without your partner feeling blamed

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If you've ever googled how to look more gay, this is for you. Learn how to stop pressuring yourself to fit into a box, where that pressure comes from, and how to accept yourself as queer enough no matter what you look like or how much makeup you wear.

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How do you keep your mind from wandering to work or if you smell weird? Is there a way to refocus or are you doomed to enduring distracted sex to keep your partner satisfied?

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How can you feel satisfied when your libido is higher than your partner's? What do you do when the tension of your sex life is affecting the rest of your relationship? How do you stop feeling like your high sex drive is a burden to your partner?Listen to this week's episode to learn: ✨Stop the cycle- how to stop feeling rejected and actually feel closer to your partner✨Understanding desire: Learn how to collaborate with your partner instead of feeling like enemies on separate sides of the room.✨Making intimacy appealing: How to initiate sexual connection in a way that feels pressure free and fun for both of you.

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How do you fix low libido? What do you do when your partner wants sex more often (or a lot more often) than you?

How do you stop feeling like 'the problem'?

Listen to this week's episode to learn: 

✨The Real Path to Desire- how to activate your desire whenever you want, without needing to be on vacation to feel it

✨Debunking Myths: Why what you're experiencing as ‘low libido’ is actual just a simple misunderstanding of how desire really works

✨Stop pointing the finger: How to stop blaming yourself and create a thriving sex life, no pressure required.

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When the body positive affirmations fail, what do you do next? How do you close the gap between knowing you're 'supposed' to love your body and all the judgements and not good enough-ness that gets in the way?

In this episode, you'll learn:

-why affirmations don't work

-the unique challenge of body acceptance queer people face

-how to ACTUALLY love your body.

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What do you do when your partner tells you they have sexual trauma? You love them, but are scared of making it worse by doing something wrong. How do you help them feel safe?

In this episode, I share the common, harmful dynamic couples fall into when one of them has experienced sexual trauma, and how to create a thriving relationship using a proven framework that helps your partner feel supported without losing yourself in the relationship.

NOTE: if your partner's sexual trauma is interfering with their quality of life, encourage them to get support from a qualified professional, whether that's me or someone else.

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