Please welcome my guest Cindy Mulonas!  She lives outside of Detroit, Michigan, and is the mother of three children. In addition, she has coached many high-profile personalities in her work and has helped them overcome childhood abuse.

Being Attracted to Toxic Relationships

“For some reason, in the past, I was attracted to people who were not good for me.” She met her boyfriend in high school and was dating him for some time when they moved to Michigan together. He publicly ridiculed and mocked Cindy, including making fun of her when she gained weight. After three years, she left that relationship and entered into another more abusive one.

Looking Back at her Journals

When she looks back at her journals, she can see the patterns of abuse and what she lived through. At the age of 24, her boyfriend was gaslighting her and blaming her for all relationship issues. Cindy felt that she could change him and make him a different person. These are the moments she wants others to be aware of in relationships and how to avoid these types of people.

Making Excuses to Stay in an Abusive Situation

Cindy realized that she was making excuses about her relationship to stay married. “You stay in an abusive situation because you feel that you aren’t qualified to stand on your own.” Also, your self-esteem can become so low that you don’t believe you can accomplish what you set out to do.

She was the only income earner in the family; however, her husband spent money but refused to work. He took out multiple loans against their home and physically abused her daily. Cindy remembers patching up holes in their walls after he punched through them numerous times. Lastly, they took his dad in their home, who was dying of cancer, and he verbally abused his father on his deathbed.

Listen in to find out how Cindy broke the cycle of abuse and the importance of leaving an abusive relationship.

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