Uncoupled & Unfiltered

On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I’m joined by Masha Rusanov, a Conflict Navigation Specialist, coach, and court mediator who helps people navigate divorce and separation.

Masha is the author of Repatterned and creator of the Exhale–Explore–Engage® method, combining professional expertise with personal experience.

We explore losing yourself in relationships, recognizing unhealthy patterns, and finding growth through the healing process.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why we tend to lose ourselves in relationships and what drives that pattern.
• How those patterns form and the ways they typically show up in real life.
• What it actually means to reprogram old relational patterns and begin shifting them.
• Healing redefined: does it mean erasing old wounds, or learning to live differently with them?
• The Exhale–Explore–Engage® framework and how it supports emotional regulation and growth.
• Navigating high-conflict dynamics, including the emotions we suppress and how to safely release them.
• Rebuilding a sense of safety in relationships—and whether that process can happen alone or only through connection with others.
• How trust in yourself is rebuilt by also rebuilding trust in the people around you, whether existing relationships or new ones.

“When you have someone in front of you who are going through something similar, and you share something vulnerable, you suddenly see that people are accepting you, and nobody is attacking you, and you learn that it's possible. That's how we heal relationship wounds.” - Masha Rusanov

About Our Guest: Masha Rusanov

Masha Rusanov is a Conflict Navigation Specialist, ICF-credentialed coach, and court mediator who helps people move through divorce and separation without losing themselves in the process. She's the author of Repatterned and the creator of the Exhale-Explore-Engage® method. After 20+ years in Silicon Valley and her own experience with divorce and blended family life, she brings both professional training and lived personal perspective to the work.

Who This Episode Is For:

• You’ve ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships and want to understand why that happens.
• You’re in the middle of (or healing from) a breakup or divorce and trying to make sense of the emotional patterns involved.
• You’re working on breaking old relational habits and learning how to respond differently in conflict.
• You’re curious about what real healing looks like beyond just “moving on” or “getting over it.”
• You want to rebuild trust in yourself and your relationships while navigating high-conflict emotional dynamics.

Want to transform your conflict defaults and reclaim your life? Check out Masha’s book, “Repatterned,” by clicking on this link: repatternedbook.com 

Connect with Masha Rusanov:

Website: masharusanov.com 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MashaRusanov 

X (Twitter): https://x.com/masha3003?s=20 

Substack: masharusanov.substack.com 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@masharusanov  

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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In this episode, I sit down with Arlina Allen, founder of Arlina Allen Coaching, who works at the intersection of addiction recovery and self-esteem. If you have lived through a high-conflict divorce, you know how deeply connected these two areas are.

Arlina uses IFS, hypnosis, and coaching to address the parts of you that learned to numb out, shrink, or self-destruct to survive. We explore how coping mechanisms start as survival tools and quietly become habits you cannot break, how to recognize when you have crossed the line, and what actually works when you are ready to heal (spoiler: it is not always cold turkey).

If you have ever poured a drink to navigate a custody battle, buried yourself in work, or done anything to escape your reality, this episode is for you.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why reaching for something to numb the pain is one of the most human responses to a traumatizing experience — and why that matters more than the judgment around it.
• The psychology of addiction: what the cycle actually looks like and why it's so hard to see from inside it.
• The Stoplight Theory — a framework for honestly assessing your relationship with whatever you're using to cope, and where you actually fall on that spectrum.
• The link between self-esteem and addiction, and why one almost always feeds the other.
• The full picture of what addiction can look like: shopping, work, sex, drugs, alcohol — and why the "acceptable" ones are just as worth examining.
• Triggers, parts work, and what IFS reveals about why you keep reaching for the same thing.
• How hypnosis and IFS work together to interrupt the cycle at the root — not just manage the symptom.

“The purpose of obsession is distraction. It's distraction from pain you're not able to process to resolution.” - Arlina Allen

About Our Guest: Arlina Allen

Arlina Allen is a bestselling author, recovery coach, speaker, podcast host, and creator of the ReInvent app. Sober for 32 years, she spent over three decades helping people overcome addiction, stress, and self-limiting beliefs. Following a tech sales career in Silicon Valley, Arlina discovered that the identity transformation principles driving lasting recovery also help high achievers unlock wealth and purpose. Today, she teaches a practical approach to manifestation rooted in identity, mindset, and intentional action. As host of a Top 1% podcast, Arlina has interviewed hundreds of experts in psychology, neuroscience, and personal growth to help people stop living from fear and transform their lives.

Who This Episode Is For:

• You have been white-knuckling through a high-conflict divorce and wonder what "getting through it" is costing you.
• You are drinking, working, or spending more, and while you are not ready to call it a problem, you know it is not fine.
• Your self-worth took a hit in the marriage or courtroom, and you are starting to see how that fuels your current habits.
• You have tried to quit or cut back, but willpower alone keeps failing, and you want to understand why.
• You are ready to do real healing work beyond surviving the next hearing and want an approach deeper than talking in circles.

Connect with Arlina Allen:

Website: https://makesobrietystick.com & https://www.selfesteemcourse.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arlinaallen/ 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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On today's episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I'm joined by Regina De Angelis — 28 years inside the divorce world as an attorney, coach, and mediator. She's seen what the system does to families from the inside, lived it herself, and walked away from the traditional model to build something different. She calls it the 21st Century Family Transition program.

Today we're getting into how you can get divorced — even from an ex from hell — without ever setting foot in a courtroom.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why every divorce filing is a lawsuit — and how to avoid going to war with your ex
• Taking down the temperature in a high-conflict dynamic
• What makes the 21st Century Family Transition program different
• Can every divorce be mediated — and when litigation is truly unavoidable
• The key to surviving it

“This is your time to focus on your healing now. Like, let yourself trust that the kids are going to have a good time. They're going to come back fine. And now, probably for the first time since you had them, you can do whatever you want.” - Regina De Angelis

About Our Guest: Regina De Angelis

Regina De Angelis - 28 years as a family law attorney, coach, and mediator — and a difficult divorce of her own. Regina walked away from the traditional model to develop the 21st Century Family Transition program — a complete alternative to the lengthy, costly, and traumatic court process. Her work is built on one belief: that even with a vengeful or narcissistic ex, it's possible to come out of this with your well-being — and your kids' — intact.

This Episode Is For You If:

• You're in the middle of a high-conflict divorce, and court feels inevitable
• You want to understand your options before your attorney makes that decision for you
• You're paying legal fees that are bleeding you dry and wondering if there's another way
• You have an ex from hell and still want to come out of this without destroying everything

Our step-by-step divorce preparation course: https://www.ftdivorcecoaching.com/diycourse 

Connect with Regina De Angelis:

Website: www.ftdivorcecoaching.com

Social Media: @family_transitions

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@21stcenturyfamilytransitions 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I’m joined by Marc Garelick, Founder and Managing Partner of Garelick Family Law and one of Orange County’s leading family law attorneys. For more than 17 years, Marc has represented clients in some of California’s most complex family law cases, from high-asset divorces and complex property division to custody disputes, domestic violence matters, and child and spousal support.

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the most misunderstood—and often contentious—aspects of divorce: child support. We discuss what child support is designed to cover, what it doesn’t cover, and the critical expenses that should be negotiated as part of your settlement agreement. Marc also shares practical strategies to help you avoid costly mistakes, protect your financial future, and create agreements that work for both parents and, most importantly, the children.

Key Topics Covered:

• How child support is calculated and the factors courts consider.
• What child support is intended to cover—and the common misconceptions.
• Expenses that are not included in child support and why they should be addressed during settlement negotiations.
• Settlement language that can help ensure reimbursement for shared child-related expenses.
• What legal options are available when child support isn't being paid.
• How courts typically handle expenses such as cars, auto insurance, private school tuition, and extracurricular activities.
• Why child support is often one of the most emotionally charged issues in divorce.
• Financial and strategic approaches to negotiating child support while avoiding long-term pitfalls.

“The best advice that I would tell them is discovery is king.” - Marc Garelick

About Our Guest: Marc Garelick

Marc Garelick is the Founder and Managing Partner of Garelick Family Law and one of Orange County's leading family law attorneys. With more than 17 years of experience, he represents clients in complex and high-conflict matters involving high-asset divorce, business valuations, property division, child custody, child and spousal support, paternity, and domestic violence. Known for his strategic approach and deep expertise, Marc has built a reputation for guiding clients through some of California's most challenging family law cases.

Beyond his legal practice, Marc is an active member of the California family law community and has served in leadership and philanthropic roles with several Orange County organizations. He earned his bachelor's degree from the University of California, Irvine, and his J.D. from Southwestern Law School, where he founded a tax assistance program for low-income individuals. Marc has also been recognized as a Southern California Super Lawyers Rising Star for multiple years.

This Episode Is For:

• Parents navigating divorce or separation.
• Anyone negotiating child support or a divorce settlement.
• Co-parents facing child support disputes or unpaid support.
• High-income families with complex child-related expenses.
• Anyone who wants to avoid costly child support mistakes and negotiate smarter.

Connect with Marc Garelick:

Website: https://garelickfamilylaw.com/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marc-garelick-2201903/ 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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On today’s episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered — the podcast where we skip the handholding and tell it like it is — I’m joined by Shauna Warden, a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Coach. Shauna specializes in the tough, real-world stuff that actually matters when things get messy: documentation, custody strategy, and communication that holds up when a judge is watching. Like me, Shauna learned everything she shares today in the trenches, not in textbooks.

We dive into co-parenting with a parent who’s checked out, the mistakes that can derail your case, and the paper trail that can make or break your legal strategy — and that’s just the beginning.

Key Topics Covered:

• Navigating the trenches of a high-conflict divorce.
• Costly mistakes that can derail your case — and how to avoid them.
• Co-parenting with a high-conflict partner who is checked out or uninterested in parenting, yet still has legal custody.
• Parenting plan do’s and don’ts that actually work in the real world.
• The myth of “just be flexible”: why giving more often leads to being taken advantage of.
• Setting and enforcing co-parenting boundaries effectively.
• Recognizing and healing feelings of resentment toward your own children in a high-conflict divorce.
• What it really means to be “on the other side” of a high-conflict divorce.

“I tell my clients literally keep a notepad of responses so you could copy-paste, copy-paste.” - Shauna Warden

Organize high-conflict communications and custody records in a format your attorney can use. Get Shauna Warden’s Documentation Kit: https://buy.stripe.com/8x2bJ3b7hcdi5ATeVAeUU0p 

Book a discovery call with Shauna Warden to explore how she can support you: https://calendly.com/shaunawardencoaching/discovery 

About Our Guest: Shauna Warden

Shauna Warden is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Coach who helps clients navigate high-conflict divorce with clarity, structure, and strategy. She specializes in documentation, custody planning, and communication techniques that hold up in real-world legal settings. Shauna works closely with clients to organize their case, reduce emotional reactivity, and make decisions that support both their children and their long-term outcomes. She is also the host of The Divorce Chronicles podcast.

This Episode Is For:

• Anyone navigating a high-conflict divorce and feeling overwhelmed by the legal and emotional chaos.
• Parents struggling to co-parent with an uncooperative, absent, or high-conflict ex.
• Those who want to protect themselves legally and avoid costly mistakes that could impact custody.
• People trying to set firm boundaries without constant pushback or guilt.
• Anyone wondering if life ever truly stabilizes after a high-conflict divorce — and what that actually looks like.

Connect with Shauna Warden:

Website:  shaunawardencoaching.com 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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Today's episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered is different. We're pulling back the veil — and what's behind it are the real stories. The ones that make your jaw drop. The ones that sound made up. The ones that absolutely, one hundred percent, happened.

I'm sitting down with Tracy Malone — a coach, educator, and leading voice for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Tracy helps victims rebuild their lives and protect their families after the kind of relationship damage most people can't even wrap their heads around. She's the author of three bestselling books, including Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up! and Estranged by Lies — and through her platforms, podcast, and content, she reaches over a million people a year. 

Together, we're diving into the experiences people have when they're divorcing a high-conflict personality. The tactics. The manipulation. The moments that are so outrageous, so calculated, so utterly unhinged — that if you told someone who hadn't lived it, they'd think you were kidding.

So buckle up — because today we're going full you can't make this shit up mode.

Key Topics Covered:

• Real stories from real people - you can’t make this sh*t up
• Parental Alienation
• Legal Abuse
• Stalking
• Sur-thriver - learn the definition, and you are probably one of them
• Turning pain into life mission

“You've been through hell and back. You're a proud warrior who has fought to find yourself and heal from the fallout of living in a toxic, abusive situation.” - Tracy Malone

About Our Guest: Tracy Malone

Tracy Malone is the founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com, an internationally recognized narcissistic abuse and divorce coach whose YouTube channel has reached over three million survivors and whose podcast ranks in the top 1.5% globally. She is the bestselling author of Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up! and launched ParentingPlans.org in 2024 to help parents create effective co-parenting plans after high-conflict divorce.

Who This Episode Is For:

• You're in the middle of a high-conflict divorce, and the things happening to you are so outrageous you've stopped telling people because they don't believe you anyway.
• You're a parent fighting for your kids and watching the other side use them as weapons — and you need to know you're not alone and you're not crazy.
• You've been dragged through the legal system not for justice, but for punishment — and you're starting to realize the courthouse is just another battlefield.
• You thought leaving would mean it was over — but the stalking, the harassment, the control didn't stop. It just changed shape.
• You've survived it — or you're surviving it right now — and something in you is ready to stop just getting through it and start figuring out what comes next.

Connect with Tracy Malone:

Website:  https://narcissistabusesupport.com/ 

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/188681268196044/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TracyAMalone 

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/tracyamalone 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TracyAMalone  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracyamalone/ 

iTunes Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-narcissist-abuse-support/id1244854330?mt=2 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracyamalone/ 

Substack: https://tracyamalone.substack.com/ 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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On today’s episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered—the podcast for anyone who’s done pretending their divorce will be amicable and is ready to face what really happens when the gloves come off—we’re talking with Suzy Miller. Suzy is a TEDx speaker, an affiliate of the Family Mediators’ Association, and an Ambassador for the Amicable Divorce Network, and has also worked directly with the UK Ministry of Justice on dispute resolution. She campaigns for calmer, more peaceful ways to divorce and runs a free resource hub for families navigating this challenging transition.

We’ll be diving into what a truly peaceful divorce looks like in practice, whether it’s even possible when you’re dealing with an ex from hell, and the often-overlooked resources that can make the process a little less painful.

Key Topics Covered:

• Defining the notorious “ex from hell”
• Why so many believe court is the only option when an ex refuses to cooperate
• What judges really want—and how to keep yourself out of their courtroom
• Why accountability is the only thing that can stop a high-conflict ex
• Mediation and arbitration: making them work even in high-conflict situations
• Self-representation with a clear, strategic “divorce brain”
• Strategies to stay out of court after the divorce papers are filed
• The biggest leverage you have when dealing with a difficult ex
• What true moving on really looks like

“When I talk about peaceful, I'm talking about staying out of court.” - Suzy Miller

About Our Guest: Suzy Miller

Suzy Miller is a TEDx speaker, has collaborated with the Ministry of Justice in promoting dispute resolution, is an affiliate member of the Family Mediators' Association, and is an Ambassador for the UK branch of the Amicable Divorce Network. Suzy has written for the Daily Mail, been featured in many national magazines and appeared on BBC Breakfast TV, Radio 4's Woman's Hour and C5's The Vanessa Show. 

Suzy campaigns for more peaceful, better ways to divorce, and provides access to resources for families and individuals through a free Resource Hub, which includes regular live online events.

This Episode Is For:

• Anyone navigating a high-conflict divorce or dealing with an uncooperative ex
• People who want alternatives to court but don’t know where to start
• Those feeling overwhelmed and considering self-representation
• Listeners looking for practical strategies to protect themselves and stay out of court
• Anyone ready to move on and rebuild after a difficult breakup or divorce

Free Resource Hub relevant to UK and US: https://bestwaytodivorce.com

Fair Settlement Summit webinars: https://bestwaytodivorce.com/fair-settlement-summit/

Connect with Suzy Miller:

Website:  https://bestwaytodivorce.com/ 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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In this powerful episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we sit down with Karen McMahon, certified relationship and divorce coach and founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, to unpack the realities of high-conflict divorce and the emotional toll it can take on families—especially children.

The conversation dives deep into the impact of high-conflict divorce on children, including the difficult and often misunderstood issue of parental alienation. We also discuss the role of a minor’s counsel in family court and how legal professionals can help ensure that children’s voices and best interests are represented during contentious custody battles.

If you’re struggling to keep your peace during a difficult separation, this conversation provides tools, perspective, and hope for moving forward.

Key Topics Covered:

• What defines a high-conflict divorce and why traditional co-parenting strategies often fail
• The impact of conflict on children—understanding that it’s not divorce itself that harms children, but ongoing parental conflict and hostility
• Recognizing signs and dynamics of parental alienation in high-conflict custody situations
• The role of minor’s counsel in advocating for children’s best interests in family court
• Practical communication strategies with a high-conflict ex, including asking “Is a response warranted?” before engaging
• Learning healthier communication and boundaries over time—acknowledging that mistakes are often part of the learning process
• Are courts child-friendly, or are they more 50/50 oriented?
• Insights from Karen McMahon and her work with Journey Beyond Divorce, supporting individuals through the emotional challenges of high-conflict divorce

“If you have to respond, don't add fuel to the fire. Just say something that's nothing, and then get on with your day.” - Karen McMahon

Navigate Even the Most Challenging Divorce with Confidence: https://rapidreliefcall.com/

About Our Guest: Karen McMahon

Karen McMahon is a certified relationship and divorce coach, podcast host, and the founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, a coaching organization dedicated to helping individuals navigate the emotional challenges of separation and high-conflict divorce. After experiencing her own long and difficult divorce, Karen turned her personal journey into a mission to support others moving through the chaos, confusion, and emotional intensity that often accompany the end of a marriage. Through coaching, speaking, and her work with clients around the world, she empowers people to shift from surviving divorce to using the experience as a catalyst for healing, clarity, and personal growth.

This Episode Is For:

• Individuals currently navigating a high-conflict divorce or separation
• Parents concerned about the impact of divorce and conflict on their children
• Anyone dealing with co-parenting challenges or parental alienation dynamics
• People who want healthier communication strategies when interacting with a difficult ex
• Those looking to turn the challenges of divorce into an opportunity for personal growth and healing

Connect with Karen McMahon:

Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/  

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/journey-beyond-divorce/ 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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High-Conflict Divorce — you hear the term everywhere. But what does it actually mean?

It’s when the process itself is weaponized against you, when there’s no clear end in sight. When you don’t know who to trust — or even what’s real anymore.

That experience didn’t just change my life — it became my life’s work.

I created the High Conflict Playbook™ — a framework built from real-life experience, not a textbook. And I launched this podcast because women navigating divorce deserve honest information, clarity, and someone unapologetically in their corner.

Today, I’m joined by Lisa Happ — Certified Divorce Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, and Somatic Coach. She works in the spaces most people avoid: high-conflict relationships, narcissistic abuse, and divorces that don’t just end marriages — they try to break you.

In this conversation, we pull back the curtain on what it really takes to survive when your partner is weaponizing the process. Lisa also introduces a powerful approach called concierge coaching — a level of support that can be transformational for the right woman.

Key Topics Covered:

• Is he a narcissist — or just difficult?
• The signs of true NPD (and why you may already see them, but aren’t ready to accept them yet)
• Learning to trust your body’s signals instead of letting your mind override or minimize danger
• The reality of the high-conflict divorce journey — and what comes after
• Concierge coaching: why one hour a week isn’t enough (it took years to get here — healing won’t happen in 60 minutes)
• Dating after toxic relationships — and how to recognize what your body is trying to tell you
• The moment the rose-colored glasses come off — and how your perception of your ex (and even friends) begins to shift
• Major red flags that signal you’re in a deeply unhealthy situation

“Don't make it work. Find something that just works that you don't have to make work that you don't have to wonder, spiral about at night.” - Lisa Happ

About Our Guest: Lisa Happ

Lisa Happ is a Certified Divorce Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, and Grief Recovery Specialist who helps women navigate high-conflict divorces and leave toxic or abusive relationships. Drawing from her own lived experience and professional background as a former therapist, Lisa supports clients through both the emotional and strategic sides of divorce — from building the right support team to reclaiming their confidence and identity. 

With years of coaching experience and work with hundreds of clients, she specializes in helping women move from survival to stability — and ultimately, to a place of clarity, empowerment, and lasting healing.

This Episode Is For:

• Women navigating a high-conflict divorce who feel overwhelmed, targeted, or unsure who to trust
• Anyone questioning whether they’re dealing with narcissistic behavior or something more serious
• Women coming out of toxic or emotionally abusive relationships and trying to rebuild their sense of self
• Those who feel stuck in survival mode and want deeper, more consistent support than traditional approaches offer
• Anyone preparing to date again after a difficult relationship and wanting to make healthier, more aligned choices

Connect with Lisa Happ:

Website:  https://www.lisahapp.com/ 

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

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In this episode, I'm sitting down with Meghan Remington—Certified Divorce Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, and author of Behind Closed Doors. With a master's degree in clinical counseling, Meghan stepped away from her career to raise her three sons before navigating her own high-conflict divorce.

After rebuilding her life on the other side, Meghan now helps women navigate similar experiences through her coaching practice. She brings firsthand insight into the dynamics that can make these relationships so difficult to recognize and leave.

We unpack tactics like love bombing, gaslighting, and stonewalling, exploring how they work and what it takes to reclaim your clarity after manipulation. Whether you've experienced narcissistic abuse or simply want to better understand these dynamics, this conversation offers valuable insight.

Key Topics Covered:

• The inspiration behind Behind Closed Doors.
• Personal journey of recognizing narcissistic manipulation—and how long it actually took to see the red flags.
• Why the stories of people who experience narcissistic abuse are often strikingly similar, despite different circumstances.
• We answer the question: how bad was it actually?
• The single most important prerequisite for healing: creating distance from the abuser. Why true healing can't begin while you're still living in the cycle of abuse.
• Radical acceptance—what it is, why it's so difficult, and how it becomes a turning point in recovery.
• The power of language: why naming manipulative behaviors is a critical step toward clarity, validation, and healing.
• The practical lessons readers can expect from Behind Closed Doors—real-world tools and insights drawn from lived experience, not just theory.

“The big foundation piece with narcissism is lack of ability to be accountable and lack of responsibility.” - Meghan Remington

“Behind Closed Doors: How I Got Myself Into and Out of a Narcissistic Marriage” by Meghan Remington: https://a.co/d/06FKSPee 

Connect with Meghan Remington:

Website: thrivingahead.com 

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriving_ahead/ 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thriving.ahead.di 

About Our Guest: Meghan Remington

Meghan Remington is a Certified Divorce Coach® and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™ who helps people navigate high-conflict divorces. With degrees in family studies and clinical counseling, she spent years in mental health before becoming a stay-at-home mom to her three sons. After experiencing her own devastating divorce from a narcissistic partner, she founded Thriving Ahead Divorce Coaching to provide the support she wished she had. In Behind Closed Doors, Meghan combines her story with hard-won insight into narcissistic manipulation, helping readers recognize tactics like love bombing, gaslighting, and breadcrumbing so they can identify toxic behavior and make informed decisions.

Who This Episode Is For You If:

• Anyone experiencing or questioning emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or narcissistic abuse.
• People navigating high-conflict separation or divorce.
• Friends, family, therapists, and professionals supporting survivors.
• Survivors rebuilding confidence and self-trust.
• Anyone wanting to understand narcissistic relationships and healing.

Connect with Ksenia Muench:

Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ 

Website: https://www.highconflictplaybook.com/  

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ 

Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc 

Email: [email protected] 

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