For a long time the thought of family heart me. I never wanted to be part of a family. This changed when I redefined the term for myself. Family are the people you want your life. Seeing how my relatives lead their lives is still a traumatic experience for me. It made me reject the idea of a family for a very long time. Overcoming this trauma would be crucial if I ever want to get married and build a family of my own.

Understanding failure and it's place in your journey is crucial to making life more bearable. We will all fail many times because there are lessons to be learned in failure but in the end it all leads to success.

Nobody wants to fail. Neither did I. My understanding of failure changed after reading this "Failure is part of the journey to success, it is a learning curve." Once you learn to accept failure you will be open to learning lessons you could never learn from success.

When he said he wanted to be more than friends I was like "What do you even mean!?" My insecurities really worked against for a very long time but once I began to understand myself, my needs and what I wanted there was a 180 degree change and a revolution. I used to wonder what exactly guys liked about me. I mean I found it hard to like me.

Mental health awareness is a great necessity because so many of us are struggling but we don't know where to turn. Sometimes because of the silence and fear so many people are lost. Ask for help when you are ready and be informed so you can help those in need.

Worth - the level at which someone deserves to be valued. You need to value yourself first, you need to know your worth. So many of us struggle with our worth. Whatever the reason if for your feeling of worthlessness, let it go!

Tell me that you have never been misunderstood and I will call you a liar. Every single human being has been misunderstood more than once in their live. Misunderstanding is not the problem. The problem is the consequences of the misunderstandings. Curious? Than grab a drink, some snacks, sit back, relax and listen.

I am a native Angolan living in South Africa and a black African woman who speaks no African languages 🤔. Are you even African? Yep, I have been asked that question over 100 times. Being a cultural hybrid is a new culture! What do you mean by that Erica? Grab your drink and listen in...

So often people miss the opportunity to be more than just friends because everybody is scared of rejection. Recently I was speaking to my housemates and they were saying that it's irrational to fear rejection. Our fears can push is to tight corners such as the friend zone. Listen in and don't forget your drink because listening with a drink is more relaxing.

Not even the Great wall of China is as strong as the walls we put up once we have been hurt. 🤷 Self-protection is something that we all do. If you are anything like me you are definitely putting up the greatest wall. Let's grab a drink an listen in.