UnDefined Life Podcast

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  • Is it Grace? God Doesn't Change People.
    Is It Grace? A Critical Examination of Infidelity Narratives in Christian Marriages
     Host: Fatima Denga delivers a bonus episode on the 'Undefined Life' podcast, titled'Is It Grace? God Doesn't Change People.'
    The episode critiques the narrative of 'struggle love,' particularly within the Black community, by examining theviral testimony of Pastor Reggie and Shelley Steele from the 'Dear Future Wifey' podcast. Fatima discusses key issues such as the acceptance of infidelity, the impact of limiting beliefs, and the shortcomings of church teachings on marriage. She also touches on the psychological and emotional impacts on women who stay in such marriages, ultimately questioning the role of grace and divine change in these complex relationships.
     
    00:00Introduction to Struggle Love
    00:12Welcome to the Podcast
    00:20Introducing the Topic: Is it Grace?
    00:51The Story of Pastor Reggie and Shelley Steele
    01:23Dissecting the Testimony
    02:33The Narrative of Cheating in the Black Community
    04:56Shelley's Acceptance of Infidelity
    06:03The Impact of Limiting Beliefs
    07:20Open Marriages and Church Hypocrisy
    07:53The Role of the Church and Family Influence
    09:12Saved but Not Delivered
    11:50The Fantasy of Marriage and Patriarchy
    15:03The Reality of Christian Marriages
    21:08The Role of the Church in Addressing Infidelity
    41:54 Final Thoughts and Reflections
    Music Credit: Intro and Outro by ItsWatR from Pixabay – Embrace
    On Divorce: Hear This Podcast https://open.spotify.com/episode/6ClsRisjI77443JpUtQrdQ?si=l6kvW9oIRhqo2wt63rYNRw
    To stay connected to me, find me on my Instagram @UnDefined Life - Life Coach
    If you are interested in exclusive Coaching with me: https://calendly.com/faithfaden
    My Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/556884412192351/?ref=share9
    Audio Video Track : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0wCfIinYIo
    Thank you so much for listening and I would love to know your comments below.
    45 min
  • Compromise is a No No!

    Compromise should be absolutely removed from regular degular vocabulary, especially when considering the health of a relationship.

    It should not be a word we throw around lightly, unless we intend to strip others of their right to be true to themselves while we benefit.

    Individuals who have been conditioned to prioritize self-sacrifice, self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and struggle with fear of abandonment or rejection, as well as difficulty setting boundaries, often find it challenging to effectively negotiate compromises.

    If you are unaware of what you truly want, need, or desire, then you have no business compromising. The only time one should compromise is when you have acquired the skills necessary to compromise.

    In this podcast episode, I delve into alternative solutions that have truly transformed my life. These solutions have been a game-changer, allowing me to choose and live the life I have always dreamed of.

    If you have ever been affected by compromise, then this episode is for you. It's time to break free from the confines ofcompromise and embrace a life of authenticity and self-empowerment.

    Intro and Outro Music Credit: ItsWatR from Pixabay -Embrace.

    HOW TO WORK WITH ME.

    If you're ready to confront any challenging mindsets or behaviours after listening to this podcast, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my email link below:

    Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

    Instagram DMs: ⁠@UnDefined Life - Life Coach 

    Join my Community: Thriving Sisterhoodbelow: https://www.facebook.com/groups/556884412192351/?ref=share

    Thank you so much for listening ..

    Please share and leave comments

    27 min
  • Postpartum Depression & Divorce - A Mama's Journey to Wellness.
    Join me in this very special discussion with Sylvia Boahene, a Martenal and Motherhood Wellness Coach, Author, Occupational Therapist, Mental Health Mentor, and Advocate.
    Sylvia experienced post-partum depression and anxiety which was quite severe despite her not being hospitalised for it. This affected her ability to care for herself and to be confident in mothering her children.
    During this tumultuous time, Sylvia also experienced a relationship breakdown resulting in the end of her marriage through divorce.
    In this podcast session, we will be discussing her journey from postnatal depression, getting divorced, and her COME-UP as she is now helping many women overcome postpartum depression and anxiety including, finding themselves post-divorce.
    This is a needed podcast in our community of Black and Brown people who face disparities in mental health care and also because these subjects are somewhat 'taboo' and often 'stigmatised' in our diaspora community.
    Through all this Sylvia's Ministry was Birthed.
    Sylvia is running a FREE Masterclass on the 22nd of September, at 7 pm UK time. Please register HERE.
    If you are a Mama and have been touched by the discussion with Sylvia today, do connect with her on
    IG @ mamasmentalhealthrenewal
    Facebook: https//m.facebook.com/mamasmentalhealthrenewal/about
    Linked In: https//www.linkedin.com/in/sylvia-boahene?trk=contact-info
    Please like, follow, and support Black Diasporan Women's Voices are Amplified.
    HOW TO WORK WITH ME.
    If you're ready to confront any challenging mindsets or behaviours after listening to this podcast, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my email link below:
    Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠
    Instagram DMs: ⁠@fatimadenga⁠
    As a Bonus for listening to this podcast, I am giving you a FREE Thriving Manual. Get yours below:
    https://bit.ly/ThrivingManual2023
     
    Book a FREE Complimentary coaching session via this Link:
    https://calendly.com/care-wellness_wellbeing
    Join my Community: Thriving Sisterhood below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/556884412192351/?ref=share
    To get your copy of your FREE MP3 download of Biblical "Confidence -Restoration" Confessional Affirmations which is accompanied by scripture verses PDF below:
    ⁠⁠https://faith-faden-enterprise.ck.page/acd0e33926⁠⁠
    Thank you for listening and supporting Podcast.
    Mid Podcast Advert Music Credit: Music by Daddy_s_Music from Pixabay – Always with me, Always with you (Piano Long)
    Lastly, I'd like to give credit to ItsWatR from Pixabay - Embrace for the music used in the intro
    and outro.
    Faith's Real Talk Host: Fatima
    49 min
  • When ADVERSITY comes knocking.

    Dealing with adversity or challenges is never a welcome experience.

    It can feel like a ‘never ending’ cycle of problems if you are like me.  It

    sure gets tiring, yet we Believers in Christ were warned that we will face adversity and afflictions.

    If we were warned, why do we struggle when adversity comes knocking in our lives?

    Well, adversity is uncomfortable.

    Adversity can cause us pain.

    If you want to know how to go through adversity well, meaning thriving above the discomfort and pain. This is the podcast for you.

    God’s word in James 1:2-4 tells us to “count it ALL JOY” when we encounter various trials and tests of our faith which produces the fruit of steadfastness and perfecting us completely such that we LACK NOTHING.

    When God allows adversity, we can be tempted to think HE is punishing us and yet He is GROWING US.

    Enjoy listening to this episode and below are the scripture references mentioned in the session.

    • Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the LORD delivers him out of them all (Psalm 34:19).
      • But he said to me, “my Grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness”. (2 Corinthians 12:9).
        • It is good for me that I was afflicted, that I might learn your statutes (Psalm 119:71).
          • I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13).
            • Come to me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest (Matt 11:28).
              • Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial, for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has
              • promised to those who love Him (James 1: 12).
                • And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them that are the called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28).
                • HOW TO WORK WITH ME.

                  If you're ready to confront any challenging mindsets or behaviours after listening to this podcast, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my email link below:

                  Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

                  Instagram DMs: ⁠@fatimadenga⁠

                  Book a FREE Complimentary coaching session via this Link: https://calendly.com/care-wellness_wellbeing


                  If you want to THRIVE well, I have a ‘It’s Time to Thrive’  free manual available here:

                   https://bit.ly/ThrivingManual2023

                   

                  To get your copy of your FREE MP3 download of Biblical "Confidence -Restoration" Confessional Affirmations which is accompanied by scripture verses PDF below:

                  ⁠⁠https://faith-faden-enterprise.ck.page/acd0e33926⁠⁠


                  Thank you for listening and supporting Podcast.

                  Lastly, I'd like to give credit to ItsWatR from Pixabay - Embrace for the music used in the intro and outro.

                  34 min
                • Beating Shame

                  In this podcast episode, I will be speaking on Shame.

                  Shame is one of those words that when I hear, I think of something embarrassing, or humiliating, and that has the potential to ruin someone's reputation.

                  It is not a word I like because it just sounds so negative, judgemental, and labeling.

                  We cannot deny it but Shame is a human experience that does not discriminate on who will feel or experience shame. There are many reasons for that which I will address in this podcast session.

                  I will be delving into;

                  • exploring what Shame is and its effect on us.
                  • exploring the biblical origins of shame and what feeds into shame
                  being in our lives.
                  • addressing how to BEAT shame and find freedom for yourself. 
                  • sharing my shame story and how this led to me overcoming shame and the shame effects.

                  I will be sharing from biblical scripture and giving you practical tools on Beating Shame for good.

                  Prepare yourself for breaking FREE and breaking through as You are released to live and be set Free from the clutches of shame.

                  HOW TO WORK WITH ME.

                  If you're ready to confront any challenging mindsets or behaviours after listening to this podcast, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my email link below:

                  Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

                  Instagram DMs: ⁠@fatimadenga⁠

                  Book a FREE Complimentary coaching session via this Link:

                  https://calendly.com/care-wellness_wellbeing

                  To get your copy of your FREE MP3 download of Biblical "Confidence -Restoration" Confessional Affirmations which is accompanied by scripture verses PDF below:

                  ⁠⁠https://faith-faden-enterprise.ck.page/acd0e33926⁠⁠

                  Thank you for listening and supporting Podcast.

                  Lastly, I'd like to give credit to ItsWatR from Pixabay - Embrace for the music used in the intro and outro.

                  Fatima Faith Faden

                  46 min
                • Dealing with GUILT!

                  Guilt is one of those things I do not like to face or be labelled with.

                  Can you imagine it, "she is guilty as charged"? It just does not read pleasantly at all hence even criminals do their best to hide their crimes so I bet not many people are happy to be associated with being found guilty.

                  Despite all this, we too often in life find ourselves experiencing some type of guilt or are accused of some wrongdoing leaving us with the dreaded feeling of guilt.

                  In this Podcast, I will be exploring GUILT and I will be dissecting guilt into layers so that we can better know if we are :

                  1. guilty of an offence and need to be charged

                  2. experiencing guilt but aren't guilty.

                  I will discuss false guilt, the presentation of hidden guilt and its impact on the individual. There is also the dilemma of 'guilt-tripping' which tends to leave us 'icky' and can be a real challenge to manage in our relationships with others.

                  Don't worry! for as much as I will be discussing guilt, I have 8 solutions to becoming Guilt Free that you can take away from this episode and apply to your life, starting from today.

                  Remember to answer questions at the end of the podcast episode show notes description below.

                  Thank you for subscribing and joining my Podcast Community.

                  HOW TO WORK WITH ME.

                  If you're ready to confront any

                  challenging mindsets or behaviours after listening to this podcast, please
                  don't hesitate to reach out to me through my email link below:

                  Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

                  Instagram DMs: ⁠@fatimadenga⁠

                  Book a FREE Complimentary coaching session via this Link:

                  https://calendly.com/care-wellness_wellbeing

                  To get your copy of

                  your FREE MP3 download of Biblical "Confidence -Restoration" Confessional
                  Affirmations which are accompanied by scripture verses PDF below:

                  ⁠⁠https://faith-faden-enterprise.ck.page/acd0e33926⁠⁠

                  Thank you for listening and

                  supporting Podcast.

                  Lastly, I'd like to give credit to ItsWatR from Pixabay

                  - Embrace for the music used in the intro and outro.

                  49 min
                • Acts of 'SERVICE' - Acts of Humanity.

                  Today’s podcast topic is titled “Acts of Service – Acts of Humanity”.

                  I am talking about all things Acts of Service and I also want to go into what I call “The Martha Syndrome” as it is largely tied to acts of service.

                  There is a twist to this podcast as It is not all about Acts of Service as we can serve from the wrong motives and spirit which will not help us grow or help us relate with others from a good and healthy place. Enjoy listening and having a thought-provoking discussion on the subject of “Acts of Service”.

                  What are Acts of Service?

                  When you speak the love language of acts of service, it means you feel loved when others do things for you such as helping you around the house with chores, doing service tasks for you like shopping for you, helping you with the baby, doing your gardening, doing the cooking for you, etc.

                  •Acts of service communicates to the receiver of that love language that you care for them by being aware of their needs and choosing

                  to help them.

                  •It makes them feel loved when you serve and do things for them.

                  Why Acts of Service – Acts of Humanity?

                  In the singles edition of Love Languages, Dr. Chapman makes a statement and it was so profound that the statement is “one of the fundamental languages of love is Acts of service”.

                  Scriptures References used in Podcast:

                  •  The greatest of all is the servant (Matthew 23:11).
                  • It is better to give than to receive (Acts 20:35).
                    • Serve one another humbly in love (Galatians 5:13).
                    • God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another (1 Peter 4:10).
                    • Share with the Lord's people who are in need, practice hospitality (Romans 12:13).
                    • If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? (James 2:15-17)
                    • Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.  I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you (John 13: 15-17).
                    • For we hear that some among you are leading an undisciplined life, doing no work at all, but acting like busybodies. Now such persons we command and exhort in the Lord Jesus Christ to work in quiet fashion and eat their own bread (2 Thessalonians 3:11-12).
                    •  At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention (1 Timothy 5:13.)
                    •  Serve unto God and not as men-pleasers (Ephesians 6:6).
                      •  Proverbs 31 Woman, (Proverbs 31: 10-31).
                      • The virtue of Acts of Service is great and a great asset for you wherever you go.

                        In our world, men and women of service are seen, awarded, and celebrated. Think Mother Theresa or Florence Nightingale.

                        Action for Happiness is an organisation that was started with a vision for a happier world, where everyone can thrive.

                        Action for Happiness found that “GIVING” is the Number 1 key to happiness.

                        Action for Happiness website here: https://actionforhappiness.org/

                        Service should be purposeful and when our cup is full, we can serve and give well. When it is empty we get depleted fast and it is no good for our overall well-being physically, mentally, and spiritually.

                         

                        HOW TO WORK WITH ME.

                        If you're ready to confront any challenging mindsets or behaviours after listening to this podcast, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my email link below:

                        Instagram DMs: @fatimadenga

                        To get your copy of your FREE MP3 download of "I Am" Confessions which is accompanied by scripture

                        verses PDF below:

                        ⁠https://faith-faden-enterprise.ck.page/acd0e33926⁠

                        Thank you for listening and supporting Podcast.

                        Lastly, I'd like to give credit to ItsWatR from Pixabay - Embrace for the music used in the intro and outro.

                        36 min
                      • "I Regret"

                        I realize that starting my savings earlier in life would have been beneficial and I have regrets about not doing this.

                        However, it's important to note that regret can actually play a vital role in personal growth.

                        In this podcast, I will explore how analyzing our regrets can lead us to our true selves and give us the courage to face life confidently.

                        Furthermore, I'll be examining the link between regret and spirituality.

                        If you're ready to confront any negative beliefs stemming from your regrets, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my diary link below:

                        https://calendly.com/care_wellness_wellbeing

                        or email below: [email protected]

                        To get your copy of your FREE MP3 download of "I Am" Confessions which is accompanied by scripture verses PDF below:

                        https://faith-faden-enterprise.ck.page/acd0e33926

                        Thank you for listening and supporting Podcast.

                        Lastly, I'd like to give credit to ItsWatR from Pixabay - Embrace for the music used in the intro and outro.

                        33 min
                      • COMPARISON - The Thief of Joy!

                        Hey there, I'm Fatima Faith

                        I'm sure you've heard the saying, "Comparison is the thief of joy."

                        But what if I told you that knowing how comparison is good for you, can make you experience the best that being compared has to offer?

                        What if I told you a simple reframe—is the trick to using comparison as a way to flourish, grow, and challenge yourself?

                        Well, in this podcast I discuss just that by sharing how to use comparison to your advantage in a way that will not only enhance your life but enhance your relationships with others.

                        It's not as hard as it sounds, and it's not as scary as you think. In-fact, knowing how comparison is good for you can be downright EMPOWERING.

                        So give this podcast a listen, and let me show you how!

                        Be sure to subscribe and follow!


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                        Music Rights (Intro & Outro): Music by ItsWatR from Pixabay – Embrace

                        39 min

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