Under The Sheets with Tatiana Ashborn and Friends

In this special episode, recorded in Zoë’s bedroom in New Zealand. Zoë is a passionate advocate for sex positivity. Zoë shares her journey through various aspects of modern intimacy and personal growth.

We discuss her struggles with birth control and the complete loss of her sex drive, and the pressures of dating in today's society. Zoë sheds light on living with PMD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) and her decision on sexuality and whether she will head into the non-monogamy route. She emphasises her principle of "only sleep with people who will work with me," highlighting the importance of mutual effort and respect in intimate connections.

Zoë also explores how sex therapy has helped her reclaim her sexual health and confidence, and shares her journey to finding new ways to enjoy life despite the challenges she has faced.

Join us for a raw and enlightening conversation with Zoë, filled with heartfelt stories, practical advice, and empowering insights into sex, dating, and self-discovery. Zoë it is a pleasure to have met you and to have you in bed. You have opened my eyes to more possibilities and has truly helped navigate was sex means to me. 

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Luke takes us on a journey in his new toy - his camper van, through the maze of modern romance, exploring the complexities of long-distance relationships, the relentless grip of jealousy, and the possibility that he's found "the one." With a candid examination of porn addiction, we peel back the layers of desire to uncover the raw, unfiltered emotions that drive human connection.

Join Luke as he grapples with the age-old question:  Is sex everything, or just a fragment of the deeper connection we seek or in Tatiana's words; 'if you want a finger up your bum and your partner doesn't, does that mean relationships over?'

Through exhilarating first-time experiences and heart-wrenching moments of vulnerability, Luke navigates the highs and lows of romantic entanglements with unwavering honesty and courage.

Don't miss out on Luke's journey of self-discovery and love! Join him as he unravels the tapestry of desire and learns that sometimes, the greatest adventure is the one that leads us to the depths of our own hearts. 💖✨

Best of luck on your travels bro, see you soon x 

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In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the captivating story of Gail, a woman whose life has been marked by profound experiences of love, loss, and self-discovery. From her childhood love to grappling with the pressures of motherhood she never desired, Gail shares her raw emotions and insightful reflections on navigating the complexities of life.

As her children grow and spread their wings, Gail embarks on a solo journey, traveling the world in search of herself.  Along the way, she confronts the weight of grief, coping with the loss of her beloved husband, and finding solace in the process of healing.

But it's not just about overcoming tragedy; Gail's story is one of transformation and empowerment developing a company called - 'Glow up & Love Yourself' to help others in the discovery or rebuilding self-love. Yet, the path to self-love is fraught with challenges, including the pain of betrayal and the struggle to release pent-up anger.

Join us as Gail honestly shares her experiences of feeling disillusioned by love, grappling with infidelity, and ultimately emerging with newfound resilience and hope. Her journey serves as a powerful reminder that even in our darkest moments, there is always the possibility of finding light and rediscovering love – within ourselves and in the world around us.

To get involved with her program and keep up to date with everything Gail, head to https://glowupandloveyourself.com/home

To make a donation to the Fijian school; https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/underthesheetswithtatianaashborninfiji

To find out more before you donate - watch the last episode with Naomi; https://youtu.be/xItz9cMJ4C0?si=KMxIZqc5t8bL7L1s

thank you!! 

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I am so lucky to have met & live with someone like Naomi in Fiji. I have never felt so useless until I met her and realised she does more work than most of us put together. Naomi is an exceptional Mum, Daughter, Friend and Voice of Reason. Speaking to Naomi in this episode is just a tiny insight to what she actually does day to day. Apologies for any audio disturbances and crack within this episode. We were dealing with children & lawn mowers!

We discuss EVERYTHING from the superstitions in her family regarding death meaning she has to have more children, to the scariest idea I think about; when you have no idea you are pregnant until the baby comes because your menstruation has been normal!! 

In Fiji culture it is more likely the women are the breadwinners & feel pressure around being a mum and a 'good' woman. It was also interesting learning how they view women body image compared to the western society which is an absolute plus. 

And did you know we now have a thing called human rights? Naomi you are one in a million and you've been through it all but boy do you have an amazing sense of humour and I cannot thank you nor your family enough for letting me come into your home - (https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100080373706605) If anyone is planning to head to Fiji. 

I hope you get to the end of this episode and see that we are raising money for Naomi's family and village. It would mean so much to me and all of them if you were able to donate anything you can for their school in order to have another teacher.

Please view how to donate here...

https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/underthesheetswithtatianaashborninfiji?utm_term=YYM4xVnVE

In this episode I talk to founder Sophie of Our Guilty Pleasures, a business that has curated the best toys from around the world, all in one place. Not only do we get BTS of the store but we also get amazing advice on how to work alongside a partner in business, sex and friendships. I get gifted my first personal vibrator which is super exciting and have a much needed conversation about female pleasure. 

Diggory Waite is my new favourite human. He is possibly the funniest and kindest person I have been lucky enough to meet and this episode is an absolute corker. Diggory has many anecdotes, mostly about having a sex therapist as a mum but not long after that, he talks about his porn relapse by Samuel L. Jackson's Twitter, making waves in his recovery journey. Waite discusses why he’s struggled when getting into relationships and gives us a step by step guide to navigating attachment styles, therapy sessions & what dating apps are best for working out who’s up for anal this christmas. I cannot wait for you all to listen to this!! 

Sonny is a man of many colours and we have to celebrate his charming self with all his quirkiness and perhaps his indifference of opinions at times.  From the christian upbringing and personal exploration to questioning the ease of obtaining sex, Sonny opens ups about his sex life and where he is now as an 18 year old.

Join the conversation as we dive into the world of personal preferences, from red trousers to an unexpected love for chicken nuggets, creating a space where no topic is off-limits. 

This episode evolves into an exploration of first times, contrasting the blurry haze of drunk encounters with the clarity of sober experiences, and addresses the lingering emotions that sometimes follow moments of intimacy. 

We explore the power dynamics of control versus submission, daringly using provocative language like "slag" to ignite discussions about personal choices and societal expectations. Have you ever felt like a sheep following the herd in the realm of relationships? 

We discuss the idea of masculinity and I break his heart when I tell him that women do fake orgasm and a toy should be celebrated rather than thinking you're not good enough.

Tune in for an episode that challenges norms, sparks conversations, and ultimately celebrates the diversity of human interaction.

If you were told that if you have sex, you'd lose your special glue, how would you react? 

Sophia wrote a book.

This is one of the most interesting conversations I have ever had exploring such in depth topics about vaginismus, hymen repair & the idea of having a 'tight' vagina. Sex education isn't taken seriously and can lead to serious health issues. If you don't know, get to know. I didn't realise a lot about the world of sex before I started this podcast - Sophia helped me through it x 

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James disscusses what love means to him. How autism plays a part in his love life and what he’s truly looking for (not just Beyonce). He opens up about his sexuality and how he hasn’t come out to his parents yet & that religion plays a big part in how he remains positive. 

James you were a pleasure to have on the show, thank you for being kind 💜

I met Steve at the pub & asked if he wouldnt mind hopping on the show and as nervous as he was he did a fantastic job and gave a lot of insight into the world of Steve. We discuss growing up in an all boys household to later, boarding school. The challenges of expressing emotion & how first time experiences can affect your later years. Having spent time living in Ibiza, he’s had quite the life, now with kids and two divorces I ask the question of whose next? 

Thank you for sharing your story, I am grateful to have met you x