Underdog Leadership Podcast

Are you a People Pleaser?

As a leader, I know my job is not to be liked. My job is to help bring about important decisions and milestones that the missions and organizations work for. But I also have an innate desire to be a colleague and a friend that is NICE.In the past, the word, "Nice", has really hamstringed me from saying what I mean, for fear of hurting someone's feelings.I guess I am am hardwired to please. But I have learned that i also have to please a very important person in my life: ME! And that I must check in with myself to make sure I am making myself happy too. So what do you do when you're Stuck in Pleaser Mode? How do you be your own cheerleader and step into your personal power?Tune in to find out!"Personal power comes from knowing we have sovereignty over our choices and sovereignty over what happens to us" - Jenny Mitchell

Learn More About:

• Being a People Pleaser
• How to check in with yourself
• How to be your own cheerleader
• How to get out of Pleaser Mode

Want to feel inspired, compelled to shift your language, own your worth, and ASK for anything? Then join me for Ask For Anything: The Masterclass! There are 2 ways to join me in Ottawa (Feb 6) and in Toronto (Feb 10th). Investment is $597 (includes lunch!)

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my FREE 20 min video all about Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

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Let me introduce you to Tammy Zonker!Tammy is the CEO and Founder of Fundraising Transformed which helps nonprofits drive intentional change by transforming their fundraising so they can transform the world.Her vision is a world in which every basic and human need to survive and thrive is fulfilled.On today's podcast we dive into The Lost Art of Listening.Tammy and I believe that listening and having people feel seen, heard, and valued is at the core of all success and of all relationships. Listening skills are key, and unfortunately, we've lost so many of our listening abilities!So, how can we be better at listening and get the Art of Listening back, so we can have meaningful conversations? Listen to today's episode to find out!

"Fear is a powerful motivator if channeled. If you don't let it grip you but you turn it into fuel. Turn it into possibility " - Tammy Zonker

Learn More About:

• Why listening is important
• Listening to respond vs. listening to understand
• How you can be better at listening
• How to have meaningful conversations

This year's Chavender Club program has already begun but it's not too late to sign up! Start the year off by reclaiming your fundraiser presence and conquer those limiting stories that are holding you back from your own success. Learn more and sign up now here!

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my FREE 20 min video all about Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

I could write a whole book on self-limiting beliefs but today, we'll settle for one Underdog Leadership Podcast episode.I'm giving you the opportunity to hear about some of the limiting behaviours that are happening under the surface, and how you can bring them into the light. Bringing your self-limiting beliefs to light can be incredibly freeing!Self-limiting beliefs are beliefs from long ago. They are beliefs that protect you. They're old stories, they're old narratives. And, they may not serve you anymore.In this episode, I'm going to give you the tools to identify your self-limiting beliefs and how you can go through a process to decide whether these beliefs help you or do not help you. "I'm working hard to trust my intuition, to trust my gut, to trust the butterflies in my stomach. You know that feeling. It's an uncomfortableness " - Jenny Mitchell

Learn More About:

• What self-limiting beliefs are
• How to notice self-limiting beliefs
• How to address self-limiting beliefs

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my FREE 20 min video all about Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

Holiday season is upon us and as a professional fundraiser, as a woman, as a mother, I think it's important to talk openly about burnout and how to identify its markers before things go too far.

So why? Why such a drab topic right before the 'most wonderful time of the year?'

Well, you may or may not be surprised to know that by the end of the year a whole heck of a lot of us are indeed BURNT OUT!

This time of year has a mixture of work year-end, family requirements and expectations, and societal pressures about what we're supposed to be feeling and doing during the holidays. If you're feeling the tell-tale signs of holiday/end of year burnout, I feel for you.

I hope this episode gives you clarity on why you might be feeling burnout, what will make you feel less alone, and an opportunity to work through your feelings of burnout.If this episode sheds light on your own personal burnout, reach out and seek help! Burnout is one of the biggest barriers between you and your ambition. "Stress exists between the expectations you set, and what actually happens. We can manage a lot of our stress by managing our expectations" - Jenny Mitchell

Learn More About:

• The 5 burnout indicators
• What might be causing burnout
• Ways to help you get through burnout

This year's Chavender Club program is coming to an end but we're kicking off again in the New Year! Start the year off by reclaiming your fundraiser presence and conquer those limiting stories that are holding you back from your own success. Chavender Club 2023 starts on January 9th - Learn more and sign up now here!

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my FREE 20 min video all about Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

On this week's episode I get to introduce you to my beautiful friend, colleague, and co-coach within Chavender, Sherry Schaefer!We're diving into Sherry's story about mentorship, her journey in her "third chapter", and her CRAZY idea that got her started in her career.Even without wine, Sherry and I can get into some trouble… because we come up with some BIG ideas together.Sherry and I are idea generators. We create these ideas, then we find people for these ideas, we reach out and network, and we make Chavender programs happen. This episode is your behind the scenes all access pass to Chavender. I hope it gives you insight into what it takes to make an organization tick from the inside out! "Our work can be tough sometimes. We are thrown into pressure cooker situations. We must learn how to be resilient and to find the joy " - Jenny Mitchell

Learn More About:

• How Chavender works in the back end
• Why we started this organization in the first place
• The programs at Chavender
• The impact we're committed to make moving into 2023

Sherry leads the Next Level Talent Development program for Chavender. It is designed for ambitious mid-level leaders and managers who are looking to gain leadership skills and expertise in a group learning environment. The program is 6 months long, and includes coaching, community and actionable tools to help you lead with confidence. Program details are here

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my FREE 20 min video all about Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

You are not defined by whatever group of words your boss or organization chooses to put after your name on your business card. You are so much more than that, and you have so much more to contribute. It all starts with you. On this week's episode we're going to unpack why it starts with you, how you can change your relationship with yourself, how you can change your relationship with your organization, and most importantly, how you can begin to be a LEADER no matter what that business card says.The only person who always have your best interests in mind is YOU. It is your job to elevate yourself. It is your job to bring your very best person, your very best self to work every single day."Nobody gets to define who you are." - Jenny Mitchell

Learn More About:

• How to not be defined by your title
• How to step into your personal power
• How to become a leader

This November I have opened 6 spots in my calendar for strategic coaching conversations with ambitious and strategic leaders. People just like YOU! This is my solution to all of your concerns about whether coaching is or isn't right for you right now. If you want to get clear about what you want, register for my Personal Strategic Planning Sessions here.

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my FREE 20 min video all about Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

On this weeks episode I'm bringing you the three dimensions of leadership as well as the six components that you MUST keep your eye on as an amazing, inspirational, visionary leader.

We're going to dive into a transformational leadership story about a Tennis Club and my own personal journey with leadership.The three dimensions of leadership include awareness, engagement, and visioning. Going through those three stages of leadership is incredibly important for clarity and streamlining your goals. These three dimensions set you up for the six components of leadership success.The six components of leadership success are revenue, people, communications, focus, reporting, & infrastructure. Each of the components of leadership success are all intertwined. You could be the most focused person in the world, but if you have no leads and no revenue coming in, it doesn't really matter, does it?Want learn more about each of the 6 steps of transformational leadership? Listen to today's episode to hear me dive into each one.If this story inspires you, get in touch! I'd love to hear about your Underdog Leadership journey!" The vision leads and the fundraising follows. The vision of where we want to be and who we want to become leads and the money is the outcome of that" - Jenny Mitchell

Learn More About:

• 3 dimensions of leadership
• 6 components to being an amazing leader
• What transformational leadership looks and feels like

This November I have opened 6 spots in my calendar for strategic coaching conversations with ambitious and strategic leaders. People just like YOU! This is my solution to all of your concerns about whether coaching is or isn't right for you right now. If you want to get really clear about what you want, register for my Personal Strategic Planning Sessions here.

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09 Get my free 20 minute video all about having Meaningful Conversations (use code UPLIFT): https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/meaningful-conversations-and-the-tools-that-fuel-them

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

This episode is special because it touches on a few of my favorite topics: philanthropy, leadership, and powerful women. It is my great pleasure to introduce you to Dr Gina Cody!

Gina is a trailblazer in the field of Engineering. She was the first woman to receive a PhD in Engineering from Montreal's Concordia University. In 2018, she made a tremendous gift of $15M to Concordia's Faculty of Engineering, and became the first woman to have a faculty named after her in Canada and internationally.

Don't be surprised if you hear an extra voice on this podcast! This episode was first recorded over on the Your Next 50 Podcast with my dear friend Sylvia Otvos. The conversation was so powerful, and frankly relevant for the underdog experience, that I decided to publish it again over here on Underdog Leadership.Gina Cody has left an incredible mark on the world with her presence. I have no doubt that this episode will leave an incredible impression on you. Enjoy!" If you look at our successes, a lot of them come through the challenges in our life, the worst moments when you're down. You think you can't get up but you get up stronger, a new person" - Dr Gina Cody.

Learn More About:

• Gina's remarkable immigrant story
• The back story behind a transformational gift of $15M to Concordia
• Insights into the mind of a true Canadian Woman philanthropist including her reasons for giving the way she does

Looking for some fantastic language to help you "ask" for anything you want? Check out Jenny's Meaningful Conversations and the Tools that fuel them. It's a 20 minute video chalk full of ideas and language. All for you. Use the coupon code UPLIFT at checkout and it is complimentary to you, my community of listeners.

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

Everyone is always saying that leaders need to "be more confident." But what if that's the wrong question to ask?This week, we're talking about the confidence myth. This episode is a compilation of my experiences stepping into my own confidence and leadership, sprinkled with observations I've had coaching hundreds of clients in the senior leadership suite about their relationship with themselves.Society sells us a nasty bill of goods. When I get to 'X' I will be 'Y.' When I get the title of 'VP' I will be 'Y' or when I make 'X' amount of money then I will be "confident."We're left in this constant state of future forwarding what we're supposed to look like. That success or happiness exist somewhere in the future. The result is that we're constantly in a state of lack, waiting for something in the future to happen.What if you just said, "it's starting now." What if you started acting TODAY like the future leader you were always meant to be?

Below are a list of underdog habits. Do you see yourself in this list of activities?

• Deferring to others
• Being uncomfortable taking up space
• Waiting to be asked
• Talking too much or too little

These habits hold us back from expressing our full potential, our full confidence, our full selves.

Do you see yourself in this list of behaviours? If this podcast episode resonated with you, consider hopping on a discovery call with me. No obligations, absolutely no expectations, just an amazing opportunity for a meaningful conversation! (Link is below)

" For those Underdogs out there who are looking to change their relationship with their own self-doubt, know that this is a journey, know that you can change and shift your brain wiring to provide opportunities to come in. Beware of those Underdog habits "- Jenny Mitchell .

Learn More About:

• The Confidence Myth
• Underdog habits
• Using your voice
• 'Upwiring' your brain
• Jenny's signature program, Money Mindset: https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/money-mindset

Looking for some fantastic language to help you "ask" for anything you want? Check out Jenny's Meaningful Conversations and the Tools that fuel them. It's a 20 minute video chalk full of ideas and language. All for you. Use the coupon code UPLIFT at checkout and it is complimentary to you, my community of listeners.

Connect with me:

Book a discovery call: https://calendly.com/jennychavender/30min?back=1&month=2022-09

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27

Have you ever been told by a potential employer 'you'll do for now' or 'you were the best we could get' or 'you don't quite have the background we were looking for, but we think you'll be okay'?Well then this episode's for you. This one goes out to all the women CEO's out there in not-for-profit roles with leadership experience and who enjoy a challenge. My special guest today, Meghan Rehbein, is all of these things and more. Meghan has 20 years leadership experience in the not-for-profit management space, has raised millions of dollars in her roles as a professional fundraiser, has facilitated strategic initiatives across diverse groups, and is now Interim Dean at Douglass College, Rutgers University. Her PhD research is in the lived experience and leadership identity of women who hold CEO roles in not-for-profit. Could that niche be any more awesome and more on brand with Underdog Leadership?!Listen in to hear about Meghan's fascinating findings, what a Glass Cliff is and if you've ever experienced it." I think when you're used to being in that number 2 role, or you're used to doing all of the work to make the people around you shine, one of the things that you need to retrain your brain to think about, and I'm working on it, is 'how do I think about making myself shine?'"- Meghan Rehbein.

Learn More About:

• Overcoming imposter syndrome
• Being comfortable with discomfort
• How to enjoy a challenge
• The Glass Cliff
• Jenny's signature program, Money Mindset: https://chavender.thinkific.com/courses/money-mindset

Looking for some fantastic language to help you "ask" for anything you want? Check out Jenny's Meaningful Conversations and the Tools that fuel them. It's a 20 minute video chalk full of ideas and language. All for you. Use the coupon code UPLIFT at checkout and it is complimentary to you, my community of listeners.

Connect with me:

Email: [email protected]

Website: chavender.com

Instagram (Podcast): @underdog.leadership.podcast

Instagram (Jenny): @jennychavender

Facebook: @ChavenderFundraising

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Q97-c98aPUmfhzlpswfsw

LinkedIn (Podcast): Underdog Leadership Podcast | Hosted by Chavender

LinkedIn (Jenny): Jenny Mitchell, CFRE, CEC, DMA

Podcast VIP Email List: https://chavender.activehosted.com/f/27