Ever feel like every serious conversation with your partner turns into a minefield? In this episode of “Understand Your Man,” hosts Natasha and Nathan break down why talking about tough topics can feel so overwhelming—and how to make it easier for both of you.

Discover:

• Why men and women often react so differently to the phrase “We need to talk”

• The science behind fight, flight, and freeze responses in relationships

• How to create a safe space for honest communication (without judgment or blame)

• Practical strategies for starting difficult conversations, building trust, and finding common ground

• Why flexibility, curiosity, and do-overs are essential for real connection

Natasha, a relationship therapist, and Nathan, author of Trapped, share real-life stories and actionable tips to help you and your partner communicate better, understand each other’s needs, and grow together—even when things get uncomfortable.

Whether you’re tired of misunderstandings or just want to deepen your connection, this episode gives you the tools to start talking—and keep talking—in a way that brings you closer. Hit subscribe and join us for a new kind of relationship conversation every week!

00:00 Introduction: The Essence of a Good Conversation

00:29 Understanding Communication Styles

02:25 Navigating Emotional Responses

05:43 The Importance of Flexibility in Conversations

09:08 Creating a Safe Space for Dialogue

11:06 Practical Tips for Effective Communication

20:42 Starting the Conversation: Key Phrases

29:56 Conclusion and Next Steps

In this episode Natasha and Nathan dive into the concept of emotional safety in relationships. This episode helps couples build deeper connections and improve their communication by addressing the underlying issues that occur when they try to communicate.

They discuss the differences in how men and women perceive safety and freedom, and provide practical advice for setting the right environment for successful communication.

Key topics include understanding each other’s needs, using discernment in choosing the right time and place for conversations, and fostering mutual respect.

00:00 Introduction to Understanding Men

00:33 Meet the Hosts

01:18 The Concept of Safety for Men

02:07 Creating a Safe Space for Conversations

05:20 Timing and Environment for Discussions

10:01 Understanding Attachment Styles

16:15 The Importance of Mutual Respect

18:42 Practical Tips for Effective Communication

22:36 Conclusion and Next Steps

In this episodedive deep into the complexities of emotional self-regulation within relationships. Explore why traditional advice to 'take the higher road' may not always be effective and discuss alternative approaches for achieving personal freedom and happiness.

Natasha introduces several therapy modalities like Internal Family Systems (IFS), Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR), and Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) as ways to handle reactivity and emotional triggers.

The conversation aims to build a bridge between men and women by promoting self-responsibility and understanding.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Perspectives

00:20 Welcome to Understand Your Man

01:21 The Importance of Safety in Relationships

04:06 Therapies and Self-Regulation

07:28 Understanding Reactivity and Self-Mastery

13:20 The Role of Neuroscience in Therapy

21:50 Conflict as a Gateway to Freedom

26:42 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview

In this episode, Natasha and Nathan explain how to create healthier and more connected relationships. This episode is all about building a bridge of understanding leading to deeper, more fulfilling connections in modern relationships.

They discuss the importance of timing, communication skills, tone of voice, and understanding both your partner's and your own communication styles.

The episode explores the evolving dynamics between men and women, the pressures men face, and the significance of fostering a safe environment where both partners can express their needs and vulnerabilities. 00:00 Introduction to Understanding Your Man00:40 Meet Your Hosts: Nathan and Natasha01:29 Changing Dynamics in Modern Relationships03:57 The Importance of Feeling Understood06:27 Masculine and Feminine Energies09:08 Communication and Timing15:44 Challenges Men Face in Society23:36 Co-Creating Healthy Relationships24:33 Conclusion and Next Steps

Welcome to “Understand Your Man”—the podcast that unpacks what men really need, what women truly want, and how couples can bridge the gap for stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Hosts Natasha, a relationship therapist, and Nathan, author and candid voice on modern masculinity, guide you through the new landscape of love, partnership, and communication.

In this series, we’ll explore how gender roles have changed, why so many couples feel misunderstood, and what practical tools can help you connect on a deeper level. Expect real stories, expert advice, and actionable strategies for navigating everything from everyday misunderstandings to the big questions about intimacy, partnership, and personal growth.

Subscribe now and follow along as we break down the barriers to understanding—and help you create the relationship you’ve always wanted. New episodes every week—don’t miss out!