Guest: Dr. Rick Fowler

There are a lot of challenges for boys in the transition to manhood - which is why the phrase “boys will be boys” is profound and needs to be addressed!

We are not born with “executive functioning” skills - they must be developed. According to Understood.org, “executive function is a set of mental skills that include working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control. We use these skills every day to learn, work, and manage daily life. Trouble with executive function can make it hard to focus, follow directions, and handle emotions, among other things.” Sound like anyone you know?!

Brain isn’t fully developed until age 25. Is this an excuse for why “boys will be boys” or something to know, address, and work to handle?

Dr. Fowler - kids aren’t expected to be out of the home and on their own until the age of 32. WHAT?!

“Lawnmower parents” - mowing down any obstacles in the way of their children.

Dr. Fowler - you need these three things to be successful:

Self-discipline - you have choices, make good ones

Intrinsic motivation - your motivation to get up and get moving must come from within, not because of external factors (money, etc.)

Delayed gratification - putting off immediate pleasures for something that you want that’s better, but you need to wait for it, save for it, etc…

Make Your Bed by Admiral William H. McRaven

Dr. Fowler - if you’ve been in the cocoon of a protective parent, you might need to be a “life-coach” to help you navigate the difficult waters of adulting.

Dr. Fowler - social media addiction works in the brain the same way as ADHD - hard to tell the difference…

Dr. Fowler - encouragement helps. If you’re an older man, speak words of encouragement into the life of those younger letting them know they can accomplish things. Check out Dr. Fowler’s own personal testimony What’s the Problem…I Understand Me: How Those with ADHD Think, Learn, and Communicate.

Dr. Fowler - ADHD - the “D” doesn’t have to be a disorder, but can be seen as a difference. If you understand how your brain works best, you’ll be able to accomplish tasks better!

Dan’s suggestions - carry a four-color pen and a notebook with you at all times!

Dr. Fowler - most ADHD people are highly kinesthetic - and need an energy release before their mind will be able to focus!

Guys - let’s take the time to learn more about how we learn best - let’s not make excuses, but look for ways that we can be better!

READING and MEMORIZATION - important life skills for men - more on this coming soon to T4M!