In later stages of awakening, when you've done the healing to see clearly and not become emotionally hijacked in triggering situations, you develop preference for the kinds of emotions you would like to experience (and therefore the kinds of experiences you would like to have with people that limit negative emotions). 

Since you are deeper into feeling any emotion, and more awake during all emotions, of course there will be a preference when you are no longer reacting- like any area in life where there is more space, more luxury, you decide.