Does trauma experienced in childhood follow a person into their adult lives? How does it show up? What can happen if a trusted adult intervenes immediately? 

Find out in this week's knowledge-packed episode, with expert guest Lizzy Palmatier Andrus. Lizzy dives into her own past, which led her to pursue a career in assisting others who experienced trauma in their young years.  She walks Kayla and Kelsey through the complexities of childhood trauma as well as the support and hope we can all offer the people in our lives who may be wrestling with their own trauma. 

Show Notes: 

1. Lizzy's Instagram Page: Lizzy Palmatier Andrus (@lizzypalmatier) • Instagram photos and videos

2. THICK Acronym when creating a space for those to come forward to you regarding trauma or life-altering events: 

T - Thank you for telling me

H - How can I help?

I - I still see you 

C - Clarification - Are you safe?

K - Keep the door open

3. Find a Psychologist near you: Psychology Today

The UnDomesticated Podcast is proud to introduce our FIRST expert guest with Episode 7: The Truth About Trauma.  Krysta Dancy is a Licensed Holistic Trauma Therapist, MFT, Founder of Dancy Perinatal Counseling and MORE! Tune into this awesome episode as Kayla and Kelsey sit down with Krysta to learn about the basics of trauma - what is it? Who "gets" trauma? What can we do about it? Krysta's dynamic personality and passion for helping women and providers facing trauma is palpable in this incredibly insightful conversation. 

Show Notes: 

Find an EMDR Certified Therapist: https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Dancy Perinatal Counseling: https://www.dancyperinatal.com

Motherhood Matters Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/motherhood-matters-by-dancy-perinatal/id1735343651

Krysta's IG Page: Krysta Dancy (@learnabouttrauma) • Instagram photos and videos

This week, we open the floodgates into what is to come in our mental health series. Kayla pulls out her handy-dandy notebook full of statistics regarding mental health in women, and Kelsey offers solutions to how we can better assess and proactively work on our mental health. This episode offers an introduction into our series of mental health, where we'll cover trauma, mental illness, substance abuse, and postpartum mental health. 

This week we finish our series on all things marriage - the good, the bad, and the ugly. Pulling from the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Marriage Institute, we focus specifically on the 16 proven ways that make a marriage successful, while adding personal experiences from marriage counseling and beyond. 

Show Notes:

• 16 Proven Ways to Make Your Marriage Work: https://info.gottman.com/coach/how-to-make-your-relationship-work
• The Four Horsemen by Dr. John Gottman
• Dr. Gottman and Dr. Levenson Research on Physiological Differences in Couples During Conflict
• The Marriage Institute Same Sex Marriage Research
• Find a Marriage Counselor Near You
• National Domestic Violence Hotline Website ***Please keep in mind that your browser/history tab might not be safe from your partner finding it. If you're in a position where it would not be safe to access the website, please see number 7.***
• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 or text START to 88788

Kelsey and Kayla take on a big subject in episode 4 - Marriage! Pulling from The Gottman Institute as well as their own experiences, they dive into the good, the bad, the ugly, and the wonderful parts of marriage - unfiltered. 

Show Notes: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Domestic Violence Support | National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org) or call 1-800-799-7233

The Gottman Institue (Couples): Relationship resources for Couples | The Gottman Institute

The Gottman Institute (Singles): Gottman for Singles - The Gottman Institute

Gottman Marriage Research: Marriage and Couples - Research | The Gottman Institute

Are you in a "roommate phase"? Has your marriage had rough patches? Are you newlywed? Married for 50 years? Engaged? Then this is the episode for you! 

Kelsey and Kayla share advice from "experts" in the field - people married for entire lifetimes; 20, 30, 40, even 77 years! They pull from their own experiences, share some of the challenges they've encountered and the things they think have kept them in the game. Pulling from research from the Gottman Institute of Marriage and other experts in marriage research and counseling, Kayla and Kelsey tackle the real, unfiltered aspects of marriage in this multi-part series. 

It's me vs. you...or, is it? In episode 3, Kelsey and Kayla take on the difference between competition and rivalry. Why do women compete? Are we less competitive than men, or do we just compete differently? And most importantly, how to we shift the tendency to create rivalry in place of healthy competition? Dive in with us, and learn how to navigate the world of competition in women! 

Show Notes: 

Harvard Business Review Article by Mikaela Kiner: It’s Time to Break the Cycle of Female Rivalry (hbr.org)

Forbes Article by Susan Madsen: Understanding Women’s Negative Interactions With Each Other In The Workplace (forbes.com)

Forbes Article by Bonnie Marcus: The Dark Side Of Female Rivalry In The Workplace And What To Do About It (forbes.com)

Kansas City Current Stadium Article: https://www.kansascity.com/news/local/article285793101.html

Shonda Rhimes Quotes About Motherhood: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/shonda-rhimes-motherhood-quotes_n_5c302bcce4b0d75a9830d167

Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes:  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Year-of-Yes/Shonda-Rhimes/9781476777122

Kate Middleton News Article: https://people.com/kate-middleton-cancer-rocks-monarchy-what-happens-next-exclusive-8620344

988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: https://988lifeline.org/

This week, Kelsey and Kayla dive into the difference between healthy competition and toxic rivalry in the workplace and at home. With evidence-based research behind them, they tackle why women compete, how to be more self-aware in competition, and what happens when competition turns toxic. Tune in Wednesdays at 5AM CT for research, laughs, and hot takes! 

Trigger Warning: This episode contains content that may be sensitive to some listeners, including Postpartum Depression & Anxiety, mental illness, and suicidal ideation. If you or someone you know is struggling, the Suicide Prevention and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7/365 in the United States by calling or texting 988.

Kayla & Kelsey take a trip down memory lane to the women who made us in this rollercoaster of an episode. Prepare to laugh, cry, and reflect as you listen to their stories about the women who shaped who they are today, and the life lessons taken from those relationships. 

Come along as we take a trip down memory lane to the women who made us who we are. These women had a profound impact on our career and life trajectories, the kind of people we became, and are so special to us. 

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses content that may be sensitive for some listeners, including mental illness, post-partum depression/anxiety, and suicidal ideation. If you or someone you know is struggling with your mental health or thoughts of harming yourself or others, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available in the United States 24/7/365 by calling or texting 988.