Unfiltered Collective

In this episode, we discuss lobola - what is our understanding of lobola? Is it outdated or misunderstood? Why are sisters contributing to their own roora? And it gets lowkey heated when we start discussing “self-sustainability” and “partnership”.

In this episode, we’re joined by Jay and Fairo for our “ask the brothers” episode. We engage with them from the purview of trying to understand men folk behaviour. We touch on consistency in relationships, selling people’s children dreams, “mens training”, prenups, setting and stating expectations, establishing friendship with your partner, as well as the dynamics of shared finances.

In this episode, we discuss surviving toxic relationships, heeding the warning signs, the appendages to stockholm syndrome, breaking free from abusers, gender-based violence and rape.

In this episode, we continue our discussion on performing whiteness, moving away from the language debate, and delving into behaviours, interests, interracial relationships, and the awkwardness that comes with having to carry the responsibility for all black folk.

In this episode we discuss promiscuity, diving into what it means to be “loose” in different parts of the continent, and stereotypes about the place of women in society.

In this episode, we discuss performing whiteness. Steve Biko once said, “double consciousness is knowing the particularity of the white world in the face of its enforced claim to universality...Double consciousness, in other words, is knowing a lie while living its contradiction”. In this boma we try to make sense of the contradiction, exploring our positionality in a society where the black experience often exists on the fringes.

In this episode, we discuss black representation in the media, the impact the lack of representation has on those who are excluded from dominant narratives, the complexities of “colourism” in the black community, and we also take a moment to celebrate the life and times of Chadwick Boseman.

In this episode, we discuss unpopular opinions, words and perceived ways of being in the world - everything from notions of promiscuity, blue ticking, the LGBTQIA community, weaves and dating while broke.

In this episode, we discuss our experiences navigating “adulting”, we were never ready, but we are out here doing the things. We touch on expectations met and unmet, and what keeps us afloat even on the hardest days.

In this episode, we muse about friendships - the highs and the lows, the originals and the ones that went astray, mutual friends in relationships, and those who are not of your bloodline that become family.