Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

If you need someone to talk to about all of this, you can always send me an email at [email protected] or schedule a session with me: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

About Us:

Hi, it's Juliana!

I grew up around narcissistic people and spent decades of my life struggling because of it.

But I honestly had no idea.

I knew something wasn't right.

But I didn't really have the words for any of it.

Then I met my husband Elijah in a café in Rauma, Finland.

He also had narcissistic people in his life, but he had a better understanding of it.

So when I started opening up to him, he was always there for me.

He listened, helped me work through things, and stuck with me when I struggled.

Two years after we met, we were sitting with a friend of ours who was getting out of an abusive relationship.

This friend made a joke like:

“So all I need to do is find someone who loves me like Elijah loves you.”

I laughed, but Elijah didn't.

I can't remember exactly what he said, but it was something like:

“You don't need someone to love you.”

And then he went on to explain how the person who had helped him was a woman he met while he was living in Spain.

She was in her 70s. He wasn't sure if her name was María or Marina.

And they often had to use Google Translate to communicate.

There's a lot more to that story, but the point is: they weren't in love.

They just had this shared experience with narcissistic abuse.

And having someone actually believe him, understand him, and help him changed everything.

So if you were to ask me:

“What's the story behind Unfilteredd?”

That's it!

My entire life changed after I met Elijah.

I thought it was because I fell in love with him.

But it wasn't.

It was because:

1.) I finally understood what I was going through.

2.) I figured out what I could do about it.

3.) I had someone there for me through all of it.

Once Elijah and I realized this, there was no question about what we wanted to do next.

I left my career as a lawyer, he left his career as a soccer player, and we started Unfilteredd to create a space where you can find the same guidance and support I found in Elijah.

Only instead of it coming from an "Elijah," it comes from a licensed mental health professional who has both personal and professional experience with this type of abuse.

Thank you so much for reading all of this!

Juliana

Today's Episode:

In today's episode, we're going to talk about how reactive abuse can make you question whether you were the abusive one in your relationship and what you can do about it.

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

You can also text me anytime at (802) 267-4454 (U.S. & Canada) or message me on WhatsApp at +358 41 471 2869 (International).

Today’s Episode:

Juliana walks you through the reframe you need to make if you want to heal from narcissistic abuse  and gives you an exercise to help you get started.

About Us:

Unfilteredd helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

You can also text me anytime at (802) 267-4454 (U.S. & Canada) or message me on WhatsApp at +358 41 471 2869 (International).

Today’s Episode:

Juliana teaches you the seven vulnerabilities narcissists exploit to gain access to your life.

About Us:

Unfilteredd helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

You can also text me anytime at (802) 267-4454 (U.S. & Canada) or message me on WhatsApp at +358 41 471 2869 (International).

Today’s Episode:

Juliana explains how to stop missing the person a narcissistic ex pretended to be. 

About Us:

Unfilteredd is an organization that helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

Who Am I?

Purpose:

To help you build an identity that belongs to you.

Instructions:

Start by outlining the different pieces that make up a person’s identity.

Here are some categories you can use:

- Traits

- Values

- Beliefs

- Hobbies

- Fears

- Passions

- Skills

- Goals

- Career

For each one, write down as many things as you can that fall under that category.

Example: Under traits, you might list: thoughtful, creative, independent.

Pro Tip: 

You can use AI tools like ChatGPT to help brainstorm ideas for each category.

Here’s a prompt you can use:

“Can you give me a list of [insert category, like ‘values’ or ‘fears’] that could help someone explore their identity and better understand who they are or want to become?”

Once you’ve finished, go back through your lists and circle the ones that feel most true to who you are or who you want to become.

Then, each morning, choose one of the circled items and find a small way to explore or express it during the day.

Example:

If you circled “creativity,” you might:

- Cook a meal without a recipe

- Write a short poem about your day

- Make something by hand — a card, a drawing, a piece of pottery

At the end of the day, write down what you did, how it felt, and what impact it had on you.

Final Thoughts:

Do this for as many days as you can, and save all the reflections you write.

Over time, you’ll be able to use them to guide yourself toward more of what felt good and had a positive impact and less of what felt bad and had a negative impact.

This is how you begin to build an identity that belongs to you.

About Us:

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

In today’s episode, Juliana teaches you how to begin unlearning the harmful behaviors your ex made you believe were normal.

About Us:

Unfilteredd is an organization that helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

In today’s episode, Juliana teaches you how to overcome the pain of feeling used by your ex.

Listen to This Next: Do This With Good Memories of Your Narcissistic Ex

About Us:

Unfilteredd is an organization that helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

In today’s episode, Juliana shows you how to add context to the good memories you have about your ex — so you can keep the good memories without keeping the person who hurt you.

Listen to This Next: 5 Things Narcissists Want in a Relationship

About Us:

Unfilteredd is an organization that helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

In today’s episode, Juliana breaks down the five things narcissists want in a relationship — and why no matter how much you give, it will never be enough.

Listen to This Next: If Your Narcissistic Ex Has a New Partner, Listen to This

About Us:

Unfilteredd is an organization that helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, you can sign up for a free one-on-one session with a professional from our team here: https://unfilteredd.net/support/

In today’s episode, Juliana explains why your narcissistic ex is treating their new partner better, and why it’s just the start of the same toxic cycle, not proof that they’ve changed.

Listen to This Next: How to Explain Your Narcissistic Relationship to Others

About Us:

Unfilteredd is an organization that helps you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse so you can heal and move forward with your life. Learn more about us here: https://unfilteredd.net/about/

Disclaimer:

This episode of the Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners Podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or legal advice.