When you look back at where you were versus where you are now, the gap is astounding. But most of us are too busy beating ourselves up about what we still need to fix to actually see how far we've come. This conversation with my mom dives into breaking that loop and learning to measure your growth the way it actually matters.

Key Discussion Points

* Negative self-talk cages you in without you realizing

* How far you've come matters more than what's left

* Unspoken expectations turn into resentment over time

* Let yourself feel it before you try to fix it

* Second order emotions are the real trap

* Overthinking makes hard things harder than they need to be

* Gratitude works when everything feels shattered

If you're stuck in that loop, start by looking back. Really look. You'll be surprised.

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Timestamps:

00:00:00-00:03:28: The day I realized motherhood changes you fast

00:03:29-00:04:48: How I stopped feeling embarrassed for needing help

00:04:49-00:06:14: Poop everywhere.

00:06:15-00:09:08: The regret story people tell, and why it hurts

00:09:09-00:20:31: The hidden pressure of expectations

00:20:32-00:27:27: Timing, money, and the truth about wanting a family

00:27:28-00:35:36: Negative self-talk is a cage, not a mirror

00:35:37-00:42:54: The golden question that makes hard days lighter

00:42:55-00:48:38: Gratitude for when life feels shattered

00:48:39-00:50:15: Expectations that turn into resentment

00:50:16-00:54:34: The “second order emotion” trap you keep repeating

00:54:35-01:19:05: Why looking back is how you stay steady now

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Check out Darcy's work here:

https://www.instagram.com/darcydemerse.art

P.S. Darcy's camera cut out about half-way through. This should be the last time hopefully as I start to invest in more reliable equipment.

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