Unhappily married - Tee

Tee is unhappily married, and unhappy with her sex life—like so many people. Also like too many, she experiences the lingering impacts of sexual assault. She’s doing the work of setting boundaries, trying to provide a good example for her kids, and is still hoping someday she’ll find a communicative and loving partner.   Bookmark moments:  3:33 - Tee shares her first memory of sexual pleasure around age 16, having an electrifying first kiss with an annoying boy. 9:13 - Tee talks about growing up in a conservative Baptist congregation, then opens up about seeing her parents’ marital difficulties and the lingering impacts that has had on her relationships even to present day. 12:22- She is aware of the impact of spousal/parental yelling on her own kids. 12:45 - Tee is a masturbation late-bloomer. She felt behind her peers growing up, in all sexual matters. 15:05 - She loses her virginity and discovered that too much size matters. 17:33 - Her next lover takes his time and explains things. 18:50 - Tee talks about body image, being a tall woman. 25:13 PJ Parties for Grownups! 30:40 - A month after she gets engaged, Tee discovers she is pregnant. She miscarries at 5 months. The relationship doesn’t survive. 35:31 - She bumps into a childhood friend. 37:23 - Tee delves into the downturn in their sexual relationship. He tells her she is sexually immature. A quantity vs quality discussion ensues. 40:34 - A birthday dinner for her husband leads to sex gone awry and a lot of resentment. Communication was never good and has since broken down. He is ill and she stays out of obligation. 46:08 - Tee is contemplating a different future, for herself and her children. 49:42 - Men wanting to engage in three-ways with her and another woman makes her uncomfortable. Do all men want that?   The Patreon extras for this episode are:  This week at Patreon we’ve got the full extended Lowdown Q&A; with Tee. As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE!  They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex.  I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. I donate 10% of all Patreon income to ARC-Southeast, an organization that provides financial and logistical support to people seeking reproductive health services in Southeastern United States where safe and even life-saving services are being legislated out of existence.   BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls   Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person!   Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest   FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com   WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching   Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak