For over two decades, Bi Fuck Fest has existed in bi male spaces as something almost mythical.

Some people don’t believe it’s real.

Others believe it’s real but have no idea how to find it.

In this episode, we sit down with the third owner and current organizer of Bi Fuck Fest to talk about its 21-year history, how it began, what a multi-day BFF experience looks like, and how the vetting process works.

We cover:

• The origin story of BFF

• What first-timers can expect

• The culture and structure of the event

• How discretion and safety are handled

• How someone can request access and be considered

Links to the official group pages and application paths are included in the show notes below.

This conversation isn’t about hype. It’s about transparency, legacy, and why dedicated spaces for bi men still matter.

To contact the organizer for consideration to join BFF simply join and log into any one of the swing lifestyle sites below and contact them under username CUTEONES.

Kasidie

****For the first month of free full access to Kasidie.com use the code CUTEONES

The Lifestyle Lounge Memberships

Signup Page - SDC.com

To contact the organizer to join BFF on the following platforms, use the username CUTEONES1

Swingers Lifestyle Community | Adult Personals | Clubs & Events

FetLife: World's Largest BDSM, Kink, and Fetish Community | FetLife

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**What We Talk About on this Podcast**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding

- Building a stronger, more open community together

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Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

Anal play doesn’t have to be intimidating, awkward, or painful — when done right, it can be safe, fun, and incredibly connecting.

In this episode, Rob shares his journey with toys and bottoming, while Ashley dives into topping, pegging, and what every partner should know to make it enjoyable for everyone.

We also talk about safety, quality products, and why patience and communication change everything.

Whether you’re curious, brand new, or already exploring — this episode is for you.

We only recommend products we genuinely trust and when it comes to anal health and play, Future Method is at the top of our list.

Future Method was created by Dr. Evan Goldstein, an anal health surgeon focused on safe, body-aware products designed specifically for anal play.

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Preparation. Patience. The right products.

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**What We Talk About on this Podcast**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding

- Building a stronger, more open community together

Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

In this episode, we share our first swing experience with a fully bisexual couple. We talk about what went right, what went wrong, and what we learned navigating a scenario where the men were also having sex. It was Rob’s first time being with a man in front of me, and we break down the emotions, communication, and takeaways. We also announce our new affiliation with Future Method and tease next week’s deep dive into anal play, pegging, safety, and preparation.

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***Everyone will remain anonymous***

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Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

**What We Talk About on this Podcast**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding

- Building a stronger, more open community together

Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

We went into our first experience looking for bi play and somehow ended up with a straight couple, a laugh track, and the universe actively testing us at every turn. From missed signals and awkward timing to a husband who hadn’t even told his wife he was talking to swingers, this night had full 90s sitcom energy. It was hot, chaotic, and wildly imperfect. Along the way, we touch on our very different jealousy styles compersion versus traditional jealousy and how we navigated it all together. Proof that sometimes the messiest beginnings make the best stories.

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👉 https://MORandMore.org

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***Everyone will remain anonymous***

Email -> [email protected]

Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

**What We Talk About on this Podcast**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding

- Building a stronger, more open community together

Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

This episode continues Rob’s story as a bi man.

In part two, the conversation covers his marriage and the process of navigating same sex attraction while trying to make sense of who he was internally. Rob shares his first coming out experience, the fear that came with it, and what it felt like to begin accepting himself.

The episode then moves into meeting his current partner and what it was like to be in a relationship built on acceptance, honesty, and trust. Together, they talk about building their bond, creating a strong foundation, growing their family, and eventually choosing to enter the swinging lifestyle together as a fully bi couple.

This episode is not about labels or advice.

It is about growth, communication, and choosing honesty even when it feels uncomfortable.

We also share that we were guests on Beyond Monogamy with Adam and Pris. Our episode aired on December 28. Please see the link below to check out their amazing podcast!!

Beyond Monogamy | Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy & Swinging

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👉 https://MORandMore.org

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***Everyone will remain anonymous***

Email -> [email protected]

Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

**What We Talk About on this Podcast**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding

- Building a stronger, more open community together

Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self in and out of the bedroom.

This quick Christmas Eve bonus episode is our little gift to you. In just eleven minutes, we share three holiday surprises: our signature cocktails for the night, a sweet and playful poem just for the Bi Tribe, and a few updates on where you can catch more of us this week. It’s simple, fun, and full of heart. Merry Christmas, and thanks for being here with us.

💗💜💙

This is the official, everything-in-it, fully garnished, holiday cocktail.

Base

1. 2 oz bourbon or rye
2. 1.5 oz cranberry juice (100% juice)
3. 1 oz fresh orange juice
4. 0.5 oz maple syrup (or simple syrup)
5. 2–3 dashes orange bitters

Flavor Boosters (The “Works”)

1. 1 small squeeze fresh lemon (¼ oz)
2. 1 small splash ginger ale or ginger beer for sparkle
3. 1 tiny pinch cinnamon inside the shaker (optional but perfect)

Garnish (Holiday Showstopper)

1. 1 rosemary sprig (looks like a Christmas tree)
2. 3 sugared cranberries on a cocktail pick
3. Optional: orange peel twist expressed over the top

1. Add to a shaker:
2. bourbon, cranberry juice, orange juice, maple syrup, lemon, bitters, and cinnamon.
3. Add ice + shake hard for 10 seconds.
4. Strain into a rocks glass filled with fresh ice.
5. Add a tiny splash of ginger ale (½–1 oz).
6. Garnish with:
7. rosemary sprig
8. skewered sugared cranberries
9. orange twist if you want it extra gorgeous

Ingredients:

1. 2 oz bourbon or rye whiskey
2. 4 oz eggnog (store-bought or homemade)
3. 1 small pinch ground nutmeg
4. 1 small pinch ground cinnamon
5. Optional: 1–2 drops vanilla extract
6. Optional: 0.25 oz maple syrup (if you like it sweeter)

Garnish:

1. Freshly grated nutmeg on top
2. Cinnamon stick
3. Light dusting of cinnamon or holiday spice mix

🍸 Instructions

1. In a shaker or mixing glass, combine whiskey, eggnog, nutmeg, cinnamon, and optional vanilla or maple.
2. Shake very gently (do NOT hard-shake eggnog) OR stir until fully combined.
3. Pour into a chilled rocks glass or a small festive mug.
4. Garnish with a cinnamon stick and a sprinkle of fresh nutmeg.

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**What We Talk About**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding

- Building a stronger, more open community together

Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

In this episode, Rob begins sharing his story. (PART 1)

From early same-sex attraction and internal conflict to the emotional toll of hiding parts of himself, this conversation focuses less on labels and more on the cost of silence.

This is not an episode about graphic experiences. It’s about fear, shame, love, and the long road toward honesty, both with yourself and with the person you’re committed to.

We know this topic can bring up a lot for people. Listener discretion is advised.

If you’re a partner, a spouse, or someone quietly carrying a similar story, you are not alone.

This is Part 1 of Rob’s journey.

We also chose to set aside some private, deeper conversations that didn’t fit the flow of this episode. What you’ll hear is the core of Rob’s journey and the moments that shaped it most. Some of that material may be shared at a later time.

If you or someone you love is struggling or in crisis, you are not alone. Support is available 24/7.

• Phone: 1-866-488-7386
• Text: “START” to 678-678
• Chat: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

• Call: 988
• Text: 988
• Chat: https://988lifeline.org/
• Note: You can request to speak with an LGBTQ+-affirming counselor. When available, 988 will route you to a counselor trained in supporting LGBTQ+ individuals.

These services are free, confidential, and available any time, day or night.

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Website: https://www.morandmore.org

MOR & more was created from a desire to bring light, hope, and connection to mixed-orientation relationships. Born from the founder's own search for understanding and kindness, it is a space that exists to share real stories, foster empathy, and remind others that they are not alone. 

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***Everyone will remain anonymous***

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Please leave us a review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

 **What We Talk About**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle  

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding  

- Building a stronger, more open community together  

 Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.  

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.  

Thank you, Bi Tribe. Truly.

This bonus episode is all about you, the incredible listeners who’ve supported our show, shared our content, sent messages, and helped us grow across countries and time zones. We’re blown away by how global this community has become.

In today’s gratitude-focused episode, we:

- Celebrate our listeners and share what this journey means to us

- Highlight an amazing resource for anyone in a Mixed-Orientation Relationship (MOR) MORandMore.org

- Have a little fun as Rob opens up about his type ;)

Whether you’ve been here since Episode 1 or just found us this week, we appreciate you more than you know.

Thank you for being part of this story with us.

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Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!!

***Everyone will remain anonymous***

Email -> [email protected]

Please leave us a review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

 **What We Talk About**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle  

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding  

- Building a stronger, more open community together  

 Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.  

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.  

Please visit Mixed Orientation Relationships | MOR & more for an amazing website dedicated to provided resources for people in mixed orientation relationships

Join us as Rob and Ashley take to the ring to go toe-to-toe on bi chatting vs straight chatting. We had very differing opinions on which is more important to have all members of both couples present. We hope you enjoy the playful banter from your ring side seats!

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Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!!

***Everyone will remain anonymous***

Email -> [email protected]

Please leave us a review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

 **What We Talk About on This Podcast**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle  

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding  

- Building a stronger, more open community together  

 Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.  

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self in and out of the bedroom.  

Recommended Websites:

Mixed Orientation Relationships | MOR & more

In episode 2, Rob and Ashley dive into the top three stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle community — and what it’s really like to navigate them as a bi couple.

We share our personal experiences, the misconceptions that still linger, and the amazing people who don’t buy into the hate.

Ashley opens up about the emotional moment of being in the same room with another woman who proudly supports her husband’s bisexuality and sexual exploration for the first time.

We also talk about how other bi men and couples are finding us, how we’re finding them, and how real connection is still absolutely possible — and a lot of fun — for bi singles and bi couples alike.

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Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!!

***Everyone will remain anonymous***

Email -> [email protected]

Please leave us a review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :)

 **What We Talk About**

- Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle  

- How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding  

- Building a stronger, more open community together  

 Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts.  

Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.