Conflict doesn’t have to mean combat. In this episode of The Unlearning Room, we explore what happens when frustration turns into criticism — and how to shift from attack to authentic connection.

You’ll learn the difference between a complaint and a criticism, how to recognize your body’s response when shame or defensiveness shows up, and practical tools to pause, regulate, and repair — even when the conversation spirals.

We’ll also unpack what to do when self-reflection feels heavy or shame-filled, and why complaints are actually bids for connection.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I’m just trying to be heard,” this one’s for you.

Listen for:

• How to recognize when your nervous system hears “danger” instead of “disagreement”
• The six steps to redirect circular arguments
• What it means to reflect without collapsing into shame
• Reframing power, voice, and domination in communication

🪞 “Our interpretation of day-to-day experiences is influenced by the state of our nervous system.”

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