Can desire survive long-term love?
What happens when your libido disappears—or never showed up in the first place?
And is monogamy even natural… or just a default setting?

In this radically honest episode of the Umaversity Podcast, we sit down with Jolien Spoelstra—clinical psychologist, EMDR therapist, and certified sexologist (NVVS)—for a no-BS conversation on what women+ really need to feel emotionally and sexually safe in their relationships.

We explore:

• Why mismatched libido isn’t the real problem
• How trauma hides behind “I’m just not in the mood”
• Monogamy vs. non-monogamy: emotional truths & sexual myths
• How to navigate desire in long-term relationships without guilt
• What it actually takes to feel safe, turned on, and empowered in intimacy
• This is the relationship and sex ed we should’ve gotten.

👀 Whether you're single, in a situationship, exploring open relationships, or 10 years deep into partnership—this episode will activate you to ask better questions, claim your pleasure, and understand your patterns.

Let’s stop faking it. Start unlearning. Meet yourself. Amplify.

More info on Jolien:

• Website
• Instagram

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