Many of us grew up absorbing quiet messages about who we’re allowed to be. Even after coming out, those messages can live on — shaping how we love, express, and even how we see ourselves.In this episode, we’re joined by therapist, author, and speaker Chris Tompkins (Raising LGBTQ Allies) for a conversation about internalized homophobia: how early shame becomes part of our identity, and how to begin unlearning it.We explore:<ul><li>The difference between what’s said — and what’s left unsaid — in childhood</li><li>How internalized shame shows up in relationships, sex, and self-image</li><li>The role of the body and nervous system in healing old beliefs</li><li>Why “safe play” and conscious exploration are essential in reclaiming joy</li><li>How affirming environments can interrupt cycles of silence and neglect</li></ul>This episode is a reminder that there’s nothing wrong with you — and that healing begins the moment you start to believe that. 🌐 Join The Circle community → www.myembodiment.com

Many of us grew up absorbing quiet messages about who we’re allowed to be. Even after coming out, those messages can live on — shaping how we love, express, and even how we see ourselves. In this episode, we’re joined by therapist, author, and speaker Chris Tompkins (Raising LGBTQ Allies) for a conversation about internalized homophobia: how early shame becomes part of our identity, and how to begin unlearning it. We explore:The difference between what’s said — and what’s left unsaid — in childhoodHow internalized shame shows up in relationships, sex, and self-imageThe role of the body and nervous system in healing old beliefsWhy “safe play” and conscious exploration are essential in reclaiming joyHow affirming environments can interrupt cycles of silence and neglectThis episode is a reminder that there’s nothing wrong with you — and that healing begins the moment you start to believe that. 🌐 Join The Circle community → www.myembodiment.com

Many of us grew up absorbing quiet messages about who we’re allowed to be. Even after coming out, those messages can live on — shaping how we love, express, and even how we see ourselves.In this episode, we’re joined by therapist, author, and speaker Chris Tompkins (Raising LGBTQ Allies) for a conversation about internalized homophobia: how early shame becomes part of our identity, and how to begin unlearning it.We explore:<ul><li>The difference between what’s said — and what’s left unsaid — in childhood</li><li>How internalized shame shows up in relationships, sex, and self-image</li><li>The role of the body and nervous system in healing old beliefs</li><li>Why “safe play” and conscious exploration are essential in reclaiming joy</li><li>How affirming environments can interrupt cycles of silence and neglect</li></ul>This episode is a reminder that there’s nothing wrong with you — and that healing begins the moment you start to believe that.&nbsp;🌐 Join The Circle community → www.myembodiment.com

Unlearning Shame: Healing Internalized Homophobia and Reclaiming Worth

Welcome to The Circle, an on-going conversation about men’s work, men's embodiment practices, and personal growth from the perspective of two queer men. Hosted by Eric Bomyea and men’s embodiment coach, Tim Bish, together, we investigate the purpose of men’s work, how queer men can participate, what value they might receive, and the unique value they add in the pursuit of growth for all. We also explore the challenges, dynamics, and transformative practices that empower men to show up authentically in the world. Each episode goes all in on themes like masculine and feminine energies, intuition, purpose, integrity, and brotherhood. We offer in-depth discussions on breaking through societal expectations, healing personal wounds, and developing a sense of presence. Drawing from the teachings of Amir Khalighi, David Deida, John Wineland, and our own experiences, we guide listeners through the journey of leading a conscious, integrated, and impactful life. Join us as we explore what it means to show up powerfully as queer men, navigate the dynamics of men’s spaces, and offer insights that benefit all men—gay, straight, or otherwise. Whether you're redefining your relationship masculinity, connecting with your intuition, or pushing past your edges, The Circle is your space for growth, connection, and transformation.

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