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Welcome to an episode that is set to shatter your boundaries, “Life Begins When You Open Your Mind”.

If you’ve ever felt the urge to break free from the ordinary, this episode is your call to adventure.

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Yo, what is happening, guys? Nathan back once again with another Episode of the unplugged Freedom podcast, and In today’s episode, we’re going to have A casual conversation about. Opening your mind. Because, Life begins when you open your mind life begins when you Have the ability to be able to, To maybe think what?

What if I were to take a left instead of a right? What if? You know, while everybody’s going left? What if I was supposed? What if I went, right? What happens then? There’s, There’s so many people that are just running. Automatic Behavior and they have no idea. You have to kind of think about it, like, Let’s say in a video game, for example, okay.

Whether you’ve played video games before you understand video, games or not. I’m gonna tell you, so In a video game you. Are the what’s called a playable character? So, you have the ability. If you want to go left, you go left, if you want to go, right, you go, right.

If you want to hop in the car and drive, you can do that. You have that ability as the playable character? Now, there are things within a video game that are called NPCs. Non-playable characters. Now, there’s different levels of non-playable characters. You have the really simple basic ones and these ones But they’ve got a program and so let’s say there’s The program for these really simple NPCs.

Are just to drive around the city. They use the same lane. They use the same root and they just drive around the city and you can you as the playable character, you can say, hey, you know what? I’m gonna follow this car. And inside this video game, you’re following this car, and you’re watching this route that this NPC is taken, and it’s the same thing.

Now. What’s also interesting? Is that? You may think okay what it happens if I get in front of this, NPC. So let’s say the NPC is driving a car. And that’s all it does. And you decide to hop in another car. And then you cut this NPC off, And you stop your vehicle in front of it.

Now, this NPC has It’s only got the one route and it’s only so programmed it’s only. So got so much artificial intelligence within it that It cannot. It cannot do anything, unless you move. So it may stop. But it, it will not do anything, it won’t go around you.

It won’t do anything. It’ll just it’s just continues to go. The same route that it’s always going. And so, this is In NPC, this is a very simple non-playable character and you’re gonna see why this is this is all Uh, relatable. Because this is very much the world that we live in today.

And you’ll see. Now, if you’re listening to this podcast, Is a pretty good chance that you’re probably not. An NPC. However, You might. You might be of one of the higher. Artificial intelligence. Npcs. And I’m going to, I’m going to tell you what I mean is. It almost looks like you’re not an NPC.

But you have the Tendencies of an NPC. So, There are different levels of NPC. So another one Is. Let’s say you get in front of this. NPC, you cut it off. You know, with your vehicle? Well a smarter more intelligent, NPC. Has the ability to be able to say, hey there’s something in front of me, let me go around it and then it goes around it.

And so it then will do whatever it can. You can try and cut it off again and again. But it’ll continue to keep trying to go around. And so it has that ability to be able to do that. And then there are other ones other NPCs where let’s say, let’s say the type of game you are playing is like a free roam roaming in the city.

You’re running around the city, you are a character running around in this city. And you grab a car, you cut off one of the NPCs. There’s a simple ones. He’s trying to keep continue driving. The same route. The other NPC has the ability to try and work its way around you.

Try and find another way. Then there’s another NPC. Who will get out? And we’ll actually get mad at you and say, what is your problem? What are you crazy? I’m trying to get out of my way and it just starts to argue with you. And, But it’s still it’s got a little bit more life, it’s got a little bit more intelligence behind it.

However it It’s still an NPC, still a non-playable character. And so, let’s say you as the playable character you show aggression to this NPC. Now, the NPC is smart enough to say. Whoa! Whoa, whoa, whoa. I’m sorry, I’m sorry. And it turns around and it takes off. And it gets out of there, it may even turn its car around, instead of trying to go the same road, you may turn its car around and then take off in a totally New Direction.

So that is a a much smarter NPC? Now, I’ve talked about this in different podcasts before about NPCs and so, Here’s a great example. In the dating world. There’s a lot of times. People are just there’s there’s the grocery list of items that people are looking for. They’re saying, okay, I need a house.

I need a car. I need. Partner. I need a to be married. I need to have kids like they’re just checking the things off, like, that’s They’re NPC list. And so, Like they don’t know where these These programs or ideas came from, they just know that. Okay, this is what I got a check off and it’s just going So if some, if an NPC comes up to a A playable character.

Let’s say such as myself. You know, and I have You know, these these these ideas and these dreams and these goals and these, you know, things and I’m talking about all these different things and The NPCs sitting there, like I’m looking for husband. Yeah, okay, I get that. I understand that.

Okay, you’re looking for a husband but, uh, I’m pretty sure like. You’re supposed to like start at friends first and then you kind of like gradually get there. You don’t just jump right into husband. And then the NPC looks at you and it’s all cockeyed, head tilted and looking at you blank with a blank stare and like I’m looking for husband.

Okay. I get that you’re looking for husband, okay? Maybe I might be looking for a wife, but Most definitely not right out of the gate. So, Like, maybe, I don’t know. I don’t know if that’s in like six months a year. Two years. I, I don’t know. I know, like, Just looking at you like blank stare.

Like, not even like they’re kind of looking through you and like, I’m looking for her husband. Okay. And like, just nothing you say will get through to these NPCs. And so, Sometimes it’s it’s very interesting and they may bump into another NPC in another MP and PC will be, will say I’m looking for a wife.

I’m looking for a husband. And then it kind of calculate. Together. They’re kind of like Husband. Husband wife, husband wife. Let’s get married. It’s a very simple. Um, vision of what I’m talking about, but it’s based like if you actually get out there in the world, you will see this.

You will see this. It blows my fucking mind each and every single time it’s crazy. Like for example, people people who get a job a career like it’s just I’m looking for a job. I’m looking for a job, like, here’s a job. I’ve got job. I’ve got job, okay?

I need, I need a husband and they just like, going around like, they’ve already got the job. Like, that’s it. That’s all. They’ve got the job, there’s nothing else. And nothing beyond this job. There’s not, you know, there’s People don’t have like these visions of like, man. I’m coming in.

I’m going to work this job for like five years. I’m buying a sale boat and then I’m taking off and we’re gonna we’re gonna live around the Greek Islands and who knows? But like that’s what that’s what we want to do. Like super cool man. Like nobody ever has a cool fucking story like that.

Everybody’s just got the same end. PC story. Like I’m looking for husband, I have two kids. I have house. I have husband, I have wife like it’s just the same shit and you can like write the stories you can just Like, let me guess. Okay, you’re married. You got two kids.

Yeah, big fucking whoop like, Let me guess you got Brand new truck truck payment. Yeah, you got you got a house, right? Holy fuck. It’s like uh it’s like I already know you like, wow. How do I know so much about you? And, It gets old. Gets all definitely old.

And the thing is, is that like People will always say. You know, that they they love being married or that they love having kids or whatever whatever shit they want to say. And like I said, many times, okay, I’ve got no issues or qualms with Marriage or kids or that kind of stuff.

Like the no issues with it whatsoever. I love seeing people in love. I’ve I actually have one set of friends. I love seeing these people. These guys as uh Instagram and because they’re always out just living their best life and they’re just like the perfect couple and It’s it’s it’s so rare to see.

And they’re so such simple people. Yeah, I don’t mean simple in a bad way. It just, I mean, they are just doing their thing and I just, I love it so much and they’re just There’s simple going. They’re easy people. They’re super laid back and I I just love it.

And that’s what I say is like, I don’t even think they’re married. And I don’t even think that they have any like, Ideas of getting married. And they’ve been together for a long time. And the thing is like, who cares? Who cares? But like nor like NPCs right non-playable characters.

They’d be like why aren’t you married? Why aren’t you married? You, you should be married. Why don’t you get married. This is like, who fucking cares, dude. You don’t have to get married to be happy. Okay, being married, doesn’t doesn’t equate to happiness. You know, how many people I know that are married that are fucking miserable.

So many. And they’ll lie to your face about it too. Being right? Oh yeah, the wife. The wife and it it just it’s so funny. How life works? Is that? You could be single, let’s say you’re a single woman, 37 years old, good, look in your smart, you got a lot of things going for you.

But people would look at you Society in general, Would look at you. Almost like in pity. And be like, Oh, you know what? There’s someone out there for you and this person could be like, just on cloud fucking nine and just living their best life. But everybody you know Society as a whole basically just looks at them as like oh she’s so smart you know.

And she like she’s so good looking and she she really has so much going. She’ll find the guy but she’s not even looking. She’s just living her best life. It’s not even like on her radar. Of thinking of of a relationship. It’s not even on her fucking radar. Like I would love and and this, this is the thing.

I would love to just bump into someone and I’m not talking about like meeting them in the relationship aspect. I just like To bump into someone and have a conversation with them. Let’s say, let’s say it was a 37 year old, good looking smart has a lot of things going for her woman.

Just to have a conversation really? Let me ask you a question. Like you I’ve gotten to know you a little bit and like, yeah. There’s a lot of great things about you. Can I ask why you’re single? And like, you’ve never been married before. You’ve never really had many long-term relationships like Why are you single?

I’m fascinated by that. And if she turned around to me, And look to me dead into my fucking soul and said, Why do I have to be? I would fucking die. I would fall on the floor and just like, oh my God. That. Is so like that person? Is them that is their their they are a a genuine person like that is definitely not an NPC whatsoever.

Like that would fascinate me so much be like, oh my God like I I have like a million questions now. And it would just be like, sitting there like When did this start, how did you get this mindset? Like What about your your peers? What about your your friends, your family?

Like there would just be a million questions from me. After that. Because that’s fascinating that that person is interesting. Like I’ve met people that it’s just always like their goal, actually, we’re going to talk about some very interesting in a second. Their goal is just like Always, it’s always like, oh, um, I’m out car shopping and uh, you know, maybe I might find, maybe I might find the one, you know, while I’m car shopping and you’re just like, you know, like they can’t even go car shopping without thinking about finding the one.

And you’re like, holy fuck like Like that is the the NPC Tendencies that uh I’m talking about like you you might almost be a playable character. But you just might be a very smart. NPC is what you Probably are. Like you you you are living life, you’re doing your thing, but then all of a sudden there’s this underlining code that is written within your Uh, you know, coding.

In your software. And it’s, it’s telling you you’re an NPC and that you have to be in a relationship. So no matter what you’re doing, like, Things could be just rainbows and sunshines and fucking. Puppy dogs, and whatever. But underneath it all. There’s this, there’s this desire and this unknown need as to where it came from of.

I need husband. I need relationship. I need to buy a house. I need. Like, do you understand what I’m saying? And so, That’s why I say like if if you met somebody And they just, They didn’t have that underlining. Bullshit. Like that is interesting to me that is like fascinating to me.

Because it’s just like, tell me, like what? I’ll tell you this one. This one when I was like 25 or something I was I was I was young. I was young, she was in her 40s and she was She was. She had everything. Okay, I think I was, yeah, I was obvious.

I was living in Vancouver at the time. I don’t know, 25 26. I left a relationship whatever. And, We had gotten together. I don’t think I’ve ever shared this story. And that’s that’s the benefit of listening to this podcast. Is that you get to learn so many things about About me, and and everything.

And so, Uh, a lot more than a lot of people know. So, like you might be wondering like, why would I listen to this guy’s podcast? Because you get to hear some like really good shit. You don’t get to hear it all. Okay, maybe one day you might beget to hear like, you know, the the top 10 stories but, uh, So anyways, I Methods met this woman.

Okay. We had a met through a chat app. Whisper, I think it was actually if you ever used that one. And, This was like 12 10, 10 years ago, 10 plus years ago. And I remember she was looking for, she’s like, looking forward, discreet meet up with a male.

Over. Has to be married yet. Yeah. Yeah. I wasn’t any of those things. I was below 30. I wasn’t married wasn’t in a relationship and I like come in. She’s like, look. No definitely, no and no again. Because what she wanted is she wanted something that was She wanted both parties to have equal.

Things to lose. So if she was married, she wanted you to be married, so that you both had skin in the game. And me being the Charming Master that I am. I come in, I say look. Let me be real with you. Let me just just hear me out.

Hear me out. Okay. I understand everything that you’re talking about, I know what you’re looking for and I may not May not hit those spots, it may not be able to hit those targets. However, Here’s what I know. You are gonna be elbow deep in. Dog shit. That is out there.

You know, that. And I know that the amount of scum, the amount of dirt bags, and the amount of just shitheads that you are gonna have to go through, is just gonna be ridiculous. And they’re all going to fit your criteria. They’re all going to be exactly over 30.

Many of are going to be married. And they’re gonna hit all the criteria that you’re looking for. But, you know, and I know The amount of scum that is out there. Here’s what I can tell you. I’m being honest with you and I may not be over 30. I may not be married or even in a relationship.

However, I will save you the grief, it will save you the heartache of having to deal with all the bullshit that is out there. All the idiots. All the freaking make you wanna gag. That stuff out there. I will save you from all that. If you give me a chance, I will show you.

That it will be worth every single moment of your time. And this was basically like my pitch to her. And she’s like, You’re not wrong. God damn it, you’re fucking right. And she said, fine.

I’m available this time. What about you? I said, yes. Yes. I know a great sushi place. Let’s go. For sushi. And I can still I can still tell. I don’t know if the sushi place is still there but I know exactly where it is. And so we met there.

Beautiful woman. And Like she was in her 40s. Here I am in my late 20s, and And we had Matt, Nice. You know, simple simple date and And I’m going to tell you, as to why I’m telling you this story. And, So, She had told me everything like she this woman was successful.

We’re talking like a million dollar business, we’re talking like, House. In beautiful Vancouver, beautiful house, a beautiful part of Vancouver, Kids going off to college smart kids. She was she was married to a man who loved her to the Moon, and back. And so she had everything. If you looked at her life from the outside perspective, you would have been like, wow.

That is the epitome. Of a family right there. That right there, everything that she had, it was just incredible. So one day okay, after we’ve had a few. So after that date, we I actually kissed her and it was lovely. It was a lovely, beautiful date. And so We continued our Rendezvous, let’s call them.

So, one day, We’re in the backseat of my car. And we had just, you know, had an amazing time. And, I say to her. I said, yeah. Tell me something. Tell me, like, this has just been burning in my brain because I’m just so fascinated, please. Like, don’t take any offense to it.

I don’t mean it in a negative way or whatsoever. It’s coming from a pure genuine. Place of curiosity. And I asked her, I said what brings you here? You have this life that most people would look at. As just perfect. And here you are. In the back, seat of my car.

With me. Having an amazing time.

I am so fascinated, like, tell me. And she had said that. You know. I, I got married when I was young. I had kids when I was young. And that was my life. From when I was young. 20 years old. That’s the life that I’ve only ever known. And then as my kids started to grow up and they started to be much more independent, they started to, you know, To leave the coop.

And I started to have more time and there was just all these things and She said there was almost like a like, Like a seed was growing and And, It was just kind of, I never got to live life.

And I remember her telling me this this story and I was so fascinated. And I learned a lot about it, like I learned a lot about life from people and Which is why I am the way that I am, because of the How how I’ve learned so much from people.

I, I remember her telling me this and I was like that is the most fascinating thing I’ve ever heard. I love it. I love it. Like, It is so real. It is so honest. Like nobody’s fucking honest like that. Nobody’s honest like that. So, I was like thinking, you know, so we got to talk in and everything.

And I said, well like, What’s the plan? Is it just to have, you know, secret Rendezvous with your with your Um, lover in the back seat of his car. From here on out or what? Like, tell me what And so, She said, well, no, I’m I I want to leave my marriage.

I want to get out of it. I don’t know how though. I said, okay cool. And I thought that was also very, very cool as well because She knew that she wasn’t happy. Like yes, of course. Like I’m not condoning. What she did. I’m not saying that. That’s what you should do.

Okay. But being honest with yourself is most definitely what you should do. Okay. She was wondering like, Could I go out and do this? And with that save my marriage would I would I get it out of my system and then all of a sudden Like that’s it, that’s all maybe maybe.

I don’t want to do this. Because I was I was the one that she had done it with. First like that was So like she could have like done it and then been like okay, We’re done. I just want to get it out of my system and then gone off and been happily ever married.

But, And she knew like her, her husband loved her. She’s like, she knew all that stuff and And then she wanted. Wanted to. Get out of it. And so, she did. This was years later. Went from like sleeping in separate beds, sleeping in separate rooms. She eventually bought a place somewhere else.

Everything. And I remember I texted her like years later. And she said, you know, Everything’s great. I’ve met somebody new. I left my husband. Kids are great, you know? Life is great. And I was like that’s so cool and I always loved that. I always always love that and like I said, I’m not condoning what she did.

Okay, that’s not what I’m saying, okay, don’t fucking twist my words. Okay, what I’m saying is that she knew that she was unhappy And she knew that she needed to make a change. Yes, she she went about it in a maybe not. So great way. But the thing is, is, Even if she was honest, let’s say with her husband.

Do you think he could have handled it? Most people can’t handle shit like that. Most people are weak. Most of these marriages or these relationships, they’re held together by just like The smallest. Just idiotic things. It’s just ridiculous. That’s stupid.

I always say like what if she were to talk to her husband? Say, look, I just want to let you know, as Some feelings that have been coming up, I don’t know where they’re coming from. I don’t know why they’re coming here, but they are, but I want to be honest because you’re my partner, you’re my, you’re my everything, and we’re supposed to be in this together forever.

And I should be freed to be able to come to you and her husband should be there as the actual partner to be able to listen, listen, without judgment. Listen without emotion with listen without Uh, wanting to to reprimand, you’re listening to understand. And this is, this is the thing that if you take this advice in your relationship, you will have such a successful fucking relationship.

I will tell you that right now. Because, Let’s see if she came to her husband. And her husband was an actual man. And said hey you know what? Let’s talk about this. Yeah, that’s this is very, this is, this is very much our problem. What can we do about it?

Where did this problem come from? Why did this problem? Come And they may realize like, hey, it’s because I’ve been working so much. Uh you you’ve been this and that and then all of a sudden they’ve realized that there were these certain holds within their marriage that weren’t there before.

And then all of a sudden, they are able to To fulfill those within their marriage and the idea of cheating. Or leaving never comes back. Or maybe they do hash it out and they talk about it and they eventually say, yeah. I don’t. I don’t want you to be unhappy if Not going to do this marriage anymore, or And that’s okay.

That’s okay. You’re you’re allowed to to change. You’re allowed to come to those realizations that I’ve never fucking lived life, man. But you can also Okay, you can also like, okay. Like, I understand that I, I think, in one of the last podcasts I talked about A high school sweetheart, he had cheated on her and I explained how it’s like, well, Kind of surprised it took.

So, And the reason for that is because That. That, uh, You know, you’re going through these, these growing pains with somebody and there’s some things that you’re going to have to Expect. That are going to come up. Okay. And It’s just the way that it is. Okay. And so But the thing is is that like the reason I got on to this story is because of how fascinated I was about this woman.

This woman who like I’m, I’m young. I’m You know, just starting out in life. I just laughed a long-term relationship. And she It was just so fascinating to me. Because she had everything, literally everything, everything that every bit stressful, she had, And yet, here she was in the backseat of my car with me.

On a nightly Rendezvous. Oh man, life is awesome, isn’t it? And so, It was just so fascinating to, to Talk to someone like that. Understand someone like Because like I said, nobody’s real like that. Everybody will lie to your fucking face and just be like, oh yeah. Oh yeah, everything’s great.

Everything’s great. Our marriage, love it, love it. Oh my God. Yeah, having another kid. Yep. Yeah, the old lady. Yeah, just talked me into it. Uh, seizure dead. And apparently we’re buying a new house. Yeah. Buying a new house and here we are almost done painting this one off.

But Not a big deal. No no, not a big deal. You know what I’m saying? Like just people just fucking lie all the time and this is why I was talking about being a good listener in the last podcast. The reason that I became a good listener, I didn’t set out to be a good listener, just kind of happened.

And the reason that it just kind of happened was because I realized that just so many people lie. So many people just tell bullshit people will lie to your face. People will Yeah, there’s just things that people will do and so you have to learn to decipher those things.

And, Yeah.

I was just thinking the just the thought of that that person I was thinking about like actually sending them a message and just saying like, hey, Hope you’re well. Probably will. All right after this because, uh, I don’t know where they are, what they’re doing. It’s been a while, but yeah.

Um, Anyways. Um, Where are we? The thing is, is that Opening your mind is. Is questioning. Where did these thoughts come from? Where do these ideas come from? You want a relationship so bad? But why, like why? Is that just the programming that has been instilled within your code?

Because you’re an NPC. I’m looking for husband, I’m looking for wife. These people are fucked they’re everywhere too, so it’s just crazy. And it’s funny, when When I run into these NPCs and They’re talking to me.

They just do not understand me and that’s why I say, I’m not from this planet whatsoever, there’s no way I’m from this planet. Not at all. Because in, unless Maybe I am. And it’s just that. Everybody’s been brainwashed in such a way that That they could have an open mind, they could have their own lives to live, but they’re just so brainwashed that they have no idea, no clue.

And they’ve just lost themselves. And so, Unfortunately, it’s like to the mass majority of people and so It’s uh, It’s interesting. So, the thing is that, you gotta you gotta open your mind. Yeah. Hoping your mind you know? When I talk to these people like they just can’t even wrap their heads around me.

And I’m like, oh so like what kind of, you know, do you have a house? No, you have kids. No, you married. No. Dude, like what they just don’t even understand it. They don’t even like, get it like, oh, you like, are you dating? Are you like, like, no, dude.

I’m just fucking living my life is what I’m doing. Okay, like that’s what I’m doing. Like, but like everybody’s just like focused around the same shit. When we have a whole entire world out there that is filled with possibilities. We have we’re living in an amazing time where we have super computers in the palms of our hand.

And yet we’re not even utilizing them to their the full potential and It’s, it’s so unfortunate. And so, People are complaining and whining and And so we’ve got a, we gotta open our minds up. Where do I? Why do I believe what I believe? Where did that thought? Come from?

Where did that idea come from? You’ve seen the movie Inception, right? How they plant an idea into somebody’s mind. Well, that’s pretty much what happened to people. Is like you gonna plant this idea that you want to have kids into your mind and you have no idea where that came from, you just know that it just showed up one day and you’re like, I want to have kids.

Okay.

People are 25 years old, 30 years old. And talking about retirement, and they’re going to have this job until retirement, and you’re like, dude, That’s like three decades away. Three decades. 10 years ago when I was 27. I had recently broke up with a long-term relationship and I was living in Vancouver 10 years ago.

2017. Uh, wait. Wait 2013. Oh oh shit. No why do I was I think in 2017. Like 10 years ago. 23. Teen, I don’t even know, like 2013, I recently broke about living up In Prince, George. And, Yeah. Completely different place than where I am today. Completely different mindset.

Completely different beliefs ideologies. Completely different behaviors. Whereas most of these people that are out there From the time there were 16 years old. The time today, they’re the exact same person. It’s just older a little bit, more overweight, a little bit more, cranky and cynical. But, They’ve never changed.

If you knew the person that I was when I was 27, like I Well, then how old am I? Yeah, 27. No, 10 years ago right 2023. 2013. 27. I guess. Yeah, I guess I was in Prince George at that time. Yeah. Crazy. Anyways, I’m starting to ramble on.

Um, Open your mind up. Okay, think what if Okay. What if you? What if he didn’t get married your whole entire life? That’s a possibility to some people. Oh yeah. I forgot to talk about this one thing. About how much time do I have?

Like, that could be a possibility, you know, everybody’s going after the same thing. I gotta have kids gotta be married, I gotta buy a house. I gotta, you know, And, Like a great example is here in the city. Everybody has a brand new car, it just blows me away.

Blows me away. You know, expensive living in the city is And everybody here has a brand new car like I have a 2007. 2007 vehicle. And, Like, Driving around the city, everybody. Just it makes my car look, all busted ass and old. I’m like man, like jeez like Wow.

I make 150 Grand a year. Like, I don’t even have a brand new vehicle, okay? Like how are you guys affording? This shit and living here in the city. Fucking crazy. It’s priority. So, you know, that’s keeping up at the Joneses and it’s just that those are NPCs. That’s all, that’s what that is.

People, people don’t have the Like it’s easy to buy vehicle. Fucking guy working at Pizza Hut. You know flipping pizzas For two years. He can go and buy a brand new car. Not saying there’s anything bad about working at Pizza Hut or anything. I’m just saying that like, you know, it doesn’t make a whole lot of money.

But if you can hold the job for two years, you know, you turn around, go to a dealership and they’ll fucking Put him in a car. 96 month payments. Jesus. It’s absurd. And so, so anyways, let’s get back to this idea of Needing to, to either buy a house needing to have kids or Being a relationship.

I was watching this uh YouTube channel. It’s called, was it that chapter? Was that the one? Do you know that chapter that chapter? He’s he does these stories of like these murder stories and everything. I think it was that one. There’s a little a few weeks ago, he had released it, but there was this guy.

And, I wanted to talk about this before, I should have talked about it before because it kind of forgot. But basically the thing is is that Like many NPCs. Have this idea that you need to be in a relationship that if you’re not in a relationship, then you’re you’re there’s something wrong with you, there’s you know you just have all these negative things of Believing that if you’re not in a relationship, So, he had this deep.

Believe within him that he needed to be in a relationship, he had to be in a relationship. I don’t think he was in Virgin. Pretty sure he wasn’t. But, There was a long stint of him, not being. Sexually active, like he hadn’t even no woman would give him the time of day now Rightfully.

So this guy was weirdo. Okay. Like he would do some weird shit. So Not like, well, he’s just a dork. You could say he’s just let’s just say he’s a dork and like clear, 100 beta male, okay, not an alpha whatsoever. So no woman was going to touch this guy with a 10 foot pole.

And so but he had it just in his soul that he needed to be in a relationship. Like this belief was so ingrained in him that he had to be in a relationship and every single day that he wasn’t, he It just ate at him. More and more and more to burned within him.

Now he he was actually a pretty like successful guy. He was He uh, I’m pretty sure he was like his fairly like good-looking, man, and But the thing is, yeah, he was just he was just like odd like a dork kind of beta male. And so, But yeah, the problem was, is that this, this need this desire.

This belief was so ingrained in him. That it got so much that he eventually. He killed someone. And so, That that is like, obviously, that’s an extreme case. But that is what these these ideas or these thoughts that Are implanted into us. And if we don’t, Understand where they came from.

If we don’t understand that. We don’t have to follow them. They will. They will cause damage to us. Because you might be chasing after, like, let’s say you might be chasing after. Something that is not meant for you. But because you’ve never actually taken the time to get to know who you were and what you want and all of that stuff.

Well. Here you are. You have this belief that has been implanted into you. By an outside Source. Let’s say Society. And you are trying to go after that. But it’s not meant for you. It’s not for you, it’s not you. And what’s that, what that’s going to do is that’s going to cause conflict within you and then that’s going to just basically eat at you.

And On the extreme case you’ll go out and kill somebody. Like this guy did. And this happens. Well, not not killing people, but The damage that is done to people. I’ve known people that they’re just a rack. Because they’re single, they might be single for like two weeks. And they’re just a rack.

Why? Because this, this need this desire. This this idea that that is within them. It is not. First of all, it’s not healthy. That’s for sure. But they don’t know any other way. They don’t think that there’s another way. When there’s a million other ways. And so, It eats at these people and you’ve seen people like be depressed and like I’ve seen I’ve seen people flat out on the couch.

Just Heating. It want me. Oh fuck him. All right. He’s, he’s whatever. Okay, like, why are you even chasing after this shit? Go live, your life go canoeing. Okay. You like go live your life, go do your thing. Stop chasing after like fucking these idiots. Okay, there’s idiots after idiots after idiots out there.

Okay, you’re gonna be elbow deep in them. If you’re just living your life, you’re gonna run into idiots, don’t go out actively seeking, I’m just go live your life. And, Yeah. So the thing is, is that what if like this guy who who killed someone? What if He he didn’t have such a strong belief that he needed to be in a relationship.

What if he had? Learned that hey, wait a minute, it’s okay if I’m single Not everybody’s supposed to be in a relationship. It’s okay. Not everybody’s supposed to. Be in love for 80 years of that life and live grow old together. It’s okay. Not everybody’s supposed to fit in within these boxes and that’s okay.

What if he had that belief? What if he had that type of understanding? Rather than chasing after something that was not meant for him.

Maybe somebody could still be alive today. But we have these ideologies, these beliefs, these ideas, these Things that are. Implanted into our minds. That. Do detrimental harm to people. Because they’re trying to fulfill them trying to fulfill things that are not for them. Like I can tell you right now, I could very well be married at the moment.

I could very well have. Fucking three kids. What would I be happy? Probably not. Because I’ve learned. Over the years. Of what I like. And what I don’t like what I want and what I don’t want Here’s a great example. I love dogs. Dogs are probably my favorite animal in the whole wide world.

Love them to the moon and back. They are like my spirit animal. I just did just my favorite. Now here’s what the problem comes in with most people is they think hey I love a dog, I need a dog, I’m gonna go get a dog because I love dogs.

And what do they do? They go get a dog. Love is not about. Ownership or possession. It is just about appreciation. This is what a lot of people don’t know. Or understand and that’s why I say it. I have a far greater knowledge of what love is than most people.

Which is why a lot of people do come to me for advice when it comes to relationships. But the thing is, is that just because I love dogs, doesn’t mean that I have to have one. There was an idea, I was kind of thinking maybe it, maybe a dog is what I want or need.

And then I did house sitting. And I learned, That I don’t want a dog. I learned that even though I love dogs to the Moon and back. Doesn’t mean anything. Doesn’t mean that I need to have a dog. Just means that I love dogs. And that’s okay. I’m allowed to love dogs and not have one.

Like what a crazy idea that is, you can actually love dogs and not own one. But that’s not how people think, people think I love dogs. I gotta have a dog, I’m gonna buy a dog. I bought a dog. And you’re just like, And it’s the same thing with kids.

Same thing with how same thing with marriage. Not all, of course, it’s not what I’m saying. But you see it all the time. People buy a house like oh yeah. Just uh I’m just put a new furnace in the house another 20 gallon thousand dollars. Oh, it just seems like it just doesn’t stop.

You know, like oh, wow. Like Oh somebody, they wish I could go back to renting. No, but I’m a homeowner now. I’m, I’m moving up in the world and people look at me and I’m Much more successful way. And that’s, that’s That’s what matters. It doesn’t matter that, uh, Doesn’t matter that the fucking Windows need replacing in the roof is turns out to be.

Needing to replace and that’s a 40, 000 job. Oh geez. Paid 400 000 for the house. Uh, yep. Okay. You know what I’m saying? And so Yeah. Anyways guys. If you listen to this far, let me know you appreciated this podcast. Let me know. If you understood it. What I’m talking about.

Let me know. Unplugged Freedom. Open your mind. And that’s where. Your life will begin. Till next time.

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Breaking Down Heartbreak: Overcoming Pain, Betrayal, and Toxic Traits

TranscriptYo, what is happening, guys? Nathan, back once again with another episode of the Unplugged Freedom podcast. And it has been a while, hasn’t it? It has been quite some time since I have made an episode. And, ooh, vehicle in the ditch. Well, there’s. There’s a lot of reasons for that.

I’m super busy. I’m always going, going, going end. It takes a lot of effort to put a podcast together, and I don’t think a lot of people actually know and understand just how much work goes into it. And, uh, as much as I would like to have, let’s say, record this on my iPad and then export it, edit it, clean up the audio, export it again, do all that fancy stuff.

Uh, as much as I’d love to do that, that takes so much work and so much time that I just don’t have time to do it. And then one thing, uh, that’s kind of, like, shitty is that it’s not that I don’t have things to talk about. There’s a lot of things that I want to talk about.

There’s a lot of things that I need to talk about. There’s a lot of things that people need to hear, and so it’s. It’s definitely tough. That’s for sure. So I just said, you know what? I’m on the road right now. Screw it. Let’s just. We’re just going to straight from the phone onto the app and just put it out there, because something is better than nothing, and, uh, so might as well just do it.

Especially, like, when I’m on the road, it’s pretty good. I know the audio is not the best, but, hey, we got to do what we got to do, right? So it’s tough. I’m always on the go, what are we going to talk about today? One thing I kind of want to talk about is

I’ve talked about it before, and that’s heartbreak. Uh, it sucks. I’m sure that you’ve experienced it. I’m sure that you have felt it, you’ve been hurt from it, you’ve grieved from it, and so it’s such a shitty feeling. It’s probably one of the worst. There’s the type of pain where you smash your shin up against something, and it just hurts like hell.

But me, personally, when I think about that pain, I know what that’s like, and it just takes you from zero to 100 in just a fraction of a second, and it hurts so much for just, uh, a minute, little bit of time, and. But it’s so painful. But the thing is, is that I would.

Much rather. I’d much rather take that pain 100 times over than to take heartache, to take heartbreak, whatever you want to call it. It’s such a different type of pain. It sucks. It’s just the absolute worst.

How do you to describe it? There’s so many. For me, I’ve definitely felt it, and I’ve always wondered. I’ve always thought, is it bad for you? Think about it. When you have that gnawing pain,

it just feels like there’s like a knife in your heart, and it’s just sitting there, and it’s just sitting there just like this constant, and you can’t help but feel it, and it sucks. Nothing, uh, really makes it go away. It just kind of sits there, and it just nags at you, and it’s just the worst feeling ever.

And I don’t know. I’m pretty ruthless at times, but I don’t think I would wish that pain on my worst enemy. I don’t think so. If they said, okay, you have three options here to inflict pain on your worst enemy. And if one of the options was the pain of kicking your shin up against something, the pain of 100 bee stings or, like, heartbreak, it would be like, I really don’t like this person.

But m. I also know what heartbreak feels like. I also know what that gnawing pain, that constant feeling feels like. I know what that’s like. And as much as I don’t like this person, your finger is, like, hovering over that button, and you’re kind of looking at them, and maybe they’re the kind of person that just fuels you with anger, and you’re just like, oh, I don’t like this person at all.

And in your mind, you’re thinking, like, I am going to inflict heartbreak type pain on you. And you’re ready there. And you’re looking at them, you’re like, oh, yeah, you deserve every bit of this. But then you just can’t bring yourself to it because you know what it feels like.

You know what it is, and it sucks. Absolute worst. The absolute worst. And it kind of like, okay, I don’t like. You. I hate you, but I don’t think anybody deserves that type of pain. So I’m going to give you the 100 beastings. That’s what you deserve, and that’s what you’re going to get.

That’s just kind of like, if you’ve felt heartbreak before, you know exactly what I’m talking out. Ah,

it’s the worst. And like I said, I always wonder, what does it do to you? Because it’s so od. Because, um, it’s like, uh, not m a real pain. Like there’s a physical pain, just as hitting, uh, your shin on something. There’s a physical pain. But heartbreak isn’t a pain.

Isn’t a physical pain, or is it? It’s so much different, but it’s so painful. That’s the weird thing about it. It is so painful.

You can’t push it away, you can’t brush it away. I can understand as to why people, uh, do drugs or they do alcohol. They do these things that are destructive to them because they want to get away from it. And I don’t blame them. It sucks. It’s the worst feeling ever.

Like I said, it is the absolute worst. It’s just there in your chest, and you’re just, uh. And it’s so tough. It is so tough. And I always wonder, is it good for you? Is it bad for you? Or is it nothing? It’s okay, uh, because it’s so painful.

Sometimes I wonder, is it taking years off my life? The amount of heartbreak that I’ve had over the years and the amount of times that people have just been shitty people and taken your heart out, ripped it out, thrown it on the ground, and just stomped on it and just walked away.

And

you’re like, man, how many times can I have that? How many times m do I have, like, nine lives with it? How many more do I have in m me? And I have no idea. I hope it doesn’t take life, uh, off of me or the years off of me, but it feels like it does, right?

It feels like it does. It feels like it just. It’s the absolute worst. And I’ve talked about it before in a, uh, previous podcast, and there’s different type of heartbreak, and some are.

Some are more. Okay, some I would take, like, let’s say, for, uh, what. When I was, um, in Australia, um, well, I guess I was in Nepal, but I had met this friend in Australia, and then we had gone to Nepal together. And when they left, when we were departing from Nepal was I was going back to Australia, she was going back to France.

And that type of heartbreak was so. Was because you didn’t know the next time that you were going to see this person, you loved every moment with them. It was just amazing. You had never met somebody like them before. One of these days, I’m going to actually share this story with you.

And, uh, it’s a very close story to me. It’s a really big part of who I am and how I think and things that I believe in to this day. And it’s just a huge piece of,

uh.

Um.

Anyways, they were going, and I was going back to Australia. And like I said, you loved every moment with this person.

The way I describe it is meeting somebody from your planet. You’ve gone 29 years of your life living on this planet. Just, like, just not think, just not feeling like you’re from this planet. There’s just no way. There’s no way you’re from this planet. You can’t be, uh, just how people are and how people think or lack of thinking.

There’s just no way that you can be from this planet. So

I went 29 years, and then all of a sudden, I had met somebody from my planet. And it just rocked my whole entire world. It was just crazy. Absolutely crazy. And so,

um, I remember that time in Nepal, and when they were leaving, I was so sad. I was so sad. It hurt so much.

And that’s one type of heartbreak. That’s one type of sadness. And that’s okay. I will take that heartbreak any day of the week. Any day. Absolutely. Uh, maybe when I share the story, when I share the actual story with you, I’ll share more details about, like, how. What I believe in about it and.

It. Um, but that type of heartbreak is one. There’s another type of heartbreak that is, let’s say, your parents passing away. I’ve had my parents. My mom passed away in 2018. My dad passed away in 2020. And that is another type of heartbreak. And it sucks. It so painful.

I m remember

just thinking about it, just kind of stuff. Um, I remember when my dad had passed away.

I saw him in the, um, hospital the night before, and, uh, he wasn’t doing very good.

And, um,

you had no idea that that was going to be the last time that you saw him.

He m just kind of tucked him into bed and said, all right.

We used to always drive him out to this place that was called Shelley, and he loved going out there. He said, when are we going to go to Shelley? And because he wasn’t feeling very good,

I said to him, I said, but when you feel better, we’ll go to Shelley.

I’ll be back tomorrow. M

and so the next day, I got a call from the hospital

that he wasn’t doing good. He had a stroke. And

I think it was later that evening that he passed away.

And so his hat say, um, that’s a different type of heartbreak.

M

and those types of heartbreak, whether you have a friend who’s leaving on to. To do their thing,

person from your planet, or perhaps, uh, it’s a type of heartbreak that is your parents passing away,

those are different types of. Heartbreak. And

even though, let’s say, like, your parents, of course that’s going to be hard, and that’s going to suck.

But I’d still take that type of heartbreak. You’re probably thinking, like, what?

I would take that type of heartbreak over the kind of heartbreak that is more so, like a betray trail.

And maybe this. You’ve experienced it, maybe you haven’t.

And if you haven’t, I hope that you don’t ever experience it, because it is

the worst type of heartbreak to experience

is that betrayal. And it’s when you allow somebody in and you trust someone, m.

And you show them parts of you that nobody gets to see.

And you’re doing it because you trust them. You’re doing it because they mean something to you. You’re doing it because

m.

You respect them.

But

then all of a sudden, there might be a time where they turn around

and they betray you. However they may betray you

for some people, maybe they cheated on you. Maybe they married you or whatever, and they told you all the good stuff, and you had it in your mind. You’re living your life, and you’re so excited, and then all of a sudden, you find out that they cheated on you.

Maybe that’s it for you. Betrayal is different for everybody,

but it is probably the worst type of heartbreak to experience because

it’s almost, in a way, so,

uh, I don’t know if violating is the word.

What I mean is that you allowed this person in. You trusted them. You let them into your world. You cared for them. M. You maybe said some things. You maybe you maybe were. You let your guard down.

All the walls that you have up and

all the, uh, things that you have that you protect yourself with, you let them in because you trusted them and you thought it was safe and you thought that you could

m and little did you know that one day they were just going to turn around and show you exactly what you meant to them, which was nothing.

And that’s probably the hardest, most

m painful type of heartbreak that there is to experience. And like I said, if you’ve never experienced that, I hope you don’t ever have to experience that. I’m a very strong person. I have a very good mindset. I have a lot of, uh, ways of dealing with things,

but

I have been challenged before,

and it’s extremely tough.

And maybe I’ll share. I don’t know. I don’t know if I’ll share that story because part of me wants to kind of forget that part. Part of me wants to just forget that time in my life and move on and erase that from everything because I feel like that time in my life, that person

doesn’t deserve to be remembered, doesn’t deserve to be a part of my memories.

So you’ll have those m moments and, well, I hope that you don’t have those moments because it sucks. It’s the absolute worst. And I’ve had it a few times, and

I m wouldn’t say I’m closed off. I wouldn’t say that I’m closed off, but I keep people at what I call arm’s length. I keep people at arm’s length. And what that means is basically, people are at a distance, and that’s where they’re going to stay.

And they will only ever know one part of me m and that’s where most people are. They’re at arm’s length with me. You listening to this podcast, you actually get to see. A little bit more. Uh,

I hope you see that, and I hope that you understand that. Hey, um,

you listening to this? Depending on how many you have listened to, you probably know me a lot better than a lot of people that are actually physically in my life. And that’s not to say that I don’t want to be like that with certain people in my life. Maybe I’m just not there yet.

Because a lot of times what happens is you might be very cautious, because you’ve had people, you’ve allowed people in, and you’ve trusted people, and they’ve turned around and just showed you. And that’s probably the hardest thing, is that I’ve put my energy into people. I’ve put, uh, my caring, whatever it is, into people, into the relationship, into what we had, because it meant something to me, and I thought that it meant something to them as well.

And I trusted them, and I allowed them in, and I enjoyed it.

And then all of a sudden, it’s almost like, just like a switch for them, and they could just show you exactly what you meant to them. And that’s the, uh, hardest thing,

because it takes everything. Maybe you opened up. I know in situations that I’ve opened up in certain ways, and I’ve shared things because I trusted them. And you feel so violated that. That trust, that. That sacred thing that you have, and that

the relationship or the connection that you had, that person meant something to you. So much so that you allowed them in. Maybe not fully, but little by little, you were allowing them in. But either way, uh, no matter how little it is that you allow somebody past your guard, you allow somebody to get to that point,

it’s still very like you trusted them. I remember I had one situation, and it was very painful. Trusted someone, and turns out that’s. It just. It just seemed like everything was a lie. Everything that was said, everything that was done, everything, like, the whole thing, everything that you thought was amazing, everything that you thought was beautiful, everything that you thought,

it’s almost like it taints it, and it turns it into a lie. And that’s definitely what’s hard,

is because,

well, I remember in that one situation that, um.

Um. Just trying to think here.

What was really hard about it was that not only did they betray you, so that’s like putting a knife in your heart. Every single day

that passed by

was like them twisting the knife. It was almost like it got worse with time. Like they didn’t have to do anything to make it worse. They literally didn’t have to do anything. And the reason for that is because m it may have meant something to you, it may have been very special to you.

And the fact that they turned around and betrayed you and showed you that you didn’t mean anything to them, that’s the stab in the heart.

But where the knife begins to twist and becomes more painful as the days go on is that you have this hope that they will realize this. They will realize how much they’ve hurt you. They will realize

how much you cherished them, or the situation, the relationship, the connection, whatever it is. And then you have this hope that they would realize that and that you meant everything that was said, that was done. Uh, that was the whole situation. And you have this hope that they will come back and say that they’re sorry.

But fortunately, as the days go by, that they never do.

They’ve already stuck the knife in you, and it just twists more and more as the days go on. And. And what’s really tough is that in order for you to move on, in order for you to get past that, what you have to do is you have to come to the realization that that person is a piece of shit, that they are a piece of shit human being.

And that’s what’s tough, is that

you don’t want to admit that. Because what that does is that kind of hits on your ego as well, because you got, uh, taken advantage of. It’s like if someone got taken advantage of, like a credit card scam, you’d feel so violated from that. Or you’d also feel like, man, I used to say all the time, I would never get caught in a credit card scam or whatever it is, right?

But here you are, you get caught in it, you’d be violated. You’d feel a little bit down about yourself because you got into it, even though you thought for sure you would never. And so that is extremely hard. So it’s kind of like a similar feeling like that.

So when the person does this or acts like this,

you’re getting the knife turned as the days go on, and you’re holding on to this little bit of hope

that maybe they’ll say sorry. Maybe they’ll realize what they did.

Maybe

I wouldn’t. Uh, uh, hold your breath for it. Because at the end of the day, most of the time, when someone’s a piece of shit, when someone’s a piece of shit, a lot of times they’re just a piece of shit. Now, I’ve mentioned before, and you can even listen back into another podcast, that one’s called, uh, sorry, ladies, you’re a piece of shit.

A little brutal. Okay, it is. But the thing is that I’ve even mentioned in that podcast how I may have done some shitty things, and I have, but I’ve never done them intentionally. To someone who does not deserve it, there’s a big key difference. If somebody deserves something, I will fucking let you have it.

But if somebody doesn’t deserve it,

there’s no way that I would do ill will onto you unknowingly, unwillingly.

And I may do the thing that is shitty, but I may not realize just how shitty it is. But then afterwards, and I’ve talked about this in that podcast,

that I would realize just how shitty my actions were. And I felt so bad for it. So bad for it. And the reason that. Well, in that podcast, the reason why I was talking about that is because you have no idea how many times I have heard, ladies, I’m sorry.

You are notorious for it. You are notorious for just hurting people willingly, and you don’t care. And it sucks.

I’ve never done that before. Never willingly hurt somebody like that before who didn’t deserve it. But you will, and you don’t care. And you will know. You will voice it, and, uh, you have no ill will about it. It is the most brutal thing, cold hearted piece of shit thing that you can do.

It’s just terrible. So that’s what I’m saying, is that somebody comes in, you trust them, they betray you, and you get that stab in the heart

because you feel so violated from it. But you hold on to this. It meant something to you. It was something to you. And you’re hoping that it meant something to them. You’re hoping that this was just a mistake and that they didn’t mean it.

And as the days go on, that all you get is silence. You get nothing from them. Days turn into weeks. Weeks turn into months. Months turn into years. M and there will have to come a time where you have to let go of it, let go of that little piece of hope and admit that you were taken advantage of.

You were grifted into their fucking scheme.

You were a pawn in their game.

Uh, that’s literally what you have to do in order to get past that. Because then once you’re there now, you can kind of go through that type of grievance, and you can pick yourself up. Now, I’m not saying that it’s easy. Um, I’m just saying. But afterwards, That’s when you can pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and you get back out there.

You get back out there. But when you hold on to that little piece of hope, when you hold on to that little piece where you’re like, that person meant something to me. That time in my life meant something to me. And the words that I said, the actions that I took, those meant something to me.

I didn’t just do those willy nilly. I didn’t just say those things because I had nothing better to say. I did all that. I said all that because it actually meant something to me.

And you don’t want to believe that it meant nothing to them. And that’s one of the hardest things. One of the hardest things that you have to come to a realization, because if it meant something,

they would come back and they would share it with you.

They would. 100%. They would. Now, that doesn’t mean that you would regain them as a friend or whatever,

but, yeah. So that’s how you get past that type of heartbreak. And, uh, I’ve been there. I’ve been there where you’re like, wow,

here. I thought. And then the memories come back of the things that they said, the actions that they took, and just all those things that meant something to you, that were special to you, that you believed them, that you trusted them, and you’re like, wow. And all of those have been tainted.

And, of course, you don’t want to let go of that and say, no, it was all a lie. It was all a lie from their end.

And they show you exactly what you meant to them, and that’s the shitty thing

now. Uh, m

there was something else I wanted to mention.

It was, like, right there, and I just totally could just see it drift off. Just totally, like, it’s gone. Like, shit, man.

What was I talking about here?

Yeah. Heartbreak. It’s just absolute worst. Getting that stab in the chest. Well, m actually, this is what I was going to say. This is what I was going to say. So going back to you feeling you feel violated from having been taken advantage of, you trusted someone, you put your guards down for them and you allowed them in and, ah, they just spit on all of that.

Well, unfortunately, they are a shitty person.

Now, there’s different kinds of shitty people in the world. There’s m the kinds of shitty people that you can look at them like. You give me five minutes with somebody, I most likely can tell you whether that person’s a shitty person or not. Doesn’t take me very much. Show me a couple of photos, I can tell right away.

I’m like, that guy’s a fucking weep.

How do I know this? There’s body language. There’s just certain things. There’s easy things that you can just quickly see. You’re like, yes, all right. You fucking just told me everything I needed to know within a couple of photos, a couple of conversations and, uh, a couple of visualizations of your body language and you told me everything I needed to know.

Now, sometimes, uh, I have a different thing. I do what is called placing. I will place people very good at it, extremely good at it. And that’s where the being violated part is so tough, because you’re so good at this one thing. Now, I’m not saying, okay, there’s a lot of people out there.

They’re like, I’m really good at judging character. They’re not, okay? They’re not. Most people who say that are not. And unfortunately, I get drugged into this group of people because I actually am. I very much am.

And I hate that there’s all these just idiots who say that you’re just like, dude, if you were actually good at, uh, judging people, then you would probably judge yourself first. Look at you, dude. Look at you. Come on. Come on. Okay. You can’t even judge that, okay? There ain’t no way you’re judging other people.

Okay? So, uh, yeah, just, uh, not that guy.

That’s where the violating part really comes in. We’re going to talk about that in a second. So you have shitty people. And, uh, within a conversation or two, maybe sometimes you can just see photos and you just know right away. You’re like, yeah, I already know. So I place people.

So I’ll place people Where they are doesn’t mean

and.

and.

that that’s 100%,

but I’ll place them. And as I gather more information, so maybe I only have certain information. Maybe I only have photos to make my judgment on, but maybe I grab a few things from those photos, and I’m like, okay, well, from these photos, I can see this, which tells me this, us.

And then I can base a judgment on that. So I will place them. I’m going to place you over here, and it’s not permanent. It’s just, as I gather more information, you may be moved and placed elsewhere, hopefully in a better place than I. If. If I placed you in a bad place.

And then let’s say I actually see the person on a video, maybe I hear their voice, maybe I see their body language on a video, I will have more information, and then I can definitely place them. Even better. Like, m okay, I’ll place you. Um, I was in the right direction.

Now you’re really in that direction, unfortunately. And so then maybe I actually meet the person in person. Now I gather more information, and so m then I’m able to really place this person. So it’s all about gathering information. Now, ladies, ladies, we’ve talked about this a lot on this podcast, and the thing is that this is what you need to do, okay?

This is what you need to do, is gather information about people before getting into a relationship with them. You want to know why the fucking divorce rate is so high? You want to know why you keep ending up with fucking idiots and dweebs that you’re stuck in relationships with?

Because you don’t gather the information. You just fall in love with some fucking dweeb that comes along, and then all of a sudden, you’re in a relationship with them, and it’s just like, then six months down the road, you’re fucking complaining. It’s like, well, what do you expect? And so you have to gather that information, right?

Like, if you would have taken your time, gathered the information, you would have known.

But, yeah, that’s what I’ll do. So very good at it. Very good at placing people. I do place people where they’re very neutral. I’m like, I don’t really have a, uh, place for this person. They’re neither good, they’re neither bad, but I will place them just in the middle.

Like, that’s where they are. That’s where they are. It’s not good, it’s not bad. There’s just nothing. Just whatever. And. And, uh, maybe as I get to know them more often, over time. That will determine where I place them. All depends on the situation, everything, but still. So anyways, you have the obvious shitty people.

So we’re talking about shitty people. There’s different types of shitty people. You have the obvious shitty people that are just blatant in their shittiness. They don’t care. They’re just a shitty person. Whatever. They’re rude. They’re just a shitty person. You can see it. You can smell it, you can feel it.

Like, they are just a shitty person. Right? Sometimes it’s a little bit harder to see. Some people don’t have quite the skill to be able to see and recognize that this might be a shitty person. But if you do look hard enough, you do take into certain things. You may be able to, uh, see that and realize that they are.

Now, let me ask you a question. So if you picture a shitty person, what would make a shitty person even more shitty?

Like, think about that. A shitty person. They’re very rude. Maybe they talk to you condescending. Maybe they are just whatever it is, they’re not thoughtful. They’re just whatever it is, they’re just a shitty person. Whatever a shitty person is to you, that’s them. But they’re blatant. You can see it.

They’re just loud about it. They’re out public, and it’s almost embarrassing when they’re in public. They’re just a shitty person. Right now. The thing is, what would make that shitty person even more shitty?

I’ll tell you.

It’s when they can hide just how shitty of a person they are.

So, uh, for most, there’s a shitty person. You can see it. M and maybe it might take you, maybe not right away. There are some people you can see right away, they just open their mouth, you know, that person’s a shitty person. Like, just right away, there’s those types of people.

Then there’s the types of people that in the beginning, they might seem really nice, but then all of a sudden, you give them enough time, you’ll be able to easily see that they’re, uh, like, hey, wait a minute. You’re actually a pretty shitty person. A pretty shitty person. But it.

And that could be, let’s say, three months or six months. You finally realize that

now there’s the other types of shitty people who are really good at hiding just how shitty of a person they are. And this is where someone like. Myself, who is actually good at judging a character. This is where someone like myself,

maybe I connect with this person. Maybe I think that they’re good. They kind of pass the tests, the litmus tests, whatever you want to call it. The. The social, uh, societal, um, uh, tests, whatever it is. They seem to be a good person. And you’re like, wow, this is a cool person.

I could jive with this person. I like this person. I’m going to spend time with this person. I’m going to let this person in.

Now, these people, this is where the detrimental violation comes in. This is where it’s extremely hard, especially if you’re the kind of person that, you know, you’re good at judging character, and you’re like, I would never be taken by some shithead, whatever. But these people, they are so good, so good at hiding just how shitty of a person they are, that you will let them in.

M you will be open, you will trust them. You will share a piece of your space with them,

and you will feel comfortable. They will make you feel comfortable,

and you enjoy it. You’re like, wow, this is amazing. I really like this. I really enjoy this connection. I really enjoy this safe place that I can be and share these pieces of me.

But this person is so good at hiding just how shitty of a person that they are,

that one day they will show you their true colors.

A lot of times, unfortunately, they just take, uh, the COVID right off. They just rip the band aid, uh, off. It just comes to a point where it’s just.

They can’t hide it anymore. They don’t care. They just don’t care. And all of a sudden, bam, they unveil their true character.

And this is where it is so painful because it is so violating. Because you had no idea that there was, uh, Wolf and sheep’s clothing. Not usually. You could see. You could see the oddities that this was a wolf and sheep’s clothing. There are some people that just come in and they try to have the sheep’s clothing, and you’re just like, bro, who are you trying to kid?

Okay? Who you try to kid? And then there’s some people, you got to look a little bit more. Takes a little bit time. You’re kind of like, ah, I don’t know about this guy. I don’t know. Yeah. Kind of leaning towards he’s a shitty person. And then all of a sudden, give enough time, and then all of a sudden, bam, you can find out.

But then there’s the other people. They are so good, so good at hiding just how shitty of a person that they are.

You cannot see that they are wearing sheep’s skin, that they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. You cannot see it. You can’t see the seams. You can’t see the oddities. Everything is just perfect.

And, ah, these ones,

they are the most painful. They are the most damning, they are the most violating. They are the most just. You feel so

hurt.

It is incredibly tough. And unfortunately,

I don’t know what you do to get past that. I’ve, uh, had situations where people have just done that, and they’ve shown me their true colors of who they are, what they are, what I meant them, what I mean to them, actually, what the situation truly meant to them.

And

it is just so. It is so tough. It is so tough. And you try and think, like, okay,

was there any situation? Was there any time in there? You think back and you try to wonder, was there somewhere where I could have seen the zipper. I could have seen the little incorrect seam of the sheep’s clothing. Was there a moment? Was there a time? And you cannot find it.

It. So unfortunately, you can’t necessarily learn from it. And that’s the shitty thing, because like everybody else, you can pretty much learn from it. You’ll learn. Maybe it’s their body language, maybe it’s the things that they said. Maybe it’s their tone of voice, maybe it’s the things they didn’t say.

Maybe it’s, uh, uh, their eyes. Maybe it’s, uh, their eyes. All kinds of other things that you can learn from. And you can take that away so that next time you’re like, hey, this guy’s seeming a little shifty.

I don’t really think he’s being fully honest. But then there’s those people that are truly, truly a master at hiding just how much of a piece of shit they are, just how terrible of a person that they are. I don’t even want to call them a human being because I don’t think that a human being could do to another human being what these people can do.

Yeah, that’s the toughest one because you can’t necessarily learn from it. Then what that does, unfortunately, is, uh, you’re kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. Part of you wants to be jaded, and you can easily be jaded from it. And you can say, I’ll never trust anybody again.

I’ll never fucking allow anybody in. I’ll never. And it’s easy to do that. But I’ll tell you right now, do not do that.

It’s easy to do that because

you’re kind of masking the pain that you feel. You’re kind of masking it with hatred. You’re masking that pain that you feel from being so violated. You’re masking it with anger and hatred. And it kind of takes away from the pain and the hurt. And you think that it’s good.

And you’re like, okay, well, uh, I’m going to be angry at this person,

but you don’t actually know that. You’re actually just, well, you’re putting anger on your heart.

Your heart is not to be filled with anger. Your heart is not to be filled with hatred. Your heart is to be filled with love. As, ah, as cliche or as corny as it sounds,

that’s what it’s to be filled m with.

And so it’s easy to mask the hurt with anger and.

Hatred. It’s easy to do that. Don’t do that. But in order to not do that, in order to move past that,

you have to go through and feel the pain and the hurt that they put you through. And it’s almost like you have to massage that out of you. M m and it sucks. I know it sucks. I’ve been there her. Just that gnawing pain. Like I said, it’s just that knife in the heart.

And if it’s really bad, like I said, the twisting of the knife, because every single day that goes by shows you and tells you that you meant absolutely nothing to them. Everything that was said, everything that was done, it was absolutely nothing. It was all lies. It was all bullshit.

Not from your end. From your end. It was 100% from your end. You meant everything. Everything that you said, everything that you did. But unfortunately, it sucks to have to come to that realization that they’re just a shitty person. And some shitty people are very good at hiding just how shitty of a person they are.

They’re masters at it. I don’t know, maybe there’s some areas where you could have seen it,

but they’re very good. They’re very good and it sucks. But I’ll tell you right now that I’ve been through a lot of shit. I’ve been through a lot of, uh, people earning my trust and betraying it. And, uh, I’ve been through it all. I’ve been through it all. And the thing that I can say is that I’ve been through it, through it,

not going through it. I don’t allow it to stop me.

It will slow me down. It will hurt. Absolutely. Like, it sucks. You’re laying in bed and you’re just hurting.

You’re going through the memories and all that stuff and it sucks. I know it sucks. But the thing is that in order to get through it, you have to go through that. How long it’s going to be, I don’t know. Uh. And it all depends on a lot of things because like I said, in some situations you have to admit and accept that they are a piece of shit.

And only until you can accept that. Only until you can accept that you meant nothing to them. Only that when you can accept that, then you can move on. So if you hold on to that bit of hope that they’re a good person, You hold on to that bit of hope that, uh, they’re going to say something, that they’re going to admit that they were wrong, that you’re holding on to, that, the longer

you’re going to draw it out and you’re not going to get past it.

It sucks to have to admit that and accept that, and it hurts because then you’re like, I meant nothing to them.

All of that trust that I gave them, all of what I said, all of what I did, uh, all of it.

You thought it was special. You thought it meant something. You thought it was something. And it was nothing from their end. None of it.

So, anyways, guys and gals, I hope you got something out of this. Nathan. Unplugged freedom. You can follow me on Instagram. I do have a telegram. You can find unplugged freedom on telegram. I do want to try and keep up with that a little bit more, and I’ll probably record another one or two when I’m on the road here.

Anyways, let me know what you thought. Let me know. Have you experienced heartbreak? Have you experienced these kinds of people that are a wolf in sheep’s clothing that you gave your trust to, that you opened up to, and they turned around and took that trust away?

Anyways, Nathan, unplugged freedom.

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