Each birth story and loss story, each journey into motherhood, is unique.
Healing from a loss does not happen overnight. In some ways it feels like we are always healing. We will always be aware of it in our very bones, and often reminded in our daily lives as we find our way through this unexpected path.
And as unfamiliar that it is to us who are experiencing it, so it is to those around us who love us and want to support us. While there is no formula for exactly what to do or what to say or how to support a family that has experienced loss, Liz and Jenny are here to share with you what we have learned.
Processing our feelings and letting those around us process their’s. Everyone touched by this family and this baby deserves to grieve and proves.
Processing with your partner: withdrawing, picking fights, lashing out.
How to talk about feelings with people who don’t normally talk about them.
Grief circles/ripple metaphor
How to offer help without overwhelming the family.
Keep checking in.
Follow their lead.
Off support to the partner when you. They are grieving too.
Brightening a day is impactful.
Don’t forget about them. The grief does not stop on a given day.
When in doubt, simple kind statements are wonderful.
Things they might appreciate: weighted blanket, heatable rice pack, weighted stuffed animal, eye mask, Jizo statue.Mentioned in this episode:
Liz's Loss Story; Ep. 29 Stillbirth is still birth
Jenny's Loss Story: Ep 7 Love In Loss
From Speechless to Supportive: How to Support Loved Ones After Pregnancy Loss