Are you tired spending so much time trying to ‘be good’? Does the pressure to preform live deep within your bones?

Today’s guest has answered YES to both of these questions throughout her life. Eventually, she grew tired of making everyone else happy and decided to tap into her own deepest desires and nervous system needs, listening to her body and including it in her decision making.

That led her down a path of learning about the fawn response, inner villain work, and somatic teachings.

Now, Kallie Klug holds international certifications in therapeutic yoga, women's embodiment, somatic parts work, and integrative somatic trauma therapy. In this episode we explore boundaries, people pleasing, and sexual fawning through a somatic lens.

Tune in to learn:

- How humans store trauma differently than other mammals

- Why women are chronically tired and lean into fawning practices

- What ‘sexual fawning’ is and how to de-shame the process

- Why scheduling sex can actually create sexual trauma, and what to do instead


SHOWNOTES:

- People Pleasing episode: https://wanderwoman.online/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/

- Anger release episode: https://wanderwoman.online/somatic-exercises-release-anger/

- Connect with Kallie: https://stan.store/kalisomatics | https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/?hl=en

- - Upcoming Unruly group trips: wanderwoman.online/unruly-group-trips/

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If you linger on the internet after searching for the best queer travel destinations, you’re guaranteed to see the same list over and over again: California, Mexico, Spain, Iceland, and the likes. This can be especially frustrating considering that the LGBTQ+ community devotes an extra 12 hours to travel research and planning.

Should we keep visiting the same destinations, time and time again, with the conversation only centering around safety?

Author and LGBTQ+ travel expert Lindsey Danis thinks not. In today’s episode, Lindsey shares about her newest book, a compilation of everything she wished she knew when she started traveling with her wife.

Venturing outside of the standard “Best Queer Travel Destinations" list, Lindsey leaves listeners with tools to not only stay as safe as possible, but also be grounded, embodied, and tapped into joy and inherent belonging during our adventures.

Tune in to learn about the powering of “lingering" in a destination, explore surprisingly welcoming countries for queer travelers, and learn why TSA Pre-Check is a game changer for trans and gender non-conforming people.

Happy PRIDE! To help us celebrate, send this episode to a queer friend who needs it.

- Haywood PRIDE recap: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1005450435810341

- Celebrating Queer Country Pride episode: https://wanderwoman.online/queer-country-lgbtq-podcasts-spotify/

- Lindsey’s website & book: https://queeradventurers.com/

- Upcoming Unruly group trips: https://wanderwoman.online/unruly-group-trips/

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best queer travel destinations | queer travel guide

If you’ve ever researched how “how to lucid dream” you’ll probably see the same steps: go to sleep, wake up, write down your dreams, repeat. But author Cryrena Lee knows that it’s much more than that.

The real first step to lucid dreaming is lucid living. That means being present while you’re awake, noticing your where your attention wanders, and cultivating awareness.

In a world full of noisy distractions and rampant AI, it’s no wonder that most people have trouble figuring out how to lucid dream, let alone remember their dreams. In this episode, Cyrena takes us on a journey, laying down the groundwork that makes lucid dreaming techniques successful.

To Cyrena, lucid dreaming is about much more than having nighttime adventures. Tune in to learn how lucid dreaming can be used to heal trauma, solve creative problems, work through insomnia and nightmares, and improve athletic performance. Cyrena reminds us that our dreams can change the world, one small lucid shift at a time.

SHOWNOTES:

- Cyrena’s website: https://cyrena-lee.com/about-cyrena

- A Little Bit of Lucid Dreaming guide: https://cyrena-lee.com/projects

- Sleep study: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4415323/


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How to lucid dream | lucid dreaming techniques

On March 15th, 2026 animal investigators made history by launching a mass open rescue at Ridglan Farms in Blue Mounds, Wisconsin. Ridglan Farms is one of the two largest facilities in the US where beagles are bred and used for research in labs. Around 20 of the activists were arrested, including Alexandra Paul.

In this interview Alexandra takes us behind the scenes, sharing what it was like to be at Ridglan Farms and liberate beagles with an organized team. She also shares more about the legal challenges her group faces and their hopes for future actions against Ridglan Farms.

“We sometimes have to make ourselves feel uncomfortable and see the truth of what we humans do — and the consequences — so that we can do the right thing in our own life.” - Alexandra Paul

SHOWNOTES


- Support Rigland beagles: savethedogs.io


- Unruly Travel group trips: https://wanderwoman.online/unruly-group-trips/

- How To Make Vegan Friends: https://wanderwoman.online/how-to-make-vegan-friends/

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Beagles rescue Wisconsin | beagles saved from lab

A community of kin: it’s something that we need, we crave, and that our survival depends on.

If you’re not sure what that is or how to build it, rest easy. You’re in good hands! In this episode Calen sits down with Sophie Lucido Johnson, the multi-talented author of Kin: The Future of Family.

Amidst skyrocketing isolation and anxiety, our guest presents an antidote: consciously creating kin, a warm network of support that holds us while also allowing us to do the holding. This concept scraps the failed promises of the nuclear family and paves the way for a better future.

Sophie also shares her wisdom on anti-aging culture, why hanging out with kids is good for us (even when it’s hard), and what valuable lessons humans can learn from birds.

Tune in to learn how to better navigate complex relationships, reject the notion that aging is wrong, and be held as we grieve the little dreams that died along the path that landed us right where we are.

SHOWNOTES

- Watch the video interview: https://www.patreon.com/posts/episode-93-kin-152069263

- Sophie's website: https://www.sophielucidojohnson.com

- 2026 Amazon rainforest group trip: https://www.wetravel.com/trips/unruly-volunteer-adventure-with-amozonas-calen-otto-66209554

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Nothing has impacted Ariel Travis more than the one thing so many of us fear: International travel.

Journey back in time and you won’t find this professional pediatric medical speech-language pathologist in clean scrubs. The true beginning of her career started in a rugged fashion; she joined the Peace Corps just two weeks fresh out of collage before living and working in Mozambique, Brazil, China, and the Dominican Republic for the next seven years. When she finally returned to the US she realized that her unruly adventures gave her the confidence, flexibility, and compassion to thrive in her day-to-day work environment.

In this episode Ariel dispels myths about traveling as a young person, inspires nervous listeners to book their first trip, and teaches how to decrease baseline travel anxieties by planning ahead and tuning into our bodies. As someone who has explored over 29 countries, Ariel gives nuanced advice on how much planning allows for safety AND travel magic during our journeys.

Join this international speaker, creator of Wander Lounge podcast, and CEO of Nomadic Perspectives, LLC as we hitch-hike 900 miles from Mozambique to Zimbabwe, running into herds of wild elephants and making friends with complete strangers along the way.

Learn how to build confidence, courage, character, and your dream career through travel.

SHOWNOTES

- Wander Lounge website: https://www.wanderloungepodcast.com

- 2026 Unruly Finca Ganadito trip: https://www.wetravel.com/trips/finca-ganadito-in-costa-rica-calen-otto-01051353

- How to plan an international trip: https://wanderwoman.online/how-to-plan-international-trip/

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Walk in just about any clothing store and you’ll find a few things to be true: a “fat tax” is imposed, clothing can’t be mended to accommodate changing bodies, and fast fashion drives the bottom dollar.

Scroll through Rae Hill’s website and you’ll see the opposite: garments that can be altered, that are made to last, and break binaries.This business model is rare, but it’s the driving force behind Origami Customs.

In this episode Rae, the founder, shares about starting their business from a suitcase, lugging their sewing machine from one flight to another. We learn how travel impacted their gender identity and how they break down binaries even in LGBTQ+ spaces.

We also discuss:

- What “fat tax” is and how Origami Customs does it differently

- How the fashion industry based their standard sizes off small bodies (and how that impacts our mental health today)

- How scarcity mindset pushes us to support fast fashion and disposability culture

- How to do Black Friday differently, even if you’re not ready to boycott

- How to have an anti-capitalist business in an ultra capitalistic society

Throughout these important topics Calen and Rae weave messages of queer euphoria and joy, reminding folks of the cherished superpowers they possess. As a stressful holiday season descends upon us, let this be your reminder to keep building community and chosen family wherever you are.

SHOWNOTES


- 2026 Unruly Finca Ganadito trip: https://www.wetravel.com/trips/finca-ganadito-in-costa-rica-calen-otto-01051353

- Unruly Group Trips: wanderwoman.online/unruly-group-trips/

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- Origami Customs: https://origamicustoms.com

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There’s one transition we’ll all experience but hardly talk about: Death. Whether out of fear or taboo, so much of our culture and communities shy away from the topic. Still, it lingers in the back of our mind and flutters in our subconscious. 

On the topic of dying and deathwork we interview Scott Kirschenbaum, known for his stunning documentaries where he captures some of life's most intense and raw moments.

His work with Ethan Sisser was no different; after learning of a young man with brain cancer, Scott agreed to filming his final weeks — and moments — of life. After spending fourteen days at his bedside, Scott’s relationship with death was transformed. 

“If you love something, start grieving for it. If you love someone, start grieving for them.”

In this episode we discuss:

* What it means to die in community

* How reciprocity can be created in all aspects of life, including death

* What the practice of “cracking your heart open” looks like in real time

* “Slow death” and why it matters

* Reflections for planning our own final moments

SHOWNOTES


- 2026 Unruly Finca Ganadito trip: https://www.wetravel.com/trips/finca-ganadito-in-costa-rica-calen-otto-01051353

- Unruly Group Trips: https://wanderwoman.online/unruly-group-trips/

- Join the Unruly Patreon: patreon.com/unrulytravel

- The Last Ecstatic Days: https://www.thelastecstaticdaysmovie.com/about

- Wailing Earth Docuseries: https://www.youtube.com/@TempleofSeaweed



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Seated in the Osa Peninsula of Costa Rica is Finca Ganadito, an eco-living space committed to regenerative agriculture and increasing biodiversity. But their work doesn’t stop with the birds and soil — it extends to the seas, with impressive efforts to protect sea turtles.

Rob "Tortugo" — known locally as the “sea turtle man” — is a key player in these green efforts. With a background in biology, he’ll lead us through sea turtle fact and folklore in an exploration of sea turtle evolution, their complicated dance with the climate crisis, and mysterious “lost years.”

With 80% of sea turtles lost in the last 40 years, this important conversation shares the reasons behind their decline and what you can do to protect sea turtles from anywhere in the world.

Tune in to hear:

- Incredible sea turtle facts

- Why sea turtles are reptiles

- Are sea turtles endangered?

- The inspiration behind Finca Ganadito

- Why only 1 out of 1,000 sea turtle eggs survive

SHOWNOTES

- 2026 Unruly Finca Ganadito trip: https://www.wetravel.com/trips/finca-ganadito-in-costa-rica-calen-otto-01051353

- Full interview on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-episode-2-138526093

- Finca Ganadito: https://www.fincaganadito.com

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Is there an ethical way to do religion? That’s one of the many topics we explore in the newest podcast episode with Ann Russo, LCSW, founder and clinical director of AMR Therapy.

As a queer phycologist with a MA in Theology, Ann speaks to what religious trauma is, how it affects the body and brain, and how to navigate and heal from religious trauma.

From growing up in a secret queer household in the 80’s and 90’s to entering religion herself, Ann shares personal stories that inform the way she’s able to help others today.

Religious trauma can look differently for everyone, and today’s episode is a reminder that you’re not alone. Tune in for venerability, science-backed explanations, and a path forward.

“Studies show that queer folks have higher rates of mental illness, suicide, and drug abuse. Some church folks like to say it’s because you’re queer. No — it’s because of the level of rejection.”

SHOWNOTES

- Connect with Ann: https://www.annrusso.org/

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