Unscripted With Nik

If you've heard about the latest Rachel Hollis TikTok video faux pas and want a greater understanding of why her actions and language  were so problematic, you've come to the right place. I  breakdown some of the key issues with her video and address the "apology" that wasn't really an apology. The video, along with her initial "apology" post have both  been deleted from Instagram since the recording of the episode.

But if you missed it, you can watch it here:

https://twitter.com/snark_tank/status/1377782322091618306

I have dedicated the month of March to only reading books by female authors. Coincidentally, Emily Nagoski released her revised & updated version of Come As You Are at the beginning of this month and it seemed like the perfect time for a re-read! CAYA talks about the impact context has on our sexual desire, arousal and pleasure but in this episode, we are going to take it one step further and discuss how context affects our ability to enjoy many different aspects of our lives.

You can drastically improve your life with one simple shift... becoming extremely intentional with the words you speak.

I'm sharing a few lessons I've learned about maintaining your own happiness, regardless of external circumstances and staying grounded in your truth so that you can live the life you were meant to live. 

Everyone has to start somewhere. Never compare your beginning to someone else's middle. Let's unpack what the beginning looked like for me...

TRIGGER WARNING:  this episode was inspired by a chapter in Anna Feris' autobiography, Unqualified. Let's unpack how the language of sexual consent culture has evolved from when we 30-somethings were in our teenage/college years and why that evolution matters.

If you're a fan of the teachings of Brené Brown, Simon Sinek and Adam Grant, you will love this Unscripted Conversation with Andrew Tudor (Instagram: @MrWealthCoach)

We are discussing the difference between An Infinite Mindset vs. A Finite Mindset  and all the ways Adam Grant is making us "Think Again" and reevaluate the things we once held as truth 

"Who you think you are is how you will show up in the world"

Let's chat about how the language we use to describe ourselves influences our identity and how we can decide to pivot this language and ourselves at anytime. 

In this episode, we will discuss how to overcome the obstacles preventing you from establishing boundaries with the people in your life. In my experience, people struggle with boundaries for 2 reasons; they are either afraid of the recipient's reaction or they feel selfish for putting their needs above other's. If you want to show up in the world as your best self, if you want to support and love people to the best of your ability, if you want to have more positive relationships, learning to appropriately establish boundaries is key. Let's chat about how...

You will never be able to control the actions of others but you can always control how you choose to react to it. By being very honest with ourselves about why we are feeling triggered, angry, hurt, etc. we learn that other people's words and actions are rarely the cause of what upset us. Rather, it is the meaning we assign to those words or actions that determine our feelings. The assumptions we make about other's intentions and motivations are the true cause of our suffering.