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Debbie didn’t find cheerleading at 16. She found it at 38. And it changed everything.

In this episode, Debbie Barry, law firm office manager by day, Masters cheer captain by night, shares how saying “I’ll give it a go” on a girls’ holiday led her to a sisterhood, a stage, and a version of herself she didn’t even know existed.

What started as one Wednesday night training session, turned into eight years of stunts, competitions, glittered uniforms, and the kind of friendship that feels like therapy in trainers.

But this conversation goes far beyond cheerleading.

In this episode you'll learn:

•  Why midlife isn’t a crisis, and what it really is
• How confidence is actually built 
• The unexpected power of female friendship formed later in life 
• What happens when you stop organising everyone else’s life and start asking what you want 
• How one brave “I’ll give it a go” can completely redirect your life

This is a story about trust, courage and taking centre stage in your own life. 

If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself in supporting everyone else…
If there’s something you’ve quietly wanted to try…
If you’re ready to fly instead of stand on the sidelines…

This episode will show you why it’s not too late and may in fact be perfect timing.

Because sometimes midlife isn’t about starting over.

It’s about finally finding your wings to fly.

Find out more about Debbie @debbiebaz

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What if the nerves you feel before something big aren’t weakness, but a sign that you’re ready? 

In this episode, army doctor, GP and world champion skydiver, Anna Lea shares what it takes to compete at world championship level in your forties and why midlife is an advantage, not a liability. 

This conversation isn’t just about adrenaline. It’s about what happens when ordinary women choose to do extraordinary things and discovering that midlife might be the thing that helps you to do it better. 

In this episode you'll learn: 

• Why feeling nervous isn't telling you what you think 
• How to train smarter in your forties and inspire those in their twenties
• How to stay active through life's changes including IVF treatment
• Why effort and outcome are not related

If midlife has left you questioning your strength, your confidence, or your edge, this conversation will help you see that growth doesn’t start with fearlessness, it starts with action. 

Find out more about Anna on Instagram @anna_j_lea

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Virginia Anderson didn't see it coming. None of it.

She's 55 and two years ago she did something on a whim that she thought would be just another activity to add to the list. It wasn't. 

What followed was unexpected, a little expensive, and in her own words, completely worth it. We talk about what it feels like to go from beginner to coach, to finally be in a room where you're not the only one, how confidence is built on wheels one session at a time, and why women in midlife are discovering that skating is so much more than just an activity. 

In this episode you'll learn:

• What to expect from your first session, including how to overcome the fear of the first fall
• The benefits of skating for midlife women and why skating for hours doesn't feel like exercise 
• The community ethos and philosophy that should be in everyone's life
• The equipment you need and why your first pair of skates probably won't be your last
• Why showing up solo to a skate event isn't unusual
• How to chose the best skate events for you 

What started as curiosity grew into something far bigger than a hobby. This conversation reveals how roller skating after 40 became an unexpected gift.

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What does it take to completely transform your relationship with your body and then dedicate your life to helping others do the same?

In this episode, I sit down with Sarah Aarons, group fitness specialist and founder of Sarah's Alternative Fitness in Crystal Palace, London. Sarah's journey into fitness didn't begin in a gym or a sports hall, it began with grief. And what grew from that moment is remarkable.

Sarah talks about going from a decade of barely exercising to becoming a fully qualified personal trainer, group fitness instructor, and passionate advocate for movement in all its forms. Today she runs a thriving studio, teaching everything from weightlifting and calisthenics to rebounding and shuffle dancing.

We speak about dangerous narratives for midlife women and how we can find strength in unexpected places.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why variety is the most underrated principle in fitness and what the science now says about it
• The truth about calisthenics, what it actually is, why it's for every body, and how to get started from scratch
• Why you need to try rebounding as a midlife woman
• Why cardiovascular fitness is non negotiable for midlife women,  and the dangerous myth being pushed on social media

Whether you're returning to fitness after years away, navigating movement in midlife, or simply looking for a fresh perspective on how to move your body in a way that actually feels good and powerful, this episode is for you.

Find out more about Sarah:

Instagram: @sarahalternativefitness  

Website: www.sarahsalternativefitness.co.uk

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What happens when something finds you — exactly when you need it most?

Sooraya Walker is a 46 year old mum of two. Two years ago, she spotted a poster on her way out of her children' gymnastics class. A free women's kickboxing session. That same evening. She went and hasn't stopped going since.

Now she trains weekly under a former European Champion and her instructor thinks she's ready to compete.

But this conversation goes way beyond fitness. Sooraya opens up about saying no to the things you want, trusting your instincts in minus six degrees in Oslo with nothing but a printed map, and why stillness and rest are just as powerful as any training session.

This is an episode about confidence built quietly, over time. About trying something new at an age when most people stop.

What you'll learn:

• How to recognise the right moment, and the wrong one
• Why the most self-aware decision you make might surprise you
• How to build and trust your intuition at any age
• Why slowing down might be the most productive thing you do
• How movement shapes so much more than just your body

 This is the episode that will make you stop waiting for the right time and realise you're already in it. 

Find out more about Sooraya:

Linkedin @Soorayawalker and Instagram @msooraya

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This episode is a reflection on the powerful and inspiring women and lessons that have shaped season one.

In this first season you’ve heard from women in their 40s, 50s and 60s who have changed their lives through movement, from first 5Ks to first Hyrox races, from learning to swim to triathlons and training after cancer, surgery and burnout.

In this episode, we revisit the moments that made an impact:

• Why “feel the fear and do it anyway” isn’t a cliché but a strategy 
• The shift from chasing weight loss to building strength
• Why how you move isn't about you
• What movement provides, that isn't a six pack or medals
• The most effective way to get moving when you have no idea where to start
• The real reason movement becomes non-negotiable in midlife.

You’ll hear reflections from women who once described themselves as sedentary, overweight, invisible, burnt out, or not sporty, who now describe themselves as powerful, capable and alive. 

If you’ve followed the season, this is your moment to reflect.  If you’re new here, this is the perfect place to begin.

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What happens when a busy mum of four decides to pursue her decades long dream of competitive bodybuilding in secret? Meet Vusi Edeki, a public health professional who, competes in bikini bodybuilding, loves a challenge and is redefining what's possible in midlife.

In this conversation, Vusi shares her unconventional path from struggling with body image as a child to stepping on stage at 40. She opens up about the realities of bodybuilding that no one talks about, the mental health challenges, the meal prep, navigating IBS while hitting protein targets as a vegan, and training through injuries.

But this isn't just a bodybuilding story.  Vusi's movement journey is as unexpected as it is diverse, from pre dawn training to learning skills that terrified her, from competitive challenges to discovering that everything changes when you stop moving alone. 

What you'll learn in this episode:

• What it takes to start and succeed as a bikini bodybuilder
• What happens when you finally open the box on a dream you buried for 18 years?
• The hidden cost of bodybuilding that coaches don't talk about 
• The importance of strength training for injury prevention 
• Why being fearless means moving forward with fear, not without it
• Why every woman needs something for herself

Whether you're curious about bodybuilding, looking for midlife inspiration, or simply want to hear from someone who refuses to be limited by age, expectations, or labels, this episode will leave you ready to dust off the dreams you've put on hold.

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What happens when you refuse to be invisible, especially as a midlife woman? 

At 49, Tasha has run 9 marathons, completed a grueling 100 kilometer ultra run, and built Black Girls Do Run UK, a thriving community of 200 women who are rewriting the rules of who belongs on the starting line.

Tasha shares her running journey from treadmill to the 100k, building a community from a weird experience with a friend during a race and her hate love relationship with other types of exercise.

In this episode you'll learn:

• The truth about running as a midlife athlete and how to reclaim your power
• Why representation in running spaces matters more than you think 
• What it takes to run for 24 hours
• How to start running at any age
• Why 50 isn't the new 40 and why you shouldn't hide your age

This episode is about visibility, community, consistency, and refusing to age quietly.

Whether you're a seasoned runner, thinking about lacing up for the first time, or just need a reminder that your best years aren't behind you, this conversation is for you.

Find out more:

Tasha and Black Girls Do Run on Instagram @tasharunstings @blackgirlsdorunuk

Website www.blackgirlsdorun.co.uk

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What happens when a fun runner decides the next challenge isn't about pushing harder, but about being gentler?

Casey Stewart Smith ran two London Marathons. Then perimenopause hit, and running became too much. So she made a radical choice to train for something that was more gentle on her body. She signed up to swim two miles in the Serpentine despite only ever swimming recreationally.

What started as a physical challenge became a lesson in self compassion, especially after receiving her ADHD diagnosis mid-journey.

In this episode you'll learn:

• The mental strategy to go from 10 laps to 120
• Exactly how open water swimming is different to swimming in a pool
• How to work with ADHD not against it when training
• The subtle shift that transforms both your training and your race day  

This one's for you if you're tired of fitness culture telling you to go harder, faster or stronger, if your brain works differently and standard training plans just don't fit, or if you just want permission to be kinder to yourself. 

Casey's story proves you don't have to compete with yourself to achieve incredible things. Sometimes the bravest choice is softness.

Find out more about Casey @caseystewartsmith

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What happens when your body forces you to stop? Desna McKenzie shares her  journey from 5 Am workouts and long commutes to complete adrenal burnout and the difficult path back to wellness, that required completely reimagining her relationship with exercise.

In this reflective conversation, Desna shares her lifelong relationship with movement, from lifting weights in her youth, discovering the meditative power of running,  navigating burnout, adrenal fatigue, and rebuilding her body and confidence in midlife.

We talk candidly about what it means to return to fitness after exhaustion, and long periods of stopping, and why consistency, not perfection, is the key to wellness. 

Desna opens up about learning to move again on her own terms, finding strength through high intensity training, overcoming fear as an adult learner through swimming, and redefining what being fit looks like in this chapter of life.

This episode explores movement as more than exercise but as a foundation for mental wellbeing, momentum, confidence, and the quality of life we’re building for our future selves.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• How burnout and hormonal depletion can change your relationship with exercise
• Why doing less can create better results 
• Why starting again in midlife requires a different mindset and different tools
• The power of being a beginner, even when it feels uncomfortable
• How to restart exercise when your old routines don't work 
• Why consistency beats intensity, especially for women in midlife

Whether you're navigating burnout, train intensely or if you're intimidated by starting over with fitness, this conversation offers hope, practical strategies, and permission to start exactly where you are. 

Movement isn’t about going back. It’s about building forward.

Connect with Desna at www.higherplayingfield.com and CAG-Croydon

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