Have you ever stayed in something too long because you were terrified of starting over? A relationship. A version of yourself. A life that looked fine from the outside but quietly stopped feeling like yours.

In this episode, I talk about the fear of letting go, rebuilding after life falls apart, and what nobody tells you about being the “strong one” while secretly struggling yourself. We get into identity loss, survival mode, emotional exhaustion, outgrowing old chapters, and the uncomfortable reality that sometimes your life has to completely shift before you finally meet yourself again.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected, overwhelmed, or scared of what comes next… this episode is for you.

What happened to us? No seriously.
I don’t know if it’s just me, but lately I feel like people are forgetting how to be human.

In this episode of UNSTUCK by Shey, I talk about social media burnout, emotional numbness, dopamine addiction, ghosting culture, overstimulation, fake confidence online, and why so many people feel disconnected even while constantly being “connected.”

Somewhere along the way, we stopped being present and started performing instead of living and scrolling instead of feeling, while
watching everybody’s lives instead of participating in our own.

From relationships and friendships to anxiety, loneliness, and modern internet culture, this episode is honest, uncomfortable, funny, and probably a conversation a lot more people need to have.

If your brain feels overwhelmed lately, if you feel emotionally exhausted, disconnected, numb, anxious, or like your attention span has been destroyed by TikTok and notifications… this episode is for you.😜✨

So I posted a reel yesterday and my DMs have been going insane since.

It was about that moment you realize you’ve been shrinking yourself just to keep someone. Adjusting your voice, your needs, your whole personality — not because you wanted to, but because somewhere along the way you learned that the smaller version of you was easier for them to handle.

And that’s what we’re getting into today. The real conversation.

Because it’s not just about the person you lost. It’s about the version of YOU that went quiet trying to keep them. The confidence that slipped. The standards that dropped. The gut feeling you ignored over and over again until you stopped trusting yourself completely.

We’re also going deeper on something I touched on in the reel — watch how a person loves themselves. Because that is exactly the love they have available for you. Every time.

And at the end we’re doing a coaching exercise that’s going to make you name what staying actually cost you. Not surface stuff. The real stuff. “Remember who you are, Simba!” 😂 (forever my favorite scene from the Lion King)

I have a friend who told me she wasn’t ready to pursue someone she liked because she was “still healing.” And when I asked her healing from what — she couldn’t answer me.

And I sat there like… GIRL. That’s not healing. That’s hiding with a vision board.

But before you come for her — I have been her. We have all been her.

This episode is about the thing nobody wants to say out loud: that somewhere along the way, “I’m working on myself” became the most socially acceptable way to avoid your life. And we dressed it up so nicely that we stopped being able to tell the difference.

We’re getting into why you keep repeating the same patterns even though you’ve done the work, what hiding actually looks like when it’s wearing healing’s clothes, and the one question that will tell you everything you need to know about where you actually are.

Plus, we’re doing a coaching exercise at the end that is going to make you uncomfortably honest with yourself. In the best way.

If you’ve been ‘not ready’ for longer than you care to admit: this one’s for you!

Oh and happy 15th episode to me! Thank you all for making it happen 😜❤️

Aren’t we all guilty of being a little delulu sometimes?

In this episode, I’m exposing myself a little but you guys like when I do that 😂

So, at one point, if you asked me if I’ve ever been in love, I would’ve thought of ONE person—and no, it wasn’t even my ex-husband.😩🙈

I thought this person was the LOVE OF MY LIFE…

Like… lost my mind, thinking about him 24/7, planning a whole future, convinced this was it.

And then I had a random, mid-shower realization:

I don’t miss him.

I miss who I was when I was with him.

So if you’re sitting there replaying memories, missing someone who’s no longer in your life, or convincing yourself that what you had was rare and irreplaceable…

this episode is your gentle (but slightly savage) wake-up call.

We’re talking about:

    •    why you’re actually not missing them

    •    how your brain romanticizes the highlight reel

    •    the difference between delulu vs trululu

    •    and how to stop emotionally catfishing yourself 😭

Shhh… WE got this!

You don’t need them back.

You need YOU back. Moving on starts by understanding why your past doesn’t need to be in your future for you to succeed.

Well it’s no secret that these last two weeks truly took a toll on me. Ironically, I kept meeting with clients who said “I’m numb,” “I feel nothing, Shey,” “what’s the point?” at the same time as I felt exactly the same way. I lost someone close to me, I got hospitalized, and I laid there thinking “No one is coming to save you,” and “No one is going to pause your life for you.” while attempting to carry my own clients out of depression.

That’s where the truth comes in- you either give up or you get up. Get up, even if you’re not 100%, even if you feel you can no longer keep pushing. Just doing one thing out of the 10 you’re supposed to , already serves as movement. And life is nothing without perpetual movement forward.

So, this episode is for anyone who ever felt exhausted, defeated, and especially, numb. Progress doesn’t care about our feelings and emotions; don’t let darkness win when light is desperately trying to lead you.

CLOSED MOUTHS DONT GET FED!

People pleasers are some of the most resentful people I know. Not because they’re bad people. Because they keep saying yes when they mean no.

They apologize for everything.

They overextend themselves.

They pretend things are “fine.”

And then six months later they’re quietly pissed at everyone.

But here’s the truth:

People can’t respect boundaries you never communicate. Not at work, not in life. You want a raise? Ask for one. You want someone to respect you? Stop apologizing for existing.

Say what you actually mean. And don’t sit there chewing on an overcooked steak just because you “feel bad.” 🙄

Some of you aren’t exhausted because life is hard.

You’re exhausted because you keep giving your energy to people who have already shown you they’re a terrible investment.

In this episode we’re talking about protecting your energy, recognizing patterns, letting go of resentment, and finally learning to stop pouring into cups with holes.

Also fair warning: the ghetto-ness came out but you’re welcome 😜😜😜

I didn’t plan for episode 10 to feel this reflective, but lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the seasons in my life where everything felt like it was falling apart at once. At the time, I truly believed I was being attacked — in business, in relationships, even internally. I kept asking myself why things were shaking when I was working so hard and trying to grow. Looking back now, I see it differently. I wasn’t being attacked, I was being corrected. In this episode, I talk about ego — not confidence or ambition, but the subtle need to prove, control, defend, and win. The kind of ego that can build impressive things, but not peaceful ones. I share what it took for me to recognize where I was asking for more while not fully honoring what I already had, and how resentment, pride, and misalignment quietly block the very growth we say we want. This isn’t a preachy conversation; it’s an honest one about discipline, forgiveness, and what it feels like when life starts dismantling what you thought you needed. If you’re in a season where things feel uncertain or uncomfortable, maybe you’re not being punished. Maybe you’re just being refined.

If you don’t assess your monetary compensation of your time investment, business owners will always find ways to use and manipulate you. Same in relationships.

We don’t undercharge because we don’t know our value.

We undercharge because we’re afraid of being replaced.

In this episode, I unpack the quiet ways self-worth—or the lack of it—shapes how we show up in business, money, and relationships. From building companies without contracts, to offering loyalty without protection, to becoming “low-maintenance” just to feel chosen, this conversation goes deeper than pricing or confidence.

I talk about the patterns I see in high-functioning, capable people who keep overgiving, under-asking, and self-abandoning—then wondering why they feel resentful, invisible, or unsupported.

This episode connects the dots between:

• ​ Why people avoid asking for fair compensation
• ​ How undercharging and overgiving teach others how to treat you
• ​ Why being “easy” in relationships often leads to feeling tolerated instead of chosen
• ​ How self-worth changes human behavior—in business and in life

If you’ve ever felt like the backbone of everyone else’s life while quietly neglecting your own…

If you’ve ever shrunk, softened, or stayed silent to keep peace or opportunity…

This episode is your reminder that self-worth isn’t a personality trait.

It’s a skill.

And it can be learned.