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What does self-doubt look like in a relationship? How does you questioning yourself, affect the person you are with? Can you really be supportive when you are questioning your own abilities?  When we think about imposter syndrome, we frequently overlook how it impacts us relationally.  However, the truth is, questioning yourself does more that interfere with your own path to success.  It also creates challenges for the person you are with, and their confidence in the relationship.  We have all experienced imposter syndrome, where we internally think we are “tricking” people or will be found out because we are a fake.  Although, it’s what we do with these feelings and thoughts that make all the difference.  

On this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Licensed Professional Counselor and Imposter Syndrome expert Kisha Walwyn-Duquesnay (Wall-Win-Doo-Kenny). 

Kisha has been a Licensed Professional Counselor for the last 10 years in Houston, TX and is owner of optimisticcounseling.com. Kisha helps career driven women beat Imposter Syndrome so they can feel worthy of the success they have achieved without the guilt. 

Over the last 10 years, Kisha has helped hundreds of women go from feeling undeserving, to feeling worthy of every good thing that comes to them. So that they can finally own all that they have done, all that they will do, and live the big full life they deserve. 

Kisha graduated from the University Of Mary Hardin-Baylor, with an M.A. in counseling and from the University Of North Texas, with a B.A. in sociology and double minor in psychology and counseling. 

Kisha is first generation Caribbean, born in Houston, Texas. Her mother is American. Her father was born in St. Kitts and raised in St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands. 

Kisha is married with a 1 year old daughter and 14 year old Pomeranian.

To learn more about Kisha, you can follow her on Instagram at http://www.instagram.com/optimisticcounseling  visit her counseling practice, Optimistic Counseling.

Don't forget to like and subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform, and follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Facebook at nichardycounseling or on Instagram @nichardy_. 

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When there are problems in a relationship, who doesn't want their partner to change?  In an ideal world, they would just "get it" and everything would be okay.  However, this is rarely the case, especially when two people believe the other person is at fault (which almost all the time).

In her Amazon #1 Bestselling book, Dr. Abby Medcalf shares how we can change our relationship, even when our partner won't do a thing.  No longer do we have to wait for the other person to change in order for the relationship to improve.  Although most don't realize it, everything we need to improve the quality of our relationship is within reach.

To learn more about Dr. Abby Medcalf, please visit her website, where she has tons of helpful resources.  She also has an incredible podcast called Relationships Made Easy. Oh, and don't forget to order a copy of her Amazon #1 Best Selling Book "Be Happily Married Even if Your Partner Won't Do a Thing". 

For more episodes, listen to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform. Also, follow Dr. Nic Hardy online at nichardy_. 

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When you don't feel heard, it's hard to explain. In fact, it can seem confusing and ambigous for those who are trying to understand and make sense of this problem. The truth is, this is one of the most common problems when it comes to communication in relationships. But what does it really mean to "not feel heard".  In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by relationship therapist Eboni Harris as they explore the subject of communication and how to hear your spouse in a way that is meaningful. 

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About Guest Eboni Harris

Eboni Harris is a licensed relationship therapist, keynote speaker, podcaster, and educator. She has been helping couples and individuals explore and heal their relationship patterns, childhood trauma, and unhealthy habits. Eboni helps her clients/audience understand and love the parts of them that create undesirable outcomes so they can transform those parts into extensions of who they know they are to their core.

For over 10 years brands like Essence, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, and Self Magazine have considered Eboni an expert in relationships and sex. Although this is true, Eboni has found that she is truly an expert on love. Whether the topic self-love, romantic love, platonic love, or loving your life, Eboni is able to speak to how love is able to transform/motivate individuals to live the life they desire and create the relationships they deserve.

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The idea of work-life balance sounds great, but is it really attainable?  Balance is good in theory, but in reality, we are sometimes asked to choose between two equally important things. When the expectations of providing financially, collide with being present, what do you do?  When are lifestyle has created  comfort, but the quality of our relationships is in danger, making the right adjustments is not easy feat. 

Join Dr. Nic Hardy and Terry Williams as they explore what it means to grow a business and build a family.

Terry Williams is co-founder of The League, a gym in Houston, TX that focuses not only on physical fitness, but mental and emotional wellness too. While he enjoys entrepreneurship and coaching, his greatest values are his family and the rich relationships he forms with his clientele. He finds purpose and fulfillment in impact, and strives to change lives through loving people well. 

You can follow Terry online @terrythetrainer and at @emberandstoke 

For more information on the Untherapeutic Podcast, please visit us online at Untherapeutic.com.  Also, you can follow Dr. Nic Hardy online @nichardy_ 

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Infidelity is one of the hardest relationship challenges some couples experience.  The betrayal of trust and the loss of confidence that stems from one partner stepping outside their relationship, can cause the most committed couples to question the future of their relationship. However, in counseling countless couples over the years, there is a myth that surrounds infidelity. There are myths about what the other person will look like, how they are sexually, how much money they make, etc. There are also myths about the reasons “why” we are pulled away from the one we love and what it is we need most.  

In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Eliza Boquin, Psychotherapist and Sex Therapist. Together, they will explore many of the common misconceptions around infidelity, helpful strategies to prevent this from occurring in your relationship, and more. 

 Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to Untherapeutic on your favorite streaming platform.  Also, follow us on Instagram at nichardy_. For residents in Texas, if you are interested in counseling, please visit nichardy.com

About Eliza Boquin

 Eliza Boquin, MA, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and certified healing practitioner who works with people to overcome past traumas, emotional pain, and destructive relationship patterns so they can begin to enjoy healthier, pleasure-filled lives.  

You can find her working with clients at her private practice, The Flow & Ease Healing Center, LLC in Houston, TX, hosting workshops, and at public speaking events empowering people to have healthier relationships.

In addition to her clinical work & public speaking events, she is the host of the Chakras + Sex + Relationships podcast & co-host of the Between Sessions podcast.

She is also an active mental health advocate & co-founder of Melanin & Mental Health, LLC—a mental health wellness brand centered around the healing of Black/Latinx communities.

Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Therapy for Black Girls Podcast, XO Necole, Bustle, Shape, and Health Magazine.

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Do you know the keys to lasting physical intimacy? Have you struggled to reconnect with your spouse? If so, join millions of others who have silently struggled with physical intimacy in their relationships.  

 In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Viviana Coles, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and former Married at First Sight featured expert. In her groundbreaking book, The Four Intimacy Styles, Dr. Coles describes how learning about your intimacy style can help you overcome feelings of neglect in the bedroom, resent, worry, and a host of other challenges we experience  that limit our capacity to engage in a satisfying sex life.  In this episode, Dr. Coles also addresses many other frequently asked questions around sex, reconnecting with your spouse, and more. 

To learn more about Dr. Viviana Coles, DMFT – please visit her website at https://doctorviviana.com/  or follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/doctorviviana/

 You can also purchase her book, the 4 Intimacy Styles https://doctorviviana.com/product/buythebook/

Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast today on your favorite streaming platform. Also, if you enjoyed this episode, we would love for you to send us a note or give us a positive rating. 

 To connect with Dr. Nic Hardy, you can visit him on social media at the below links.

Instagram: nichardy_

Facebook: nichardycounseling

 If you are in the state of Texas and interested in counseling, schedule your first appointment online today at nichardy.com 

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Relationships that begin with a lot of intensity and passion, sometimes evolve into relationships that are both dangerous and unhealthy.  In this episode, Kortney Simmons, Attorney and Legal Analyst for TV One’s hit show “Fatal Attraction”, discusses her experience helping couples identify warning signs and exit unsafe relationships.   

It’s easy to mistake passion for possessiveness and misinterpret what a healthy relationship looks like, especially in the passionate rush of newness. In this episode, “We all like a little crazy, Until…” Host Dr. Nic Hardy will explore topics such as: 

Can people really change over time…?

Is a safe relationship a boring relationship…?

Warnings signs of a potentially fatal attraction…? 

And more… 

 For more episodes on mental health and relationships, visit untherapeutic.com and subscribe today on your favorite streaming platform. Stay connected with Dr. Nic Hardy on Instagram at nichardy_. 

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About Kortney Simmons 

Kortney D. Simmons, a native of Memphis, Tennessee, graduated from the University of Mississippi School of Law in 2011, where she earned her J.D. with a Certificate in Criminal Law.  Prior to law school, Ms. Simmons received her B.S. in International Relations from Middle Tennessee State University, where she graduated cum laude in 2007. In 2011 Ms. Simmons was admitted to the Tennessee Bar and joined Divorce Incorporated as an Associate Attorney.

In 2015, Ms. Simmons, along with G. Michael Casey and Daniel P. Bryant, formed the law firm of Casey, Simmons and Bryant, PLLC. Ms. Simmons practices in courts across Tennessee, but primarily practices in West Tennessee. Her primary areas of practice are criminal defense, juvenile and family law.

Attorney Simmons is happily married and has two handsome sons named William and Ryan and a playful puppy named Honey. 

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Finding a spouse online may feel like the new normal in today’s dating culture. However, the challenges and problems that come with online dating can be exhausting and discouraging all at the same time - especially for black women, who often have fewer options in the online dating world. 

Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dating and Relationship coach Kevin Thibodeaux (Coach Kev) as he explores practical strategies to improve your success online.  Coach Kev offers encouragement for those who have given up on their dating future, and the prospect of finding someone online. 

To Learn more about working with Coach Kev, visit him online at the following social media outlets. 

Website / Social Media Links:

·      From Casual to Serious Website

·      Date Smarter Community Landing page 

·      Linked In - Coach Kev

·      Facebook - Coach Kev

·      Instagram - From Casual to Serious

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Even when we know a relationship is toxic, it’s not always easy to stop ourselves from going back.  In this episode, host Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Mindfulness Expert and Practitioner Kierra McShine-Gregory. 

Kierra is a mental health counselor and mindfulness practitioner who works with adolescents, adults and families using the practice of mindfulness to support depression, anxiety, relationship restoration and stress management. Her restorative framework has supported her clients in reframing negative thinking, deepening self-discovery and bringing more awareness to their emotional well-being. 

This episode will offer insights on creating healthy boundaries in your relationships, and what it means incorporate mindfulness in your life.   If you have ever wondered, 

“What exactly is a toxic relationship”, 

“How does your family contribute to your relationship decisions”, 

“What should we do after leaving a toxic relationship”, 

“How to spot a toxic relationship before it’s too late – then this episode is for you. 

To learn more about Kierra McShine-Gregory visit her on Instagram @PeaceandProject or https://www.nichardy.com/kierra

Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform. For more information on Dr. Nic Hardy, visit him at Untherapeutic.com, online at nichardy.com or follow on Instagram at  nichardy_ or Facebook at nichardycounseling.