“Mediation is not for everyone. But most people, as long as they can advocate for themselves, can see huge potential upside in mediating with their soon to be ex spouse.” - Ellen Feldman

Finding better outcomes through divorce process is what every person involved might ask for. Undergoing divorce will greatly impact everyone involved financially and emotionally. In such cases, mediation becomes an ideal option to minimize the impact of divorce, resolve disputes between parties, and help the judicial system in general. In this episode, Andrea and Ellen Feldman dive deep into the process of mediation. Find out more about this method and how it can give a future-forward resolution to every couple after a divorce. Tune in and learn how mediation can benefit you and your family. 

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Episode Highlights: 

04:00 Mediation Benefit 1: Improve Communication

08:45 Mediation To Be Forward Focused

12:39 Mediation To Be An Interesting And Compelling Option

22:44 Mediation Benefit 2: Confidentiality

27:13 Mediation Benefit 3: Shorter Duration, More Swift Resolution

28:28 Work Out Your Own Issues

35:27 Small Agreements Lead To Bigger Agreements

36:52 Mediation Versus Collaboration

“You have to get yourself back together and that's going to take time. Once you've done that, you have to know that there is a life for you. The divorce wasn't the end and you have a whole second act coming.” -Andrea Rappaport

Andrea Rappaport is a bubbly, confident woman. But behind her ability to make people laugh in an instant, this gorgeous woman lived a story far from Cinderella's. She was in an unhealthy marriage and was getting used to unhappiness until she knew she already had enough of it. She decided to stop tolerating the emotional abuse and made one of the toughest decisions of her life- divorce. Divorce is hardest when there are young kids involved. In this episode, Andrea shares what helped her move forward with her decision, at the same time helping her children cope. She also talks about how to take care of your mental wellness and enhance your beauty after a dark past. Divorce is simply the end of a page in your storybook. There are yet new chapters to unlock, new adventures to take on, and maybe a new love coming your way. Tune in and find out what you can do NOW to welcome that moment with confidence, beauty, and humor!

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• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaellenjavor/ 
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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

02:02 The Everyday American Girl

07:03 Getting Used to Unhappiness

12:29 The Moment of “I’m Done!” 

19:17 Getting Back the Laughter

23:00 Laughter and Mental Wellness 

27:36 Are You Ready to Date? 

32:07 We All Need Levity

37:24 Find Reliable Support

42:12 You Deserve a Team!

 “Your former partner or your co-parent does not need to be cooperating with you and leveling up in any way in order for you to start becoming the chief narrator of a better story for your kids.” -Andrea Hipps

The depth of the pain of divorce is impossible to describe. It is a mixture of all the darker emotions one can ever imagine. But, is it possible to turn this dark moment of your life into a more beautiful story for yourself and for your kids? It’s been 10 years since her divorce, and Andrea Hipps has become the authority on building beautiful two-address families.  Andrea is a trusted CDC© Certified Divorce Coach.  In this episode, Andrea talks about her best-selling book,  The Best Worst Time of Your Life, and how you can uncover your best self and recover after all the trauma of divorce. Learn the secret to peaceful co-parenting, working with your former spouse with gratitude rather than resentment, and gaining your children’s trust while teaching them how to navigate their own relationships now and in the future. Join in and say “Yes!” to the life unexpected! 

Connect with Andrea:

• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

02:25 The Best Worst Time

07:03 The Divorce Continuum

14:41 Uncover and Recover Yourself

19:19 Don’t Call Them Negative

24:00 Don’t Buy Lipstick at a Hardware Store!

29:50 Celebrate the Unwavering Gifts

33:31 Welcome a New Story

Guilt is something that you have to learn to separate and redefine. When we feel bad about letting other people down, it makes us feel like we're doing something wrong. However, you don't have to feel guilty for choosing yourself. You're supposed to be choosing yourself." -Christine Carr 

Guilt and its accompanying emotions are part of the divorce process. But for some, the intensity of negative emotions becomes so overwhelming, especially to the one who chooses to leave the marriage first. Christine Carr, the Founder of Monkey Mind Chicago and host of She's On Top, personally experienced how devastating this can be. In this episode, she shares how to redefine guilt and rebuild yourself. Learn how to overcome the challenges of choosing yourself first and become a model of forgiveness and honesty that your children can trust and look up to. Sometimes, when emotions shout louder than intellect, we make hasty, detrimental decisions. As a real estate broker, Christine also imparts practical advice on how you can make wise real estate decisions as you move forward. Divorce will make significant changes to your life, and those changes can be positive. Say Yes! to possibilities. Manifest your vision.    

Connect with Andrea:

• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaellenjavor/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndreaEllenJavor 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/andreaejavor 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

02:14 Yes! to Possibilities

06:50 The Challenge of Choosing Yourself

14:50 The Process of Rebuilding Yourself

21:32 What is a Home?

25:11 Manifest Your Vision 

29:17 Before You Move Forward

32:44 The Reward of Being a Better Person

38:56 It's Never Too Late

"People have an insatiable need to connect. And if they're not getting it from their family and their friends, they only have two options: They either make new friends or date to get the connection. And dating as a means of connecting is probably not healthy. People come and go. Whereas, if you're focusing and investing your time in fostering brand new friendships, they can be there for a lifetime." -Daniel Herrold

Divorce is one of the top destroyers of social life. It leaves a void that will continue to grow unless the person himself becomes intentional about filling it. Discover the healing power of a community with our first-ever guest, Daniel Herrold, one of the co-founders of Divorced Over Forty. Daniel shares how a simple backyard cookout with friends turned into a valuable support center for many individuals across several countries. Listen in and find out how you can also be a part of the Divorced Over Forty community and maybe find yourself a lifetime friendship in one of their exciting events! 

Connect with Andrea:

• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaellenjavor/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndreaEllenJavor 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/andreaejavor 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

02:58 The Divorce Over 40 Community

10:58 From BackYard Cookouts to World Chapters

18:07 Put Yourself Out There!

22:19 Check Out DO40's Upcoming Events 

27:04 Reach Out and Get Plugged In

Imagine if your career aspirations and relationship goals could feel magically improved by optimizing one critical element in your life: The relationship you have with yourself.  Andrea Javor believes that the key to finding your next-level life fulfillment is through a deliberate focus on YOU, the most challenging, rewarding, and significant relationship you have in this world.  Go deep with the one and only bad-ass you to unlock the elusive career, relationship, and life goals you are wanting but aren’t getting.  Through life experience and candid dialogue with experts, Until There Was Me™ will spark compelling conversations to help you move up and move on in your life.

Hosted by Andrea Javor, a 20+ year Corporate Marketing Professional and CDC© Certified Divorce Coach, Until There Was Me™ will give you practical, actionable advice to intentionally build your beautiful future at work and at home.  Join Andrea and her guests every week as they teach you how to write the beautiful self-love story that reads until there was me.

Connect with Andrea:

• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaellenjavor/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndreaEllenJavor 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/andreaejavor 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

01:23 Until There Was Me

05:00 When Fairy Tale Meets Reality

08:40 #Blessed

12:48 Until There Was ME 

16:00 It’s All About You

19:18 Optimize Your Relationship With Yourself

"Figuring out who you are and showing up for who you are, help you show up for others, including former spouses." -Dan Faill

Life after divorce is a tough period for everyone, especially if there are children involved. On top of that, maintaining a good relationship with your ex is the most challenging task you have to overcome, and probably the last you think about. Is it even possible? What if hurt feelings and animosity still linger? In this episode, International Speaker and Life Coach, Dan Faill talks about how he and his ex-wife/"Spouse Emeritus" were able to show up as better persons and as dependable role models for their children post-divorce. Dan also shares the lessons he learned about dealing with overwhelming emotions, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, creating peaceful co-parenting arrangements, and finding a support system that will help you get through the dark times. Don't miss today's exciting episode!

Connect with Andrea:

• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaellenjavor/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndreaEllenJavor 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/andreaejavor 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

02:07 Don't Skip Vulnerability

05:00 An Overview of the Divorce Journey

09:27 How to Cope Up with Initial Emotions 

12:33 How Do Your Kids See You?

15:00 Get Over Yourself

18:30 Managing Intense Emotions

23:26 A Lesson From Pooh and Piglet

29:33 Show Up For Yourself and Your Kids

35:34 Acknowledge the Uncertainties

"Don't make your financial roadmap the last road trip you look at. Make sure you plan it ahead."  -Lisa Williams 

Most of the time, a woman's income is greatly reduced after a divorce. Play as your own money detective, understand your cash flow, know where to begin in building your financial future, find ways to generate passive income, attain financial peace, and teach your children to do the same as Wealth Mentor and Business Builder, Lisa Williams teach how you can take back control over your finances. Let your money work for you as you sleep. Tune in and be empowered to handle all aspects of your financial health and well-being. 

Connect with Andrea:

• Website: https://www.andreajavor.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaellenjavor/ 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndreaEllenJavor 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/andreaejavor 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreajavor/ 
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7xdNllghXpqvD9YFGo1lwg

Episode Highlights: 

02:06 25 Years and A New Company

05:38 The Foundation of Your Financial Life

09:33 How to Deal with Financial Fear

12:22 Where to Start

18:53 Empower Your Kids to Think and Grow Rich 

23:12 The 4 Quadrants of Wealth

26:04 Plan Ahead!