UnToxic Positivity

Who are you? How do you identify?

Your answer to this question will have a big impact on how well you can deal with the Boss from Hell.

It's important to recognize, accept, and then maybe change what your identity is.

It's not hard, but it's also not easy.

Let me know your thoughts.

Share your thoughts and ideas with me at [email protected]. Or if you have something you'd like to address--or if you need some advice on your own bad boss.

You can find the "Surviving the Boss from Hell" book at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0C51TYWFF 

Want to chat? I'd love to help you figure out your own happiness. You can get on my schedule at

https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting

Happiness is the goal, isn't it?

Don't we want a different job, or boss, or salary, or home town, or everything...because it will make us happy?

But really, I'm wondering, do you WANT to be happy?

Here's a different way to think about happiness. And it starts with wanting it.

Let me know your thoughts.

Share your thoughts and ideas with me at [email protected]. Or if you have something you'd like to address--or if you need some advice on your own bad boss.

You can find the "Surviving the Boss from Hell" book at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0C51TYWFF 

Want to chat? I'd love to help you figure out your own happiness. You can get on my schedule at

https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting, or email me at [email protected] 

The Law of the Lid.

I had never heard of this before. In all of my years learning about Leadership. Nothing.

Until a couple of weeks ago. Another podcast discussed it.

And I'm fascinated. How is the Boss from Hell limiting you because of his or her lid?

And how are you limiting yourself because of YOUR lid?

Let me know your thoughts.

Share your thoughts and ideas with me at [email protected]. Or if you have something you'd like to address--or if you need some advice on your own bad boss.

You can find the "Surviving the Boss from Hell" book at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0C51TYWFF  

This is another take on boundaries. I hear about boundaries frequently, so I will probably continue to talk about them.

Also, thanks to David, I'm cross-posting this episode on both the Bad Boss Podcast and Untoxic Positivity.

Listen to them both.

Next time: The Law of the Lid

Share your thoughts and ideas with me at [email protected]. Or if you have something you'd like to address--or if you need some advice on your own bad boss.

You can find the "Surviving the Boss from Hell" book at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0C51TYWFF 

And if you want to know how to take these tools to the next level, schedule a time to meet with me at https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting 

I grew up thinking it was important to "Be Nice!"

But I worry that niceness lets people walk all over me. So I have a choice. I can allow that, or I can establish boundaries.

The simplest way I have been able to understand boundaries is they're like the front door to my house. It is there to protect me...not to punish you.

It may become important to establish (and enforce!) boundaries as we develop relationships with others.

Get clear on what your boundaries are, why you have them, and how they protect you.

Your most important relationship--with yourself--will benefit.

Curious about working together? Let's chat and find out if we're a great fit! No strings attached, just an opportunity to explore our coaching chemistry.

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"Keep Portland Weird!"

"Embrace Your Weirdness"

It all sounds fun, until your weirdness rubs ME the wrong way.

Well, Your Weirdness is not YOUR problem...it's MY problem.

This week we talk about letting people be their own weird selfes. (Conveniently, this also allows US to be OUR OWN weird selves.

We are just who we are. No expectations, no rules, nothing.

Curious about working together? Let's chat and find out if we're a great fit! No strings attached, just an opportunity to explore our coaching chemistry.

https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting

Funny thing about how we interact with our brains and our thoughts.

We tend to believe everything our brain tells us. 

Problem is, our brains are wrong. Lots of the time. Maybe MOST of the time.

But our thoughts FEEL true to us. So we accept them, trust them, and believe them.

What if that's a bad idea? What if we approach our relationships with the understanding that we're probably wrong about things?

Want another perspective to help you navigate what is true and what isn't in your thoughts? I'd love to chat.

Reach out to me at [email protected], or schedule a time to chat at https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting

A recent seminar for rusty pilots got me thinking about this week's topic. Fifteen years ago, I got my private pilot certificate, but it's been about 11 years since I've been flying.

It's time to get back up in the air.

As I have started the process of breaking the rust off, an experience from my flight training came back to mind, where the lesson was, "If you don't trust your instruments, you WILL die."

Powerful lesson.

If you need someone to be an instrument as you navigate your relationships, I'd love to help.

Reach out to me at [email protected], or schedule a time to chat at https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting

"That's just Jason."

I've learned that I can either be frustrated that someone doesn't act the way I think he should, or I can accept that however he acts is just him.

This week, we explore the difference between thinking that people should be different, and accepting that they are how they are. And how that can improve the relationship.

Have comments or suggestions? Reach out to me at [email protected].

Or schedule a time to chat at https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting

When my oldest, Allison, was 11 years old, my sweet wife insisted that "When Allison turns 12, ONE of us is moving out!"

Later, she invoked the "Mother's Curse" on Allison..."someday, you'll have a child JUST LIKE YOU."

That meant I had to come up with my own curse, which I call the "Father's Curse."

"You're going to marry someone JUST LIKE ME."

What do you do about the choice your kids make about their life partner? Can you make sure that they make the right choice?

Tune in as we discover how to get your kids to choose the right person.

Reach out to me at [email protected], or get on my calendar at https://tidycal.com/kenwilliams/intro-meeting