UNTRAINED

Dr. Tanya Raquel is a self-described “recovering joyful workaholic.” In this episode, Tanya discusses how she’s undone (and is currently undoing!) her scarcity mindset. The scarcity mindset can be tricky to identify. Oftentimes, it comes in pretty packaging and can look like success. The key difference is, this mindset results in burnout or chronically feeling a sense of, “not enough”. You rarely get to enjoy the fruits of your labor.Whitney, Iris, and Tanya engage in a vulnerable and enlightening conversation about living with a scarcity mindset: Where does this mindset originate? How are these scarcity thoughts trying to protect us? And most importantly, how can we slowly shift to a more abundance mindset.Join our hosts along with Dr. Tanya Prewitt-White as they discuss normalizing ambivalence, healing through coaching, and what we can learn about rest from tigers.Guest Bio: Dr. Tanya Raquel is a performance and executive coach and trained survivor advocate. She spent 12 years working as a professor, researcher, author, and certified mental performance consultant (CMPC) working with individual athletes, sports and corporate teams. For two decades, she has been intimately invested in social justice research and embodied advocacy work in both society and the field of sport psychology and serves as the Equity, Diversity and Inclusion Co-Chair for the American Psychological Association Society for Sport, Exercise, and Performance Psychology.What we will explore in this episode:

• What behaviors are present when the scarcity mindset is at play.
• Exploring your “Yeah, but…” thoughts and what they mean on your journey.
• Deciding how you want to feel and taking immediate action toward it.
• The value of normalizing ambivalence in making decisions.
• How to address self-sacrifice, people pleasing, and jealousy while in the scarcity mindset.
• The importance of adding “yet” to your thoughts to achieve an abundance mindset.
• Getting unstuck in your body can help you feel unstuck in your mind.
• Showing up with vulnerability to get the support you need for your growth.
• Surrounding yourself with the right people (hint: they have an abundance mindset and think highly of you!)

Brenda Mariah is the president for the National Resume Writers’ Association, the past president of the Resume Writers & Coaches Association, and is certified in Interview Coaching, Compensation Negotiation, Job Search Strategy, Resume Writing, Career Management, LinkedIn Profile Development, and Employment Law. She works with major brands to provide corporate outplacement services during layoffs and her prior engineering and project management background uniquely qualifies her to help even the most technical professionals.Untraining: The idea that you need to hang on to the job you have because the unknown is too scaryTraining: How to break down the career transition process and not go it alone What we will explore in this episode:

• What are the first steps to making a big change in your career?
• The value of intentional daydreaming.
• Why feeling stuck can actually feel comfortable.
• What it looks like to reinvent yourself.
• Why it’s important to let yourself be scared during your career transition.
• How to make networking work for you, especially on LinkedIn. *
• How to find and leverage your “Army of Advocates.”
• Why you should stop writing your own resume.

*Check out Brenda’s free ebook How to Use LinkedIn in 15 Minutes Per Day.Website:https://www.pushcareermanagement.com/interview-course

Guest Bio: Dr. Amanda Blake is the author of the award-winning book Your Body Is Your Brain, and creator of the Body = Brain(TM) course on the neurobiology of experiential leadership learning. In addition to teaching about the art and science of embodiment, she works with leaders worldwide to help them become their best self, enjoy life more, and make a bigger contribution. Once an internationally competitive athlete, Mandy is skilled at cultivating high performance in herself and others. As a Master Somatic Leadership Coach, she is known for supporting pragmatic yet profound transformations in her clients. She holds a degree in Human Biology from Stanford University and a doctorate in Management from Case Western Reserve University. She’s also a longtime yoga enthusiast, mountaineer, and musician.Untraining: The idea that our mental intelligence is our greatest asset. Training: There are ways to tap into our embodied intelligence that we haven’t been taught to access or value. Dr Blake will share with us her strategies for retraining from a body centered approach. What we will explore in this episode:

• Everyday we leave money on the table by underestimating our bodies intelligence - how can we change this?
• Greater understanding of how the body is involved in perceiving information and broadcasting information. The body is a lens of perception working 24/7.
• We don’t tend to train our embodied intelligence. Luckily the part of our brain that helps make sense of our embodied experience is as trainable as the intellectual parts.
• A lot of tapping our embodied intelligence is about coming to embody new behaviors that are more resourceful and better meet the moment.
• Embodiment practices can help widen our window of tolerance.
• It can be life altering to learn to listen to your body.
• Good news Dr. Blake is working on a book helps people learn HOW to put this work into practice.

You can find her here: Website: https://embright.org/Book: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Body-Brain-Intelligence-Relationships/dp/0999368117

Guest Bio: Chinazom Sunny Nwabueze is the founder and managing director at Dreamcatchers Performance LLC, a high performance coaching consulting company. Drawing from two decades of experience as a leadership coach and performance psychologist, he recently authored his first book "Real Talk: A New Approach To Men's Mental Fitness,” an Amazon Best Seller. He also just launched a corresponding podcast, "Real Talk: Conversations on Mental Fitness.” Chinazom often says, “There is no sustainable high performance without well-being”Chinazom is a former colleague of ours from our time working at Valor Performance. We sat down with him to learn more about his work around men and well-being.Untraining: We want to untrain the idea that men’s and women’s mental health issues look the same and need the same resourcing. Men and women are trained by the culture in different ways so it makes sense their untraining and retraining will look different. When we use the terms men and women we are referring to people who identify as men and women. Training: What do men do with their sensitivity and their emotional challenges? Men are not often given emotional toolkits to manage the challenging emotional terrain of maturing through life. The toolkits of men and women and what they need are different. What you will learn from this episode:

• Some of the ways men are struggling at midlife
• Taking time to acknowledge and shift the paradigms of traditional masculine and feminine roles at home
• The value of “banter” or superficial conversations and silence
• Connection and group work can be powerful to share similar experiences

You can find him here:

Website: https://www.dreamcatchersperformance.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dreamcatchers_performance/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chinazomsunnynwabueze/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@snwabueze

Guest Bio: Dr. Bonnie Zucker is a clinical psychologist located in Los Angeles, CA. She received a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at UCLA, where she developed a specialty in the research, prevention, and treatment of anxiety disorders. A teacher, researcher, and clinician, Bonnie brings 25 years of experience with anxiety disorders to her mission of giving people tools and skills to diminish the negative impact of anxiety and panic attacks.While 3% of the population experiences panic disorder, which requires clinical interventions, at least 25% of the population will experience at least one panic attack in their lifetime. And…. in between those extremes are many variations and subclinical experiences with panic attacks. Iris and Whitney have dealt with them both in their athletic and corporate years. We sat down with Dr. Zucker to discuss these unwanted visitors to learn more about how to understand and respond to them.Untraining: You have to control anxiety and panic attacks and manage yourself to avoid them or get through them. Training: Panic attacks are common, deeply uncomfortable experiences and by experimenting with different mental and physiological responses to them, we can often diminish their frequency and severity. What you will learn from this episode:

• What a panic attack is
• What the common responses are to panic attacks and why some of them perpetuate
• How to get curious about the message your panic attack may be trying to communicate
• Useful mindsets and responses to experiment with

Publications:

• Psychology Today blog: Liberate Yourself
• Insider article on electronic surveillance of kids and anxiety
• Scary Mommy article about mother blaming

Scroll down on this webpage to see selected professional journal publications and educational materials for the VA. Website: Psychologist | Bonnie Zucker Ph.D. | Los Angeles (bonniezuckerphd.com)Panic attacks course: https://bonniezuckerphd.mykajabi.com/break-the-cycle-of-panicUntrained Audience can use this coupon code (20% off) for the Dr. Zucker’s course: UNTRAINED20 LinkedIn:Bonnie Zucker, Ph.D. | LinkedInTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bonniezuckerphdInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/bonniezuckerphd/Please consider subscribing to get the latest! Thanks to the Untrained Tribe for the support!

In this episode we talk about how to take ownership of the way we operate, and consequently what our ideal rhythms are in our days. We challenge you to be your own best teammate and advocate.Untraining: The idea that the ideal way to work is to throw ourselves into our day and try to cross as many things off the list as we can as fast as we can.Training: The idea that when we get clear on our natural tendencies and rhythms, we can focus on our ability to prepare and recovery from elements of our day with more intentionality. What does it look like to orient towards presence and sustainability of our energy vs just getting things done?

Dr. Julia A. West is a Clinical Psychologist, executive coach, and the Director of Science & Content at Limitless Minds. With over a decade in Clinical and Health Psychology, she's honed expertise in mental performance, resilience, and holistic well-being. She's adept in behavioral sleep medicine, cognitive therapies, and disordered eating treatments. Untraining: You have to hide your vulnerability as a leader, practitioner, coach, mother. idea that there is no room for vulnerability in leadership or in our best performances.Training: Retrain ideas about how vulnerability fits into leadership.What you will learn from this episode:

• Dr. West's thoughts and personal and professional experience with perfectionism and vulnerability.
• How vulnerability and failure piss us off but lead to our strength.
• How our body can force us to learn to take care of ourselves.
• How vulnerability can deepen connections and trust.

Quotes: “Most of my life I tried with all of my might to be perfect.” - Dr. Julia West“In my imperfection I found my perfect.” - Dr. Julia WestPlease consider subscribing to get the latest! Thanks to the Untrained Tribe for the support!Helpful links and resources from the episode.Dr. Julia West on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julia-west-phd-73177b22b/https://www.catalyst.org/research/leaders-connect-during-crisis/

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We discuss the habitual ways people who identify as female show up in meetings, and the untraining strategies they can practice.

Dr. Rogow helps us provide specific behaviors we can use to train for a different experience in high stakes communication settings. We will be handing out permission slips, talking about meeting hangovers, and exploring the role of authenticity in your training. Ultimately, we created this episode to provide kick ass, knowledgeable, capable, women the tools to have a strong presence and effective voice in meetings.

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