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Seven years after my divorce, I thought I was doing everything right. I rebuilt my career. I got healthy. I dated. I “put in the work.” I thought I was healed. But God showed me I had been building my new life on sand.

In this episode, I’m speaking directly to divorced Christian men—men who are still carrying invisible wounds, hiding behind success, and chasing money, relationships, and validation instead of Christ. We’ll talk about:

• The “arrow in the back of the head” every wounded man carries (and hides)
• Why dating too soon after divorce often leads to more pain
• How loneliness, numbing, and pride keep us stuck for years
• The dangerous lie behind “I am the captain of my soul”
• What repentance, discipleship, and abiding in Christ really look like
• Why the church, broken as it is, is still God’s plan A for your healing

This is not a pep talk. This is a warning and an invitation. God will let you keep chasing your idols until they break you—or He will graciously burn them to the ground Himself so you can start over with Him at the center.

If you’ve been trying to lead your life on your own terms, it’s time to stop. Lay down your pride, pick up your Bible, plant yourself in a church, and let God rebuild you from the inside out.

Scriptures Referenced: Matthew 7:16–20, Luke 15:20, John 15:5, Proverbs 3:5–12, Galatians 5:22–23, James 2:19

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner and Jessica Kastner dive deep into the challenges of dating as a Christian after divorce, focusing on how to vet someone’s faith. In the digital age, where claiming "Christian" on dating apps is as easy as checking a box, how do you truly discern if someone's faith is genuine?

Through personal stories, practical advice, and Biblical insights, Todd and Jessica share how to recognize red flags, ask the right questions, and ensure that you're aligned with a partner who truly shares your Christian values. Tune in for tips on how to avoid heartbreak, spot empty claims, and find someone genuinely walking the same faith-filled path.

Key Topics Discussed:

• The challenge of defining "Christian" in the digital dating world
• How to vet faith early in the dating process
• Recognizing the difference between cultural Christianity and true faith
• How to discern the gospel and grace in a partner's life
• The importance of shared Biblical views and prayer in a relationship

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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After divorce, many women become strong because they had to—but that strength can harden into armor. In this powerful conversation, Todd Turner sits down with author Jessica Kastner to unpack why so many divorced Christian women struggle to shift from independence to intimacy.

They talk about masculine and feminine energy, Christian ideas of submission, the fear of losing yourself again, and the unspoken belief behind “I don’t need a man.”

This episode isn’t just about dating. It’s about healing. And how emotional safety with God is the first step to connection with anyone else.

Whether you’re a woman who’s been told to toughen up—or a man who’s been shut out by someone still healing—this is a conversation you won’t want to miss.

Bio:

Jessica Kastner is the co-host of the “Free Failing” podcast for divorced Christian women and author of Hiding from the Kids in My Prayer Closet. She writes regularly for sites like Crosswalk and Propel Women and holds Bible studies with adjudicated teens through Straight Ahead Ministries.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5ngQdnICFggc80wlpcQo5Y?si=SkvFwRfCR5CdxFYrfdGsHA

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/free-failing/id1810889178?i=1000710620514

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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What do we really lose when love ends? It’s not just the person. It’s your identity. Your purpose. Your future. Even your grocery list.

In this brutally honest episode of UnYoked, Todd Turner and author Marcus Ferris unpack the hidden grief that hits after a breakup or divorce. From shared memories and meaning, to purpose and neededness, this is the conversation most people wish they had years ago.

In this episode:

• Why grieving a breakup is more than emotional pain
• The lost virtue domain—and why Christian men especially feel it
• How to rebuild when the shared goals, friends, and rhythms vanish
• The danger of dating too soon (and what to do instead)
• Why men and women numb differently—and how to fight the real monster

If you’re single, divorced, or still reeling from the quiet fallout of a breakup, this episode is your mirror, your guide, and maybe even your elixir.

🟡 UnYoked is a podcast for Christian singles, empty nesters, and anyone rebuilding after loss.
🎧 Guest: Marcus Ferris | Mission 22, Coach, and Author

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Marcus Farris is an author, counselor, health coach, and Army Reserve officer. He currently works full-time for the veteran non-profit, Mission 22 as the Post Traumatic Growth Director. He joined their team in January 2020 after serving as an Engineer Officer in Alaska for four years. 

He has his undergraduate degree in Industrial and Systems Engineering and holds his Masters of Science degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. He is also a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach. 

Through his research, field testing, and writing, he now serves Veterans through healthy living programs and content creation.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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You deleted the apps. Then downloaded them again.

You say you’re waiting on God… but also hoping He sends someone cute. 😅
 If dating after divorce feels like a tug-of-war between loneliness and hope—you’re not alone.

In this bold, honest, and hilariously relatable episode, Todd Turner is joined by Texas realtor Denise Milliken to unpack:

• Why “getting back out there” might not mean you’re ready
• The actual difference between being lonely and being open
• Mistakes we make when dating too soon
• And why Christian women need more than just good advice—they need truth, grace, and courage

💔 This one’s raw. Real. And full of the stuff no one says out loud.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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You can’t build something healthy on top of something broken.

 But after divorce, that’s exactly what most of us try to do.
 We date before we’ve healed.
 We force peace before we’ve processed pain.
 And we expect a fresh start—without doing the hard work of letting go.

In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner sits down with Don to talk about what it really takes to get emotionally, spiritually, and relationally healthy after the divorce papers are signed.

Together they unpack:

• Why emotional health is the first step to peace—not a new relationship
• The dangers of rushing into dating or rebuilding before you're ready
• How to stop bleeding into your next chapter
• What real closure looks like when your ex has moved on
• How God uses seasons of solitude to reshape your identity

This conversation is raw, honest, and for anyone who's trying to heal while still hurting.

https://mycoachdawn.com/divorce-podcast/

Dawn’s Bio:

Dawn Wiggins became a marriage and family therapist because of her own experience as a child of divorce. About 10 years into her career, she thought: “This doesn’t work. This sucks.” At the same time, she became trained in EMDR. And that was a game changer. She saw her clients healing so much faster and more deliciously.

She expanded her practice to integrate multiple modalities from EMDR to EFT tapping, journaling, and energetic remedies for the mind and body—because you can’t heal one without healing the other. As a top-ranked therapist, she garnered a waiting list and top-secret “who’s who” clientele. But it’s her mission to deliver life-changing therapy in an accessible, scalable, affordable way and make waves in the world of mental health with the same enlightenment that happens in her office: part science, part essential oils, pure magic.

She helps people tear down their illusions with a candid approach that sometimes inspires frustration. Because being in reality can feel terrifying. Parts of you that you didn’t know existed reveal

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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One of the hardest parts of divorce isn’t signing papers—it’s the silence that follows. The empty evenings. The awkward solo weekends. The crushing sense that you're suddenly invisible.

In this episode of UnYoked, Todd Turner gets real about the loneliness that follows divorce—and how to break that cycle before it breaks you.

This isn't a pity party. It's a lifeline.

You’ll Hear:

• Why loneliness after divorce feels so intense
• How isolation tricks you into staying stuck
• First steps to reconnect with people—and with purpose
• A reminder: you're not broken. You're rebuilding.

If you're a single, empty-nester, or just tired of eating dinner alone, this one’s for you.

🟡 UnYoked is for Christian singles navigating life, faith, and freedom after divorce.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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Online dating after divorce can feel like emotional whiplash. One minute you're connecting, the next—ghosted. In this impromptu episode, Todd Turner shares a paradigm-shifting perspective: what if ghosting isn't about rejection, but about emotional readiness?

Drawing from a recent conversation and his own dating journey post-divorce, Todd introduces the powerful metaphor of the telescope and the microscope. When we’re hopeful, we look through a telescope—dreaming big. But when trauma resurfaces, we retreat to the microscope, focusing on survival and safety.

This episode is packed with real talk, grace-filled insight, and encouragement for anyone navigating the messy reality of healing, dating, and starting over.

Divorce is trauma, not just a legal status—and it reshapes how we see the world.

Ghosting often reflects emotional un-readiness, not cruelty.

We toggle between telescope (hope) and microscope (protection) as we heal.

You’re not broken for backing out of dating—you’re human.

Grace is essential—for yourself and for others still stuck in survival mode.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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What happens when the roles you built your life around suddenly disappear? In this raw and real episode, Todd Turner sits down with longtime friend and Texas real estate agent Denise Milliken to talk about life after divorce—from empty nesting to learning how to change toilets solo. Denise opens up about the quiet loneliness, the awkward holiday moments, and the hard work of building a life that feels like you. If you’ve ever wondered who you are without a partner, this episode will resonate.

🔹 Triggers of loneliness no one talks about
 🔹 “Boy work,” broken sinks, and building self-worth
 🔹 The truth about dating apps and independent women
 🔹 Why embracing your new identity is essential

This conversation aligns with Module 7 of the UnYoked Divorce Recovery Course, where we walk through how to release old labels and live fully in the identity God is forming in you.

In this conversation, Todd Turner and Denise Milliken explore the complexities of navigating life after divorce, focusing on the challenges of self-discovery, the impact of loneliness, and the dynamics of dating. They discuss the importance of personal growth and faith in recovery, as well as the expectations that come with modern dating. Through their candid dialogue, they emphasize the need for individuals to find their identity and embrace the journey of healing.

Denise Bio

I'm Denise Milliken, a real estate agent proudly serving the North Dallas area. I'm also a mom to three beautifully smart grown children—so yes, that technically makes me an empty nester... if I’d just get around to changing the locks.

I’m passionate about serving my community, especially when it comes to supporting our unhoused neighbors, who hold a special place in my heart. Outside of work, I love spending time with friends, jet skiing on the lake, and tackling DIY projects around my house—some more successful than others!

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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In this episode of the Unyoked Podcast, Todd Turner discusses the journey of recovering from divorce, emphasizing the emotional, spiritual, and practical aspects of healing. He outlines seven key struggles faced by individuals post-divorce, including the loss of friendships, navigating emotional chaos, readiness for dating, co-parenting challenges, rebuilding trust, empowering children, and embracing a new identity. Todd provides insights and tools to help listeners find their footing again and encourages them to seek healing and purpose beyond their divorce.

Takeaways

• Recovering from divorce involves emotional, spiritual, and practical healing.
• Losing friends is a common and painful experience after divorce.
• Understanding and navigating emotional chaos is crucial for recovery.
• Assessing readiness for dating is important before moving on.
• Co-parenting requires effective communication and consistent parenting rhythms.
• Rebuilding trust in oneself and others is essential after betrayal.
• Empowering children during a divorce helps them process the transition.
• Embracing a new identity is vital for moving forward after divorce.
• Divorce does not define you; healing and purpose are possible.
• Seeking professional help and support can aid in the recovery process.

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.