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Up Past Bedtime
By Bella MessinaSociety & Culture
Up Past Bedtime episodes
- The Friendship Audit ~ Ep 52
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It might be time to audit your friendships 👀♥️
We spend so much time evaluating our romantic relationships, careers, finances and habits… but when was the last time you really stopped and thought about the people you choose to surround yourself with?
This week, we’re talking friendship. The ones that fill your cup, the ones that quietly drain it, the ones you’ve outgrown, and the ones you probably need to hold onto a little tighter.
We’re unpacking friendship red flags, green flags, reciprocity, jealousy, boundaries, outgrowing people and the uncomfortable reality that sometimes we might be the friend who needs to do better.
Because a friendship audit isn’t about deciding who to cut off. It’s about asking yourself a much bigger question: who deserves access to the person I am today?
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
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Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
38 min - Trad Wives, Default Parents & The Dark Side of Motherhood ~ Ep 51
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From trad wife culture to the Lindsay Clancy trial, this week’s episode is a much bigger conversation about motherhood, unpaid labour, postpartum mental health and what it really means to be the default parent.
As someone who spent more than three years as a stay-at-home mum, once promoted a very traditional lifestyle, and later experienced severe postpartum depression, this is a deeply personal one. I’m unpacking the fantasy we sell around motherhood, the realities we often leave out, and why I think we need to start taking mothers seriously when they say they’re not okay.
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
58 min - AFTER DARK: The Petty Olympics ~ Ep 5
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Welcome to the Petty Olympics... where maturity takes a back seat and absolutely no one is leaving with a gold medal for emotional growth. 😂
In this week's After Dark episode, I'm reading out the pettiest, most unhinged (and honestly, hilarious) anonymous stories you sent in. From savage acts of revenge to wonderfully unnecessary levels of commitment, we're judging absolutely nobody... because let's be honest, we've all had our moments.
Pour yourself a drink, leave your morals at the door, and let's crown the Petty Olympic champions together.
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
24 min - August Life Update ~ Ep 50
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July felt like the closing chapter of a lot of really big seasons in my life. In this month's life update, I'm chatting honestly about where I'm at mentally now that the dust has started to settle, what's been feeling surprisingly hard, what's been getting easier, and how I'm navigating this next chapter.
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
37 min - My Barbie Dream Home: Let's Talk About It ~ Ep 49
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The Barbie Dream Home has become a bit of a character on my social media... but today, I wanted to take you behind the scenes of what buying and renovating my first home on my own has actually been like.
In this episode, I'm chatting about taking on my first mortgage as a single Mum, why DIY has become unexpectedly therapeutic, the mental and physical exhaustion of renovating, the pressure of sharing the process online, and all the behind-the-scenes bathroom drama that has seriously tested me over the last few weeks.
This house has become so much more than a renovation project. It's been a lesson in resilience, backing myself, and building a home that truly feels like me. ♥️
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
41 min - The Cost of My Divorce ~ Ep 48
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This week, we're talking about the cost of divorce... and I'm not talking about the dollar figure.
Now that my divorce is officially finalised, I've been reflecting on what it actually cost me over the last two years. The grief, the identity crisis, the anxiety, the shared custody, the friendships, the confidence, the future I thought I'd have, and everything in between.
Because while I can't legally discuss the financial details of my settlement or legal fees, I can talk about the hidden costs that nobody warns you about.
If you've ever been through a divorce, a breakup, or any kind of life that forced you to rebuild from scratch, I hope this episode makes you feel a little less alone.
And if you're in the thick of it right now, I hope it reminds you that while the cost is real... so is everything waiting for you on the other side. ♥️
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
41 min - 20 Things I'm Leaving in my 20s ~ Ep47
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If someone had asked me at 20 what my life would look like at 30... this definitely wouldn't have been my answer.
A few weeks into my thirties, I've realised something...
Turning 30 didn't feel like the end of anything. If anything, it felt like the beginning.
So before I get too comfortable in this new decade, I wanted to look back on the 20 things I consciously chose to leave behind in my twenties.
From people pleasing, comparison and perfectionism to making men the centre of my life, chasing productivity and waiting until I felt "ready"... this episode is all about the habits, beliefs and mindsets that no longer serve the woman I'm becoming.
My twenties gave me some of the highest highs and lowest lows. I became a wife, a Mum, a single Mum, a business owner, a homeowner and, somewhere amongst all of that, I slowly became someone I genuinely really like.
Whether you're in your twenties, thirties or beyond, I hope this episode encourages you to reflect on what you're ready to let go of, because sometimes the best way to step into a new chapter is by deciding what doesn't get to come with you. ♥️
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
28 min - Ep 502: 20 Things I'm Leaving in my 20s
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If someone had asked me at 20 what my life would look like at 30... this definitely wouldn't have been my answer.
A few weeks into my thirties, I've realised something...
Turning 30 didn't feel like the end of anything. If anything, it felt like the beginning.
So before I get too comfortable in this new decade, I wanted to look back on the 20 things I consciously chose to leave behind in my twenties.
From people pleasing, comparison and perfectionism to making men the centre of my life, chasing productivity and waiting until I felt "ready"... this episode is all about the habits, beliefs and mindsets that no longer serve the woman I'm becoming.
My twenties gave me some of the highest highs and lowest lows. I became a wife, a Mum, a single Mum, a business owner, a homeowner and, somewhere amongst all of that, I slowly became someone I genuinely really like.
Whether you're in your twenties, thirties or beyond, I hope this episode encourages you to reflect on what you're ready to let go of, because sometimes the best way to step into a new chapter is by deciding what doesn't get to come with you. ♥️
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
28 min - Where Have I Been?! ~ Ep46
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After a little time away... I'm finally back ♥️
And wow, there is A LOT to catch you up on.
In this life update episode, I'm sharing everything that's happened behind the scenes over the past few months. From buying my dream home and creating my very own podcast studio, to officially finalising my divorce, navigating burnout, and learning (sometimes the hard way) that rest isn't something you earn... it's something you need.
I'm so happy to be back... let's catch up!
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!
Contact us on the UPB Hotline:
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: [email protected]
Bella’s Socials:
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
34 min - S4 Ep15: Be Back Soon ♥️
UPB is getting a glow up... but that takes time. Thank you for being so patient with me. Love you forever and always xx
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About Up Past Bedtime
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Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats—the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 20-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/up-past-bedtime-messina/subscribe